PREAMBLE – PICKUP IN THE DEEPEST ABSTRACT. THE TRUE PUA.
A few months ago, in chat with TokyoPUA, the term “PU lab” was thrown around. TPUA advised me that I should ANCHOUR the feeling that the WORLD is my pickup EXPERIMENT LAB, and that THAT was the key to getting GOOD. It was funny, because that was something that I’d done for a long time, but hadn’t really been able to devise such a clean way of articulating it.
Of all the reactions that I get when meeting people from our internet chat group, the most common is an utter shock at how unhesitant I am to try ANYTHING that I think could be even moderately funny or useful. For me, trying something absolutely outrageous is EXCITING, not SCARY.
They say “TD, you are fucking CRAZY”.
WHY?
Because I live in, and project, my OWN REALITY. I am INTERNALLY centered, not EXTERNALLY centered.
Look at the PUA Mystery. The guy has been on the internet for years, but has barely absorbed one single damned thing that he didn’t invent himself. Of the few odd things from others that he DID absorb, he’s literally 100% CONVINCED that he made up HIMSELF. Certifiably DELUSIONAL.
And YET, this guy is the absolute pickup MASTER. Does he piss people off with that attitude??
YES. But who gives a fuck??? While everyone else is moaning and groaning, he’s busy busting his load on the face the latest covergirl(s) of Penthouse Magazine, or whatever flavour of the week it is this time..
So what’s the KEY to seeing the pickup game CLEARLY??? Existing in YOUR reality, and not the reality of OTHERS. Only then can you see things CLEARLY – make adjustments, calibrate, innovate, experiment, etc etc etc…
Think back to when the name TylerDurden FIRST appeared onto this internet chat board back in late August… People were all in a fuss, like “who the fuck IS this guy???” Threads were popping up left and right, like “how did you get this good???” FUNNY THING WAS, that I didn’t post
ANYTHING that was ANY better than what OTHER people were posting. My posts were AVERAGE at best. There was NO indication or statements from me that I was good. But many people ASSUMED success, because of my utter DISREGARD to the consequences of what was being posted. Note this, as most people intuitively associate people who are INTERNALLY CENTERED with SUCCESS.
When we’re fucking around on the internet, my homeboy EDDY and I post DUMB SHIT, like
“WHITE DRAGON”, and “we are THE SHIT”, and ‘ARGHHHHH”, because we think its FUNNY to see the dumb-ass REACTIONS of other people living in OUR reality. It’s not something that we ARTICULATE, or CONSCIOUSLY even realize that we’re doing. But rather, a CONSEQUENCE of the MENTALITY that we take with us EVERYWHERE that we go. It is not intentional, but the consequence of an overall ATTITUDE.
But why post my pickup notes onto the internet in such RAW form??? Why not adjust them in a way that will garner praise, like respected posters (Juggler, Formhandle, etc)??? It wouldn’t be hard. And everyone would approve. So why not, then???
Because for me, its FUNNY to see the REACTIONS. If all I got was “this is really great”, and none of the GOOD STUFF, then I would LOSE MOTIVATION. My ATTITUDE is carried over into my internet postings, the same way that it’s carried over into the REAL external world.
When people post funny shit like “this is just so outrageously out of line”, and “I’m so disgusted”, and “I’m so outraged at your arrogance” onto the INTERNET, we think its FUNNY SHIT, because you are EXTERNALLY CENTERED and living in OUR REALITY, even through the INTERNET.
While you are EMOTIONALLY BLOWN OVER, because you NEED TO GET YOUR REALITY BACK, we are UNAFFECTED. For a guy like Nerve1, for a recent example, that’s why he has to spend ALL DAY in discussions with Paps (a real life friend) about finding me (an internet text-projection on his computer monitor) and hurting me, and devoting his REAL LIFE time, sending some guy on the internet LENGTHY implied threat emails..
It’s not because I’m legitimately worth his TIME. Nor is “saving ASF”. It’s because UNTIL he does, he can NEVER get his fragile reality back. He is ENEMY CENTERED, and his existence is MAGGOT RIDDEN SHIT until he gets that EXTERNAL validation. And until he can let that go, and find himself internally, he is forever my BITCH.
For that reason I DEDICATE this latest material - COCKY as ever so as to remain true to expected form - to my BIGGEST FAN of all time, NERVE1, who I can only HOPE will draw
CONTROVERSY and ATTENTION to my posts with his grumblings, and thus provide me with some brief diversionary entertainment.
Because to the PUA firmly planted in his own reality, the shit-talking cocky posts will seem FUNNY.. “That guy sure talks alot of shit.. What a joker.. He seems like a fucking CHARACTER..
I’d love to hookup with that guy and wing some shit.. see what he’s really got”.. They see if for what it is truly worth – JACKSHIT. Just some dudes clowning around…. While to the
unsuccessful and frustrated PUA, the posts will seem “atrocious” and “arrogant”. They will become ANGERED and OUTRAGED at way that is REMINDS them of their own shortcomings, and their INABILITY to assert their OWN REALITY. The successful PUA has not the TIME nor ENERGY to do anything other than laugh and sift out anything useful, while the unsuccessful PUA has all too much time, to DWELL, and be REMINDED. The unsuccessful PUA is
COMPULSIVELY COMPELLED to spend their limited TIME and ENERGY fighting a battle that exists only in their own mind – all over the internet. Such is also the case with Ray Gordon.
Such people are like the lobbyists who get pissed off at EMINEM. They are not ABLE to see the HUMOUR in it, because their reality is so FRAGILE. And when Eminem comes back with “I am whatever you say I am” – adapting through escalating and enhancing the behaviour for which he’s criticized, the lobbyists are POWERLESS to put a stop to it.
He is ULTIMATELY ATTRACTIVE to women as a result, because despite his very average looks, he is INCORRIGIBLY internally centered.
And many of you will walk away having read this, INSPIRED, thinking that you can ACQUIRE or INTERNALIZE this reality-asserting internally-centered mentality into your essence.. However, this is both WRONG and IMPOSSIBLE.
You cannot INTERNALIZE this attitude, because it’s something that is ALREADY WITHIN YOU.
It’s something that is STIFLED and CONFINED by your PRIDE and your PERSONA. In order to get IN TOUCH with that which is WITHIN YOU ALREADY, you need to L-E-T == G-O of your ARTIFICIAL PERSONA that you have CREATED, and get to the true ESSENCE of what you are.
You cannot ACQUIRE this way of thinking. You can only LET GO of that which STIFLES it.
WHY the name TYLERDURDEN?? Is it because I want to think that I’m Brad Pitt??? NO. When I saw the movie “Fight Club”, I was INSPIRED. I finally UNDERSTOOD. I “GOT IT”. I realized that you have to LET GO of those things that are CONFINING you, in order to assert your OWN reality.
WATCH FIGHT CLUB, and UNDERSTAND the MESSAGE of the movie. See BEYOND its pop-culture flavour, and the cool shit that happens in the movie, and look at the UNDERLYING THEME.
PUA COMMANDER ZAP was asked “what do you do when a chick gives you a sarcastic
compliment?” He answered that you should STOP ANALYZING what it meant, and EXPLOIT the opener that the chick has provided. I read that, and I SNAPPED INSTANTLY. I UNDERSTOOD that I had to LET GO of my FALSE PRIDE, and finally come to a mental place where I could OBJECTIVELY analyze and understand the process of pickup. SO MANY TIMES I’d reacted to potentially sarcastic compliments by snubbing the chick, because I felt that I had to RETAIN my persona. What Commander Zap was suggesting, was to LET GO of that persona, and become TRULY disassociated with the social-layer that I’d created for myself. To IGNORE the possibility that the compliment was sarcastic, and to focus ONLY on the OBJECTIVE GOAL. What he suggested, was to become a TRUE PUA.
To LET GO of that social-persona that MUDDIES your perception of what is GOING ON during a pickup, is to come as close to OMNISCIENCE as you get in the endeavour.
It is the only way to GET GOOD, because it is the only state in which you will be FREE to focus critically on what is IMPORTANT during the pickup.
To STOP BELIEVING that the RESULT of the pickup experiment is a reflection of YOU as a PERSON, and to REALIZE that it is simply the reflection of the EXPERIMENT. To believe that there is NO CORRELATION between your personal-worth, and your GAME.
It is only THEN, that you can TRULY UNDERSTAND what is going on. ONLY THEN, can you actually SUCCUMB to the GENIUS that BURIED within you.
When you get to that point, when you don’t feel the SLIGHTEST nerves during a pickup. Your brain REVELS in the PROCESS of EMPLOYING the massive WEALTH OF KNOWLEDGE that you have acquired in your study of pickup. Your brain CYCLES the possible solution to every obstacle that you are faced with NO REGARD to the consequences that it will bear on your ARTIFICIAL PERSONA.
Your brain REVELS in the ELECTRICITY of the PROCESS. If arousal occurs, its because its part of what you know WORKS, and that the projection of your sexual state is OBJECTIVELY what you KNOW will work to attract. The sex becomes nothing more than the VALIDATION of your excellence. A FRINGE BENEFIT, that is a PATHETIC SHADOW of the fact that your very act is CONFIRMING the TRUE CONNECTION that you have with your true CORE-SELF. And later, as you enjoy the sex with this new person, you give into the ANIMALISTIC LUST that is a NATURAL part of you as well.
THAT is the ADDICTION that is pickup. The SATURATION of your conscious self, into your purest ESSENCE.
Not FEEDING the fake PERSONA that you’ve created as a self-defense from the external world.
The connection that is established, between yourself and your surroundings. The FEELING that you get, when you can undergo the process of pickup, and NOT CARE about the outcome of the EXPERIMENT. It REMINDS you of how far you’ve come in your personal development – and the feeling is LIBERATING, in a similar way to SKYDIVING, or any other LIFE CONFIRMING activity.
The tactics and techniques are only there to help you FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT. They MODEL and FAKE the sorts of things that the purely CHARISMATIC people would say NATURALLY.
Because it is the ability to WALK AWAY from ANY chick, that is ULTIMATELY ATTRACTIVE.
Tactics such as NEGS are meant to MODEL the individual who is master of their reality, because they CONVEY such characteristics. NEGS are “FAKE IT UNTIL YOU MAKE IT” tactics.
This is why the PUA GUNWITCH becomes infuriated with the over-analysis that we ASFers participate in. He cannot GRASP why people would focus on something that is NOT natural. He makes the analogy of a vitamin pill not being a supplement for a REAL fruit, because the NATURAL properties are not carried over into the pill. He strives to get in touch with that NATURAL essence that we all have, by TAPPING our NATURAL sexual state, and projecting it.
He advocates WILLPOWER.
Get IN TOUCH with your natural essence, and those techniques that are necessary for pickup will happen naturally, on their own.
Perhaps Gunwitch and I advocate the SAME. Perhaps we only differ in our UNDERSTANDINGS and APPROACH to the SAME eventual goal. We advocate different ROUTES to the same
DESTINATION. He advocates WILLPOWER. I advocate learning to fake success with techniques, and getting experience under your belt, until you can NATURALLY do what needs to be done WITHOUT them.
This is the UNDERLYING MESSAGE that TokyoPUA endeavours to SUM UP so succinctly when he tells us to ANCHOUR the idea that the world is our PICKUP LABORATORY.
CELEBRATE YOUR REALITY. MODEL those people who are EXAMPLES. Look at EDDY. Look at MYSTERY. Look at TWENTYSIX.
When EDDY posts “ARGHHHHH”, WHY is it FUNNY to him???
When MYSTERY peacocks himself to the point of SHEER OUTRAGEOUSNESS, WHAT is the purpose??? WHAT does such EXTREME peacocking CONVEY???
When TWENTYSIX puts out a site called www.extramask.com, WHAT is the humour in it for him??? LOOK at the site. What is it about that site that is FUNNY???
These are the MANIFESTATIONS of people who ASSERT their OWN REALITY.
www.extramask.com is Twentysix’ CELEBRATION of his OWN REALITY. It is FUNNY, because as you delve deeper into the site, you journey DEEPER and DEEPER into a reality NOT YOUR OWN. For people whose reality is easily PLUCKED from them, they will be APPALED by the site.
They will condemn it as attention-getting TRASH, and SNEER at it. But for people who are FIRMLY in their OWN reality, they will REVEL in the JOURNEY that Twentysix’ pure
unmediated INSANITY brings them on. As you read more and more, and listen, and watch, you become SATURATED in Twentysix’s BIZARRE REALITY. It isn’t the weird humour that is the draw of the site. It’s the JOURNEY that it takes you on. The confrontation of the sheer
ABSURDITY. For those SECURE in their own reality, there is no FEAR that they won’t be able to find their way back to their own place. They can APPRECIATE the site. But for those people whose minds are so easily TAMPERED with, whose realities are so easily OVERTAKEN, the site is condemned as TRASH.
Twentysix KNOWS that people will react a certain way. Eddy KNOWS that people will wonder WTF he’s doing when he says ARGHHHH non-stop. Mystery KNOWS that people will react in bizarre ways when he peacocks. These are CELEBRATIONS of their REALITY. Their UTTER DISREGARD of the fucked up reactions, the judgements, and the social consequences, is their CONSTANT REMINDER of their own ASSERTION that they alone EXIST. They EMBRACE the ABSURDITY of social constraints, and TRANSCEND them. Because every time that an external agent reacts negatively to their actions, and they are reminded that they DO NOT CARE, they experience the RUSH of the CONFIRMATION that they TRANSCEND all social constraints. They are thus both FEARED and ADMIRED - CRITICIZED and APPLAUDED.
RESEARCH and DISCOVER great men like the late PIERRE TRUDEAU and WINSTON
CHURCHILL and John F Kennedy. See how they were universally FEARED and ADMIRED, even by those who hold absolute disdain towards their actual policies and ideas. How did women react to Pierre Trudeau??? Look at his pictures, and imagine him as SHY and INTROVERTED. Would he still BE Pierre Trudeau??? Would he still be one of the historically greatest PUAs that ever lived???
MORE IMPORTANTLY, would he FOCUS on pickup techniques, or focus on HIS OWN REALITY, and have women as one of the FRINGE BENEFITS???
This is what is ULTIMATELY SEDUCTIVE to ALL people, and of particular interest in this forum – to WOMEN.
This is WHY ASF has ceased focusing on developing SS-based approaches. Because we strive to ATTRACT women with the INTENSITY of the JOURNEY that we give her, into OUR reality.
And during that journey, she becomes so ATTRACTED, that she CRAVES to CONNECT with the
reality that you project upon her. She may begin by asking “what’s your name?”, and does EVERYTHING in her power to FIND OUT if she can CONNECT. But we don’t give it away so EASILY. We make her WORK. And it UNRAVELS in front of her, as she is lead to believe that she has EARNED it. And that which she has so strenuously EARNED, she does NOT FOREGO.
I watch, in amazement, as Mystery enters the room. The crowd’s attention shifts. People are alarmed.. intrigued.. fascinated.. angered....
They can NOT snub him as he approaches, because they must FIND OUT ---> WHO – IS – THIS – GUY - ???
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OK, one of the most COMMON experiences that someone who is undertaking the goal of
becoming a PUA will face, is the harsh realization of just HOW FAR you are of your actual GOAL.
THE PUA TRANSITION PROCESS:
-learning to give intense EC to a chick -learning to initiate a chat
-learning to initiate a chat without pissing your pants -learning to ask for a #
-realizing that those are flakes, and pinpointing why
-learning to correct that, through projecting value onto yourself
-learning to EXPLOIT the interest that you generate by structuring future interactions -learning to phase shift, and close during the first interaction, or during the ‘get-together’
-learning to disarm LMR
You read ASF. You start giving chicks a bunch of eye-contact. You learn to chat girls for 2 seconds.
You learn to chat girls for 5-10 minutes. You learn to ask them for their #. You get it. You’re ESTATIC. But then you realize that these #s are FLAKES.
DAMN, that part SUCKS. I fucking HATED that shit. I remember the first girl I got a # from, I got one-itis for SO FUCKING BAD that my heart pounded through my chest when I called her. I remember sitting in my backyard of my country house, staring over the open field, thinking how I should just RELAX, and that no matter what happened, I’d still be me, and I’d still have my whole life ahead of me, etc etc etc..
She called me back a week later and told me that she had a boyfriend, but would still go out with me.. WTF??? I just KNEW that this chick had probably chatted ALL WEEK to her friends about how she should get out of this fishy ‘get-together’ that she’d agreed to. Here I thought that this chick was a potential FUTURE WIFE, and all that she thought of me was like basically what I thought of fat chicks who had tried to hover around me in the past. HOW could she not FEEL the CONNECTION that we had????
The thing was, that I had CREATED this connection in my own MIND. Despite having found ASF, I still had retained the BELIEF that there was a girl out there for me, and that I wouldn’t need to
The thing was, that I had CREATED this connection in my own MIND. Despite having found ASF, I still had retained the BELIEF that there was a girl out there for me, and that I wouldn’t need to