Social Circle Seduction or Social Circle Game as it is sometimes called, is how you actually date and seduce the 9s and 10s in your social circle. In the last 4 parts I have taught you how to access the social circles that have the hottest women. Well now, you need to know what to do once you are actually around the girls
Mindsets
The main mindset shift you have to adopt is that THIS IS NOT COLD APPROACH. I sometimes will go weeks with out cold approaching, but will still sleep with 5-10 new women each month.
WITHOUT ACTUALLY APPROACHING
Cold approach is a fantastic skill set to have, but you have to understand that in social circle, the point is to create WARM APPROACHES.
These are approaches were the women are already viewing you in a positive frame, either because they know of you (via reputation), or they have had a chance to observe you in your environment.
The benefits of warm approach are so much more than cold approach. With warm approaches, there is virtually ZERO chance of rejection. You can also go straight into comfort or rapport building, and you can escalate a lot faster.
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So our aim is to always have warm approaches. Because of this, you can't use the same tactics as you would when you cold approach.
Tactics like:
"Blow me or Blow me out" Burning through sets
High risk / High reward openings Super Sexual Direct Opening
With Social circle, you want to tone things down a slight notch. The key here is DISCRETION and ABUNDANCE MENTALITY.
DISCRETION
The most important thing in seducing women in your social circle is discretion. High value women, the really beautiful 9s and 10s, do not always want their private sexual lives out in the open.
Especially when it's in regard with other men in the same social circle. Getting a reputation for being slutty or easy is a major worry for women. So in tight net social circles, women will be very aware of this, so remember DISCRETION is key.
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ABUNDANCE MENTALITYIf you follow the framework described in the previous 4 parts, you will never have to worry about women in your life again.
I mean seriously, you will have ACCESS to more women than you will know what to do with. Some of the guy's I have helped in this area, have gone from dating one or two girls a month, to going on multiple dates and hooking up with 5, 6 and sometimes up to 10 different girls a month.
I was actually talking to one of my recent students Alexander, and he told me some crazy stories he had in Columbia when he went there with a group of Brazilian models that were touring in Miami.
That story really made me smile, because I remember when I was with him in Miami and he met the Brazilians. He used my notorious ACCESS TECHNIQUE to meet the owner of the hotel they were staying at and got an introduction to the tour manager.
The rest was history.
So remember. There is NO NEED to rush things. You are going to have so many women at your fingertips that you shouldn't place too much importance on anyone interaction.
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Have the ABUNDANCE mentality that it's INEVITABLE that you are going to be meeting many beautiful women each week.
Inner Circle Girls and Outer Circle Girls
There are 2 main categories of women that you are going to meet in your social circle. These are the categories that we will be looking at in this report.
There are the girls who are in your direct social circle and there are girls that you will meet because of your social circle.
Girls in your Inner Circle are generally closer to you. You see them on a more regular basis, you have many shared experiences, and you are likely to have many friends in common.
Your tactics for seduction are very different with these girls than they are with the other type, which are girls in your Outer Circle.
Girls in your outer circle are girls that you do not actually know, but are likely to meet because of your social circle. For example if your social circle always goes to a particular nightclub, Women who also go to that nightclub but aren't actually part of your social circle fall into this category.
The main difference between the 2 categories is the level of involvement that the women have in your life. There are pros and cons to both, but you can't seduce both types of
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women in the same way, or you may run into problems.Girls in You Outer Circle
These are girls that you will meet because of your social circle. Because they are not in your inner circle you can afford to take more risks in your approach to dating and seducing these girls.
The approach to picking up girls in Social Circle settings is as follows:
1. Build Value
2. Open or Be opened 3. Build Rapport/Comfort 4. Escalate
5. Extract and Close
I have thoroughly tested this approach many times, and I have spent countless nights in nightclubs. Time and time again, this framework has been the most successful in seducing girls from your Outer Social Circle.
1. Building Value
This is the stage where the women get to observe you, your reputation, and your vibe. This is essentially the attraction phase. I've tried many different techniques, but the best way of generating a large amount of attraction and value, is letting the women observe you in your
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environment.You are trying to get one of the following things to happen: − Women start to give you Indicators of Interest (IOIs)
− Women give you proximity or start to appear in your vicinity
The beauty of having a social circle is that you can use it to build value and social proof. Your social circle can do the work for you.
Here are some techniques to use to build value.
Have fun with the girls in your social circle.
This is fantastic for demonstrating pre-selection. The idea is that the other women in the social scene see the women in your Inner Circle acting in a positive way towards you.
This starts to build attraction and value. Why?
What are most guys in the venue doing?
If you are at a nightclub, most guys are in all male groups, trying to pick up the women. Very few guys are there just having a good time with the girls that they are with.
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Inside the venue, me the birthday girl and her friends, were partying, dancing, laughing, being silly. Generally just having a good time.
About an hour into the night I was getting looks from girls on the tables and in groups next to us. I continued to ramp up the fun with the girls in my group, and the craziest thing happened.
Well it may seem crazy to you, but to me it's normal because I know the power of this technique for building value.
One of the most beautiful women in the club that night. Tall Norwegian brunette with a fantastic figure. Walks up to me taps me on the shoulder and says:
"So what's your name then?"
Having fun with the girls in your circle is a very powerful technique for building value.
Interact with the staff, management and owners
If you have conducted your social circle work properly, you should know some staff, management and possibly the owner. I'm going to put up some great resources on
http://www.socialcircletraining.com that outlines how to do this.
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What do you think goes through a woman's head when she see's the owner say hello to you?
Or the bar manager shaking your hand with a warm smile?
Or the hot waitress running up to you and giving you a massive hug?
These are all HUGE indications of status. High end Social Circles are very status driven, and it is easy to display status or high value.
There's a saying.
"Look like a millionaire whenever possible..."
Only VERY important people, have the owners, staff and management saying hello to them. By seeing this, the girl will group you into this category in her mind. When she does that, you are SUPER high value in her eyes.
This technique also works wonders at dinners, charity events, fashion shows, and premieres. Anywhere that girls in your outer circle can see you interacting with people in the venue who have social power.
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In these more formal social settings, this is the best way of building value. The other methods outlined are too overt.
Have fun with your male friends.
Sometimes your social circle will consist purely of like- minded cool guys. There are a number of different types of social circle, which I go into at length in the Social Circle Training Academy. A circle made up of cool guys where you all bring something to the group, is one of them.
In this case you can still build value in the venue. You do the same thing. Have fun and interact positively with your group. Laugh, dance, and enjoy each other’s company.
Most importantly, don't pay much attention to other people in the venue, especially not the girls. You must remember, what are all the other guy's in the club doing?
They're trying to pick up the girls, paying them attention, buying the women drinks etc. By being in your own group, and enjoying yourselves without paying too much attention to the women you will build value in their eyes.
2. Open or Be Opened
Having fun with your male friends Me and my guy group of friends. The DREAM TEAM as we like to call ourselves sometimes, we were celebrating one of the group getting a new job.
We went on a "guy's" night out. We booked a table at a nightclub, near the dance floor, but away from the main action. We were there to celebrate with each other not to pick up girls.
Half way through the night, we noticed that there were a lot of girls now in our area. Now remember, that we were away from the action. We did this on purpose so that we could have a night just to ourselves. We were getting multiple ioi's from women and many started to just APPEAR near us.
After talking to one of the girls, she said, that our group looked like so much fun, and such good friends. She said our vibe was great and her and her friends wanted to join us. I've seen this happen over and over again, and when I've asked my students to test this, they've had the same results.
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So the next is to decide whether you will open, or let the women open you. Everything you have done by "building value" was to either create a warm approach situation, or even better yet, have the girl open you.
Opening is fantastic, as it's easy to dictate the conversation and direction. Also, you're closing rate is higher when you open.
You miss 100% of the shots that you don't take.
But sometimes I like to be lazy. Because I know how powerful building value using your social circle can be, sometimes I like to just sit back and let the women come to me.
Both have advantages and disadvantages, and I guess it comes down to preference a lot of the time.
She Opens you
What's happening here? Let's flat out be honest, very few women ever open men. Especially the best-looking women. If a woman is opening you, it's a massive IOI and a very good sign.
Remember I told you of the tall Norwegian brunette stunner that opened me? By having lots of fun with the other girls in my circle and thus showing pre-selection, I was able to build value to anyone observing.
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Fun is infectious, and people always have their attention drawn to others who are having a good time. The Norwegian beauty was no different. And it will be no different for you if you are in the circles with the most beautiful women, and you are building value effectively.
Typical things she will say:
"So, what's your name then?" "And you are?"
"You look like fun."
"Why haven't you said hello to me yet?" (Hotter girls say this)
"Can I/we join you?" (More common when you're in a male only group)
Some women aren't as direct, and will make a SITUATIONAL comment, so it doesn't look like she's hitting on you.
Comments along the lines of:
"That's an interesting outfit/haircut/shoes." "What's the occasion?"
"Do you know where [bathroom/other bar/smoking area] is?" "Do you have a cigarette/lighter?"
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will open you in a slightly different manner. It's usually situational, or based on her observing your interactions with other high value people in the room.
"Hi, I'm [name], I see you have been talking to [person of social power]." "The food was delicious wasn't it?"
"What did you think of the speech?" "How long have you been a member?" and so on and so forth.
You Open Her
Pretty self explanatory. She's given you the green light by giving you IOIs. Strong IOIs are things like smiling with steady eye contact. Weaker IOIs are things like proximity and being in your space.
One thing to understand is that women are very aware of their surroundings.
Firstly, they have better peripheral vision than men. This has been found repeatedly in scientific testing. How that relates, is that women often see you, long before you see them. This means that if they make eye contact with you, chances are they want to.
Secondly, women are also very sensitive too personal space. Researchers did a test that looked at how close a stranger could sit next to someone before that person felt uncomfortable. For women, the distance was more than double that of a man. Again, this
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means that women are always very AWARE of who they're standing next to. They RARELY stand next to a man by accident. They usually mean it.
That being said, once you have received some IOIs, what are some things you can say? The stronger IOI the bolder you can be in your approach:
Openers to Strong IOIs:
"Wow you're stunning, I like x about you. What's your name?" "Your [ass, breasts, legs] are seriously sexy."
"You HAVE to come and join me and my friends."
"You CAN'T smile at me like that and not expect me to hit on you." "Right, you have definitely got my attention now."
"I had to come over here and meet you."
Openers to Weaker IOIs "So what's your name then?" "Hi, I'm [name]."
"You and your friends look like fun. What’s the occasion?" "So....do you come here often?"
Ok, that last one was a joke :), but you get what I mean. I like to be natural and say whatever comes into my head. Usually I'm quite direct, because that works with my personality. Have a play around, do whatever feels good to you and the situation.
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What I don't recommend is something indirect or too gamey, or something that aims to build value. You've ALREADY build value in her eyes if she is giving you IOIs before you approach. You are in a good position, so no need to go back a step. Be confident, be a man and just go for it.
3. Build Rapport / Comfort
This is really self explanatory, so I won't dwell on this too much. This is where you have a normal conversation with the girl. How much value you built, combined with the strength of the IOI will determine how long you spend in this phase. This is also the time that you ascertain her logistics. If you are attempting to seduce her that night, then you must know her logistics. Many times bad logistics will scuttle a potential hook up, so really get a handle on the girls situation early.
You have to make the girl feel comfortable around you. In social circle settings, this is essential. Social circles are a thing of trust. Think of them as like countries.
If you're going to a new country, they ask you to apply for a visa. This is so they can make a judgment about whether they want you in their country.
Women in social circle situations are the same. They have put themselves into a social circle or group because it is one that aligns with their utility. I talk a lot more about utilities and playing the utility game in the Social Circle Training Academy. Essentially they’re invested in
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the social group, and all social groups have ways of weeding out people who don't belong or can cause harm to the group.
Understanding social group dynamics is very important in getting a handle on your social life, and accessing the circles where the women that you desire are. Again, I go into this in much more length in The Academy.
So what does that mean to you?
Very simply, make her feel comfortable. Build rapport. Show her that you're not a psycho, and then move onto the next stage, which is escalation.
4. Escalation
This is where the fun begins. Ideally, you want to do this hand in hand with building rapport and comfort. I have tried a number of different methods, and so have my students. We all agree that the best results are when you combine the previous stage of rapport building, with escalation.
Mixing the 2 together can have some explosive results.
Remember at the very beginning where I talked about the importance of DISCRETION? Well in this phase, you will want to pay a lot of attention.
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Even though you can be bolder with girls in your outer circle, you must also remember that they may be at the social event with their own inner circle. They are not going to do anything that would jeopardise their position in their own social circle, or anything that could effect their reputation.
So you must escalate in a DISCRETE manner. Making out in full view of onlookers is out of the question. It can have a number of damaging consequences.
The very first thing you must do is ISOLATE.
Not just from her social circle, but from YOURS as well.
You want to do your escalation in small chunks, and in isolation
Your best bet is to be PLAYFUL. Especially if you are throwing in some sexual banter or conversation. Picking her up, lightly slapping her bum, being cheeky. You can be highly