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Now you have an idea of who you want to be in your kinky sex play, and a few ideas about your delightfully wicked sexual motivations. But how are you going to make your roles work, without feeling dorky or having your office sex scenario turn into a dud?

Sex play with roles or desired actions requires context. As in, sure he's playing a cop, but what is he doing as a cop? Context for your roles means that circumstances and events create the support for your role.

A man can play the repairman, but he's just going to fix the sink and leave unless the housewife reveals that she's too broke to pay the bill -- putting the repairman in a position of power.

Developing your roles and giving them context gives your encounter meaning. A spanking is ordinary (or even silly) if you just do it. But it can be ultra-erotic when you make it a punishment, and someone makes it happen because someone else behaved badly. Then the whole thing turns you both on to the point of embarrassment, and

beyond, until the one in charge has to take control. That's context, and in role-playing sex, it's absolutely divine.

An outfit or a particular piece of clothing may be all you two need to get your motors running into overdrive. But then what happens? One of you has to do something with that object or uniform, and done right, you'll both have a hot, memorable encounter.

Context

Generally, context falls into two categories: a do-er and a recipient, to

varying degrees. One person takes the lead, takes control, acts, calls the shots, initiates the sex play, or is in control of everything. The recipient receives the action, follows the leader, lets the other person make the decisions about what happens first (or next), is submissive, or watches the scene unfold.

When you let the other person take control, you are not necessarily submissive. When you make a decision about what you both will do next, you are not necessarily the dominant. But for some people, being in a submissive role is a turn-on, while others will find that taking

charge gives them an erotic charge.

Role-reversal makes for riveting adventures, creating a scene where one starts out as a submissive but turns the tables on an authority figure -- or someone in charge winds up in a helpless situation. You have a choice about who has power when it comes to role-play. You can establish power roles and keep them throughout the scenario, or you can agree on a dramatic event in your role-play where the tables are turned, and the submissive (playing a momentarily submissive role) becomes dominant.

For instance, let's say a man loves being dominant but knows he wants a spanking, yet he doesn't like being in a submissive role. He can be a stern teacher to his girlfriend's naughty schoolgirl role, and she defies his authority to gives him what he's got coming. And it's about time!

Active Roles

Being in control means you're in charge, to whatever degree suits you the best. You may find yourself drawn to just being in charge of the sexual interaction, calling the shots step-by-step, a little or a lot. You might be attracted to the position of a full-on dominant who likes verbal and psychological control, telling your lover to perform for you, rub your

feet, give you head, or just bend over. This mode of dominance, without pain or physical punishment, lends itself easily to character-driven role play, where you play boss to a secretary, teacher to student, corporal to cadet, blogger to a journalist, and so on.

And to put being in control into context for sex play, you have a variety of personas, roles and guises to choose from. The scenes can be steamy and complex when you play authority or older figures that demand compromising and sexual favors from whoever's in the submissive role. Imagine the possibilities of dominatrix and businessman, manager and employee, lawyer and blogger.

Does the title Master or Mistress suit you? Your persona may revolve around more than the role you play, especially if you find the idea of erotic punishment exciting. In this role you'll treat your submissive as owned property, give them pain, use punishment as a behavioral tool, and you'll be the absolute authority in role-playing scenes. If you're a newcomer in this role, you'll want to learn techniques for bondage and discipline, rope and whip skills, and further study into negotiation and scene dynamics (see the resources chapter for books and videos).

Ideas for Control Roles

Yourself (in daily life or role at work), master, mistress, dominatrix, millionaire, sex worker client, sex worker, teacher, headmistress, general, femme fatale, criminal mastermind, corporate CEO, police, FBI, kidnapper, jailer, animal trainer, doctor, nurse, sleazy

pornographer, boss or manager, judge, babysitter, politician, VC, IT, older sibling, daddy or mommy, biker, football captain, coach, pimp, clergy, rock star, producer.

Receptive Roles

Would you feel more comfortable -- or more turned on -- when

someone else calls the shots? When you want to give someone else control, there are lots of roles that'll ignite your desires. Being in a submissive role doesn’t mean you have to be a masochist. You might get a thrill out of being a love slave, providing anything from foot rubs to oral sex, and more. You could be the silent handmaiden

administering to his or her every need, in any costume or role you like, or you can be a sex toy that gets used and discarded. That is, until you're needed for further use.

You can be a slave in the literal sense, ever-obedient in collar and slave attire, or you can be subtly owned; "forced" to go without panties or boxers in public, while in private you become your sweetie's

serviceable love doll in garters and lace (or nothing at all).

Of course, being in the receiving role lends itself especially well to erotic punishment. So if a receiving well-deserved spanking, a lavish erotic whipping, or a down and dirty forced sex scene turns you on, this is definitely the type of role for you.

Make sure you know exactly what it is you physically want to have happen to you before you begin. Be clear that you want a caning, clothespins, spanking, being pushed around, a riding crop or your hairbrush. Be equally clear about what you don't want, such as no face-slapping, harsh words, whips, hot wax, or anything else you don’t want -- this way, everyone's happy!

If you play with pain, make sure you have a safe word or agreed-upon signal that says, "stop." I recommend that you avoid falling back on the word "no" and save it for playful protest! Use a word or signal that is out of the ordinary, and when someone uses it, simply switch activities.

Popular choices are stoplight colors: red (for stop now), yellow (for less, please) and green (for more).

Don’t let the classic stereotypes limit your imagination! You don't have to be bad to get the spanking you deserve, and you don't have to be a slave to become their living sex toy. Just as submissive roles lend themselves easily to spankings, punishments, humiliations, whippings and more, dominant roles that become submissive (such as the

haughty librarian being spanked) make for red-hot fantasies.

Ideas for Receptive Roles

Slave, submissive (as yourself or your real-life work role), secretary, employee, maid, butler, schoolgirl/boy, criminal, cheerleader, retail slave, Fox News anchor, nurse, victim, patient, military subordinate, prostitute, sex worker client, masseuse, altar boy/girl, housewife,

website admin, unsuspecting husband, groupie, "innocent" passer-by, human pet (pony, dog, cat), opposite gender.

Role-Playing the Opposite Sex

Have you ever wondered what it was like to have sex as the opposite gender? Or maybe just trying something new, such as a guy wanting to squeeze his erection into your panties, or if you put on his boxers and a white undershirt, just for sex play. Having sex while in the clothes, or adopting the mannerisms, of the other gender is hot, hot, hot.

Probably everyone has tried something like this at one time or another, and most have wondered what it's like to switch roles, whether a little or a lot. For some, trying these ideas with a lover is one of their

number-one fantasies.

Playing around with gender might be something you've contemplated once or twice, as a fun new idea. It could be a fantasy that is so

intense that you (or your lover) consider it sort of a sexual and

emotional "home" -- familiar, reliable and sublime. Gender play can be as light and simple as a him wearing your lipstick, or as intense as a you undergoing a full transformation to effectively pass as a man, with no makeup, strap-on dildo and men's clothes.

Don’t worry -- playing with gender is what you make it. For some, gender play is frightening, identity challenging, and uncomfortable.

Others don't see it that way at all, because for most it's another playful sex game to share with an adventurous lover. Meanwhile, others

embrace the challenges to their sexual identity, allowing gender

transformations to shape their sexual identities into configurations that are much more comfortable for them than their original manifestations.

Just because you both think Eddie Izzard is sexy doesn’t mean your sexual identity is going to change. A hot bout of sex while he wears your lipstick doesn’t mean he'll have to wear the lipstick every time you want hot sex. Wearing the clothing and adopting the mannerisms of the opposite sex does not make you into the opposite sex, doesn’t make you a transsexual or transgender, will not make you gay or lesbian, or change who you are attracted to, or how you sexually identify.

It will also not show you (or your lover) what it's really like to be the opposite sex. Again, it does not mean you are transsexual or

transgender, though for those individuals it might be the first step toward feeling comfortable with who they really are.

If your lover wants to cross-dress for sex, and it's a new idea that takes you by surprise, suspend your judgment and ask them what turns them on about it. And be sure to find out how you can heighten the

experience for them. You might find that "playing lesbian" with your boyfriend -- or sex play as two gay men -- is a total turn-on. If the idea upsets you, tell them as gently as you can and explain why, if possible.

Remember that this was a scary thing for them to ask for. It may be that you've always wanted to see them dress and treat you as a lesbian might. But if you're asking him to wear your panties, keep in mind that your request may be confusing to him as well. He might

wonder if you want to simply sleep with a woman, which is not the case at all. Light gender play isn't the wish to be or become something

you're not; it's to have the best of both worlds in your bed.

Cross Dressing How-To's

Dressing for gender play is all about what's hot for you -- you might want to "go all the way" or you might want to play around with in-between measures, like boys in skirts and eyeliner, but no other feminine signifiers. Same goes for you; he might get hard thinking about you in his clothes, but a strap-on might be going too far (or vice-versa: some men like girls in strap-ons as long as they remain

distinctly feminine). How about a strap-on, lipstick and heels?

Gender play for you might include a man's uniform, male sports outfit, business suit, tool belt, a biker outfit, jeans and wife-beater t-shirt, his underwear, or any attire that is considered masculine and sexy.

Makeup can be light, none, or heavy depending on how you're playing (simple lipstick is common); add slicked-back hair, suspenders, men's underwear, stuffed jock strap, tie and hat, dress shoes or boots.

For realistic details, false facial hair can be worn, you can be braless, or your breasts can be bound down with an Ace bandage, and a strap-on can be worn. For a realistic bulge, get a good quality harness and a dildo that is either suitable for "packing" (a softie), or a firmer model to be used for penetration or receiving fellatio. Ask yourself, is your strap-on for sexual functistrap-on, or gender play, or both?

He can wear your panties, a bra, stretchy slip, and foundation wear such as corsets, stockings, lingerie. Your shoes won't fit, but high heels can certainly be found in larger sizes. Yes, it's unfair how tall he is in heels. He can try skirts, dresses, gowns, wigs, makeup, lipstick, eyeliner, barrettes, false eyelashes, anything that sounds erotically appealing and that will complete the experience.

For realism, he can add perfume, lotions, nail polish, even shaving his underarms and legs, in addition to the technique of "tucking" the penis and testicles flat to the body to minimize the bulge (though for some guys the bulge under his skirt is a huge turn-on). Bras can be stuffed with whatever's handy, or prosthesis can be purchased.

You can create any type of role-playing scene you like, combining characters and gender in any way the turns you on. Or, gender play can be a sexual "punishment," where one partner is mock-forced into drag. Also, one of you can be "caught" trying on lipstick, boxer shorts, or anything else that sounds fun. Be playful and imaginative in your scenarios.

Cross Dress Roles

You (as yourselves) trying lipstick (or getting caught trying something that belongs to the other), or any gender-appropriate roles that

heighten the effect you're trying to achieve. For instance, if he's cross-dressing, he can be a maid, schoolgirl, housewife, nurse, nun -- you name it, as long as it's feminine. You can play as yourself to his feminine role; or the role's counterpart, such as a butler, man of the house, repairman, construction worker, doctor, pool boy, etc. Or you can choose a masculine role while he plays himself, situations perfect for mock man-on-man play between the two of you.

Roles With Age Differences

Naughty schoolgirls, anyone? Hey, it's a cliché for a good reason. Sex play with age differences is a very common fantasy, and it's pretty much predictable anywhere in the world to walk into a strip club and see dancers dressed in adult schoolgirl attire. Age difference roles are fun for adults because they allow us to play around with sexual

initiation fantasies.

He can pretend to be a young inexperienced man, while you are the woman that "shows him how." Or, you're the naughty vixen who drives her male teacher over the brink with sexual frustration. You can even both play younger roles, where you both are sexually inexperienced and explore each other's bodies as if for the first time.

Age play fantasies can be misunderstood. It's a fantasy whose roots may be disturbing for people who confuse fantasy with reality. Role-playing where one partner is much younger than the other does not mean that either person actually, truly eroticizes young people. Those who molest children, do so. Criminals do not have anything to do with people who ask their girlfriends to pretend to be the older, sexually experienced babysitter, or women who dress in school uniforms to play act with their boyfriends. And that stripper in plaid has to be old enough to work at the club.

Sometimes these fantasies can, however, bring up powerful issues for the consenting adults who enjoy them. While playing "daddy's little girl"

you might afterward feel uncomfortable with the associations,

memories of past abuse, or personal meanings the fantasy brings up.

Sexual fantasies are powerful because their roots in our subconscious and the oft-mysterious working of our libido.

If you find that your age (or gender) role play scenarios wake up

memories or feelings that disturb you or your lover, read about taking

steps toward sexual healing in Staci Haines' book Healing Sex.

Most people are just fine with the hot results from age play scenarios.

Pretending to be inexperienced youth opposite experienced older

lovers can be a turn-on like no other. Here are some ideas for age play roles and scenes:

Young roles allow us to be coy, innocent, bratty, curious, naughty, in need of discipline, protection or tenderness. Boys and girls get

spanked, groomed, dressed up (or undressed), taught the facts of life, are seduced by older figures such as teachers, babysitters, strangers, friend's moms or dads. Or even more taboo is to play family members, authority figures or clergy. They get to be "taken care of," and the

feeling of not having to be in control is a blissful and incredibly arousing release from daily responsibilities for many.

Playing older roles to your "younger" lover is a delightfully dirty way to lavish attention on your sweetie, and appeals to the naughty authority figure in all of us. Playing the seducer (though occasionally the one seduced or overtaken), the role allows you to be the "experienced"

one, giving erotic instruction, calling the shots, and enjoying the make-believe of exploring an unfamiliar body. The scene may be intense, heated and unbelievably arousing, or can verge on hilarity as your lover claims to have "never done that before!"

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