While money does not buy total happiness, it can contribute to it. Money can be our best or worst friend. Today, money might offer us a throne and crown; tomorrow, we might hit rock bottom.
In Family Constellations, financial issues are one of my clients’ top concerns. Usually, they come to understand their financial loss or lack. The root of the issue is generally the same: the family has not recognized someone in the family system who died young or the family survived a painful event – war, famine, natural disaster and so on - and feels guilty about it.
By avoiding this recognition, we increase our chances of experiencing financial rollercoasters. We can be very wealthy for a few years and then experience a disastrous financial situation. We may reach out, succeed and then lose it all.
Feeling guilty on a deep level about our survival may compel us to create or attract situations in which we will be punished for living, especially living well. Punishment might come in the guise of losing our job, money or partner. Punishment may take form when we work under conditions that are unfair but we are afraid to stand up for ourselves.
For example, a few of my clients feel guilty and ashamed to have a job they like. So, unconsciously, they accept a lower income or work many hours, or do not take any time off. Often, this is so they can feed that unconscious loyalty toward their family. That pattern can comes from a severe
incident in their family background, such as the Holocaust, slavery, and immigration caused by war, or violent and repressive dictatorship. Or, people who came from a wealthy family might not feel they are “enough” to take care of the inheritance, so they self-sabotage themselves.
To heal this situation, we need to recognize the deceased person or people and fall in love with our life and ourselves. Know deeply that we are enough and important, gives us an infinite value. Therefore there will be no shame regarding our skills, talents and how much we can make per year. This will free the family system and allow the prosperity flow to swing back into motion after it may have been interrupted for years.
Naturally, it is in our hands to nurture this new relationship with money. Once we heal the stagnant financial situation, we must then follow through and be consistent with the new dynamic. The healing will only last if we take care of it. Otherwise, the energized new flow we experience will disappear sooner or later.
Be aware that we don’t own money. Money is a current, a flow. We must ‘liberate’ money, or it will find a way to escape our catch and imprisonment. Money goes where it is needed most, and stays when it is treated well. Our role is to reinvest and serve the world with our money to create a flowing motion. We give, we receive; it is a movement that joins us all together. We belong to the same community and world. We are together in this adventure.
So, let’s be grateful for what we already have and we will attract more good things. Let’s be respectful of our money. Be ready to receive it. Know that we deserve to get paid.
On top of that, let’s be proud of our value. People who value themselves attract people who value them, too.
Remember that whatever we think about ourselves links directly to our feelings about money. Money is a reflection of how we see ourselves.
By honoring our money story, we honor our ancestors, our lineage and thus, the importance of our life. Let’s create our own love affair with money and spread the Love!
Affirmations
I receive what I ask for. Abundance is my birthright.
Money constantly flows into my life. Abundance is a State of Being
The most important way to make money flow is to clear clutter!
Advice that has worked for me:
- Respect your wallet. Pay attention to it and clean it. Your wallet reflects how
you treat your money. So if your wallet is in shreds or looking dirty and/or old, it’s time to get another one! You could get a red or green one, as these colors represent abundance in Feng-Shui. Then, organize your wallet clearly and properly and clear out any clutter – such as unnecessary receipts, papers or business cards. Do
- this on a regular basis, so you can easily find your precious bills.
- Rename your saving or checking account as your ‘abundance’ or ‘prosperity’
account or even for one of your future projects or endeavors – for example, your wedding, a new car or a trip.
- When you pay a bill: Say “Thank you” and feel it deeply inside. You can even
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