C ONFLICTOS SOCIALES DESARROLLADOS EN MÁS DE UN DEPARTAMENTO

(Lichtenstein & Cassidy, 1991)

The majority of the following statements refer to your early childhood relationship with your mother (when you were approximately 3 to 8 years old). In most cases the principal caregiver referenced in the questions below refer to your mother. If someone else was the principal person responsible for your care in childhood, please respond to the questions which refer to "mother” with that person in mind.

A few of the questions have two parts. For example "when I caused trouble as a child I knew my mother would forgive me”. Some people might feel like they never caused trouble as a child, however, they consider their mothers very forgiving. How then do they answer? Only answer AGREE or STRONGLY AGREE if you agree with both parts of the statement. If you agree with only one part of the statement, answer NEUTRAL. If you disagree with both parts of the statement answer DISAGREE or STRONGLY

DISAGREE.

Please respond to the following questions by circling your response.

1. In childhood I felt like I was really treasured by my mother.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

2. In childhood I sometimes felt like my mother was really lonely when I was not with her.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 3. My mother was not very affectionate.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

4. When I was a young child and little things went wrong I did not feel sure I could count on my mother to take care of me.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

153 5. As a child I couldn’t stand being separated from my mother.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

6. My mother can make me feel really good but when she is not nice to me she can really tear me apart.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

7. In my family of origin we don't make a show of expressing our feelings. We prefer keeping feelings t o ourselves.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

8. Neither my mother nor myself are perfect but somehow we made it through my childhood.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 9. I remember when I was frightened as a child my mother holding me close. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

10. When I was a child my mother sometimes told me that if I was not good she would stop loving me.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

11. My mother is selfishly caught up in herself to the exclusion of everybody else. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 12. My family was not particularly intimate, but this has never bothered me. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

154 13. It's hard for me t o remember my early relationship with my mother in any detail. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY

DISAGREE AGREE

14. In childhood I sometimes felt that my mother and I were so alike that I didn't know where she ended and I began.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 15. If anything happened to my mother I wonder if I could survive it.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 16. I remember as a child feeling a desire to protect my mother.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

17. Even though I went through rough times with my mother during my childhood, somewhere along the line I managed to let go of the majority of those angry, hurt feelings.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 18. In childhood I knew I was low on my mother's priority list.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 19. My mother was an all-around excellent mother.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 20. No one gets under my skin like my mother.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

155 21. As a child I never thought separations from my parents were any big deal.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

22. I often felt responsible for my mother's welfare.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

23. In childhood my mother sometimes threatened to leave me or to send me away if I wasn't good.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 24. To this day my mother has no clue who I am or what I an all about. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

25. Even with all our past difficulties, I realize my mother did the best for me that she could.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 26. I have forgotten what most of my early childhood was like.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

27. I always knew my mother was there for me; no matter what I could depend on her. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY

DISAGREE AGREE

28. There are times when I feel like shaking my mother and saying "wake up and see me for who I am”.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

156 29. In childhood I often had the impression that my mother was not listening to me. She often tuned me out.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 30. During my childhood I sometimes felt like I was my mother's whole life. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

31. My mother and I are more accepting of each other’s differences than we have been in the past.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

32. When I was young I often feared something dreadful would happen to my mother or father.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

33. I remember my mother telling me that I didn't pay enough attention to her or love her enough.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

34. I often take my mother's opinions about me to heart and lose sight of my own opinions about myself.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 35. My mother is a real nag.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

36. My mother and I were so alike we often could finish each others sentences. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

157 37. I think people put too much emphasis on the mother/child relationship.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 38. I remember very little about my early childhood (ages three to seven). STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 39. The concept of the loving, supporting mother is pure myth.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

40. My relations with my mother has gone through major changes over the course of my childhood and adolescence.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

41. Even as an adult I sometimes feel like I will never dig myself out from under my mother's influence.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

42. As a child I sometimes got the feeling that without me my mother would have fallen apart.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 43. I couldn't have asked for a better mother.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

44. If my mother was not fair to me as a child I realize now it was because she was dealing with her own problems.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

158 45. If something really bad happened to me in childhood I did not feel I could count on my mother to support me.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

46. When I was a child I sometimes got the feeling that my mother wished I was never born.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

47. I remember when I was a child feeling scared that one or both of my parents would die unexpectedly.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 48. My mother can devastate me with her criticisms.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 49. In childhood my mother often told me she was sacrificing herself for me. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

50. I don't think my early childhood relationship with my mother has any significant influence on who I am today or my present relationships.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 51. My mother was always there for me when I needed her.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

52. When I acted bad as a child my mother would, at times, threaten to send me away. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY

159 53. I never felt like my mother gave me enough attention.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

54. For all our past problems my mother and I can still enjoy a good laugh together. STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY

DISAGREE AGREE

55. During my childhood my mother would often turn to me and tell me lots of things that upset and bothered her.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 56. In childhood I often worried about my mother's state of health.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 57. I find it difficult to remember my early childhood.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 58. My mother was a perfect mother.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE 59. My mother’s issues are still interfering with my life.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

60. When I think back to my early childhood experiences I discover things about myself and my parents that I've never considered before.

STRONGLY DISAGREE NEUTRAL AGREE STRONGLY DISAGREE AGREE

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