History of Sex
Practiced as far back as 6,500 BC in the goddess-revering cultures of the Middle East and Old Europe, hieros gamos was a sex ritual, in which the Sumerian king and high priestess engaged in intercourse as the local populace watched and cheered. This public ceremony was believed to bring prosperity to the people of Sumer. The Sumerians believed that when the king performed the rite of hieros gamos with the high priestess, he would become infused with strength of the goddess Inanna. This empowered the king to better protect his people from invaders and to bring riches and good crops to the land.
There is no more beautiful depiction of hieros gamos than [ital] The Hymn to Inanna [ital], ancient Sumerian verses that are at turns raw, profound, erotic and inspiring. In this epic love story, Inanna, the Sumerian Goddess of Love, falls in love with and beds the mythical God King, Dumuzi, who becomes her consort for life.
Inanna: My vulva, the horn, The boat of heaven,
Is full of eagerness like the young moon. My untilled land lies fallow
As for me, Inanna,
Who will plow my vulva? Who will plow my wet ground?
Dumuzi: Great lady, the king will plow your vulva. Inanna: Your fullness is my delight.
Hieros Gamos, Make It Your Own
Creating your own modern-day adaptation of hieros gamos gives you the chance to discover the powerful lover in you and to unleash sexual potential that you never knew you had. You can make hieros gamos your own by setting up a royal bed where you and your lover take on the roles of high priestess and king for an ecstatic and unbelievable fertile coupling.
Embody Your Roles as High Sex Priestess and Sex King
For your enactment of this ritual, you may want to wear something resembling the white robes the high priestess and king wore in ancient times. For a woman, a simple, white silk or organic cotton nightgown may help you embrace your role as the priestess. For a man, white pajamas in silk or cotton may make you feel regal. But don’t just wear your roles on your sleeves. Try to embody the character of a high priestess or king to make this ritual more passionately arousing. It’s this sense of earthly and mysterious power that will encourage you to make love beyond ordinary boundaries.
Prepare Your Royal Bed
Preparing a special bed together for this ritual can be very inspiring. Be open-minded about where you set up your bed—it doesn’t have to be in the bedroom. Ideally, set up your bed in an area of your home where you can gaze out the window at nature, or move it outside altogether to make love on the fertile earth. Spread a flat sheet so the edges lie beyond the boundaries of the bed and adorn it with beautiful natural elements—seasonal wildflowers, flower petals, shells, pine straw or fruits—to represent the bed’s fertility.
Create A Fertility Wish
Come together before the ritual begins and decide on a single wish for your enactment of hieros gamos. Focus on one aspect of your relationship or life that deserves more
abundant fertility. Have fun coming up with a wish that you both want to fertilize. For instance:
• “May this ceremony rejuvenate our enthusiasm for sexual experimentation with each other.”
• “May this sex ritual fuel our passions and reward us with …” (Place whatever your wish is here, such as more love, better health, more abundance, more fun, a great year ahead, etc.)
Make Powerful Love
Kneel face-to-face with your lover on your royal bed and admire each other. Begin to kiss each other, slowly at first and then more passionately. Appreciate each other’s features as you let your hands roam over each other’s faces, necks and bodies. Undress your lover, letting the sight of their nude body ignite your desire. When you both become completely aroused, unite as powerful equals in fiery face-to-face coitus.
Men, kneel before your priestess as she lies on her back with her legs pressed straight up against your chest and her feet near your neck. This way, you can offer heavenly caresses and sizzling kisses on her legs, her feet and her toes to heighten her sensations. She can run her hands up and down your body, clasping your back and reaching boldly for your buttocks to guide you into her vulva. This position also offers exciting sensory
body as you take in the sights and sounds of nature around you.
To prolong your lovemaking, take a break from intercourse and shift her hips up higher so you can delight your priestess with oral pleasure. Women, wrap your thighs around his neck as he delves his tongue into your vagina then licks it up toward your clitoris. Men, try the following exciting oral technique to bring her to the brink of orgasm. Press your tongue against her clitoris and maintain constant pressure on it while you nod your head up and down and then shake it from side to side. Keep alternating nodding and shaking your head to drive her wild.
When you notice her thighs start to quiver, shift her hips back down the front of your body so you can resume intercourse. Instead of engaging in your typical hard-thrusting penetration, move your pelvises together with intense passion to produce sexual heat. Here’s how. Women, shift your hips from side-to-side as if you were doing a hula dance, and men, rotate your hips in slow sexy circles. As you both gyrate your hips in this stimulating combination, it generates exciting friction for him and can create reoccurring contact with her G-spot, which can lead to a thrilling orgasm for you both.
If creating your fertile wish like the ancient Sumerians is truly your goal, hold each other’s gaze, creating a stronger connection as you sensually move your pelvises in aroused unison. As you build your sexual juiciness together, focus on your purpose. Circulate your pelvis and imagine that your purpose is being stirred into a potent compound between the two of you as you get hotter and hotter. As you reach a
heightened state of arousal, breathe in deeply concentrating intently on your fertile wish. Then exhale, breathing out your fertile wish through your body, into your lover and out to the divine universe with faith that your powerful, ritualistic lovemaking will help make
your wish come true.
Their Heiros Gamos Story
Melanie yearned for a stronger, more intimate connection with her husband Jonathan. Every time Melanie and Jonathan engaged in sexual activity, Melanie found that
Jonathan’s eyes were closed, making Melanie feel like he was hard to reach. Melanie felt this might have something to do with his concerns about providing for the family
financially. Melanie discussed her feelings with Jonathan, and he agreed that he hadn’t been giving everything possible to their sex life and that his absence dampened the experience. It was time for each of them to step up as lovers. They agreed to try the hieros gamos ritual.
In performing this sacred rite, Jonathan and Melanie used an abundance wish for bringing forth financial wellbeing. They made love with wild excitement to create financial
fertility in their life together. After the ritual, they both felt lighter, playful and much more fulfilled. Jonathan had brought all of himself (even his financial concerns) to their intimate encounter. Melanie felt that she finally had the closeness she had wanted all along with her lover.