Objetivos Específicos

Just when you thought you were done with failure it’s time to look at a similar concept: rejection.

For a lot of people, rejection is worse than messing up, because it means that another person is actively judging them. *Gasps* all around.

Fear of rejection, though, is yet another mental block, holding you back from taking risks. It makes you freak out about how people perceive you, but you know what? It doesn’t really matter what other people think.

Personally, I’ve never been good at initiating conversation. I’ve gotten better, but I’m still not as comfortable as I’d like to be.

Despite being this type of person, I love it when people randomly talk to me. That other person has gotten over their fear of

rejection. They know that it’s actually very difficult to get rejected, despite what you may think in that worried head of yours. People don’t say “no” as much as you expect they might.

Today’s goal is to find yourself at least one native Japanese language partner to study with. Not all of them are going to be

are people looking to practice. You can even go over to Skype’s Japanese forums if you’re feeling adventurous.

Another good place to find language partners is Lang-8. Although you can and should post up journal entries asking for language partners, I also want you to message some people directly. We’re working on your fear of rejection, after all. Find 10-20 people who have corrected your posts in the past. Message them, being sure to thank them for their corrections, then ask them if they’d be willing to be your language partner. The goal should be to get around five different “yes” answers so you have plenty of people to practice with when/if some of them start flaking.

Also, this should illustrate that it’s not actually that hard to ask someone for something, making it easier to ask the next time.

You’ll certainly be rejected, or at least ignored, in this exercise, but I think you’ll find that it isn’t all that horrible an experience. The world won’t end, you won’t lose your home, and your bald eagle will still be healthy and majestic. So really, what is there to be afraid of?

I’m also a big fan of trying to get rejected as a sort of game, just like we did with failure. If you’re interested in this concept, you should check out the official Rejection Therapy game. It’s a real life game that makes you seek out rejection. By getting rejected, you gain more confidence in yourself and learn to push the

boundaries set up by society. Plus, you “win” the game. How cool is that?

For today, go out and seek the rejection of potential language partners. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the response you get, and if you fail, just figure out why, fix it, and try some more.

Our lives are overly complicated. You know how your

grandparents always said, “back in my day things were simpler”?

It’s kind of true. We have more stuff, and that’s not limited to physical things. Our computers are packed with movies, music, applications, and icons, all of which are distracting as well.

Basically, no matter where you turn, there’s things there, ready to distract you. Very unimportant things, and they are keeping you from studying Japanese at 100%.

I’m not saying you should become a minimalist, with a table and chair in the middle of a barren room, but there is something magical about getting rid of the stuff you don’t need.

Here’s some ideas:

• Old T-Shirts

• Books you don’t need

• Toys

• DVDs

• Unperishable food you won’t eat

• Boxes of old stuff you couldn’t bring yourself to give away (be strong!).

But this list isn’t limited to physical items. Digital content is distracting, too.

• Remove the bookmarks bar in your browser. This will make it harder to access all of your most distracting sites,

simplifying your options. You’ll be more likely to browse t the places you actually need to browse to.

• Clean your computer’s desktop. Covered with icons, it’s a lot like a messy room. Organize everything and put them where they belong. Once clean, you’ll feel relieved.

• Uninstall applications you don’t use anymore.

Although more extreme, consider reformatting your computer if you have the technical ability to do so. This will let you start from scratch, only reinstalling programs as you need them. This will show you what is truly useful.

Also, set you computer up for learning Japanese right away. For example, you could put the Anki icon front and center on your desktop, with nothing else around it. You could immediately install browser plugins like Rikaichan/Rikaikun. Also, make sure you add Japanese input support (Google’s Japanese IME is great).

If you’re really hardcore, set your computer to Japanese-mode

scratch, you get to decide who you are and what you do when you begin to rebuild.

So before you talk yourself out of it, go and box up the things you want to give away and don’t over-think it. Start your reformat.

Clean up. Make things pretty. You’ll need the extra energy and breathing room for tomorrow.

Day 24