How to locate the PC muscle?
To locate your PC muscle, place two fingers behind your testicles. Now imagine that you are urinating and want to stop the flow. The muscle that you squeeze internally to stop the flow is the PC muscle. Practice stopping and starting your urination a couple of times so that you know where this muscle group is located.
How to do?
Every day, three times a day, flex and relax this muscle group twenty times.
Now that you know where the muscle is, you won't have to touch it to exercise it. Make sure that you have isolated the muscle and are not tightening your abdomen, buttock, or your facial muscles during this exercise. Keep every other muscle in your body as relaxed as you can and remember to breathe evenly as you squeeze and relax. It is easy to do this muscle exercise.
Tightening and relaxing this muscle should feel good: you may even feel slightly arouse because when you exercise this muscle you are increasing blood flow into the genital are. It may take you a while to work up to twenty repetitions; if you are older or overweight you may want to start with only five or ten repetitions, then work your way up. Don't do more than twenty repetitions at a lime or your PC muscle
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may get sore. It will take about three weeks for your PC muscle to get in shape and then you really need to do this exercise for the rest of your life.
It is an important part of maintaining your sexual fitness. Men whose PC muscle is in good shape can have more enjoyable erections, more sensation in the genital area, better ejaculation control, stronger orgasms and even multiple orgasms.
Tantric vajroli
Among the various anti-ejaculatory methods vajroli is the most successful and has turned many premature ejaculators into experts in the control of ejaculation.
Of all the numerous esoteric Tantric techniques, Vajroli remained a well kept secret for thousands of years. The precise and detailed instructions as how to achieve this practice was described by Andre Van Lysebeth, author of “Tantric The Cult of the Feminine".
Vajroli is a very easy, very effective method to have a full control over ejaculation. In short to perform vajroli one must insert a catheter into the urinary tract, as far as the bladder. This technique sounds terrible, but infect it is neither difficult nor really painful.
Modern tantrists use a rubber catheter or plastic catheter, the kind used to dram off urine One should buy three catheters, each with a different diameter (medium sized is always better).
Procedure :
First put some gynaecological golly bought at the drug store onto the catheter to lubricate and at the same time keep it sterile. With one hand doctor should hold the penis vertically (never when an erection or semi-erection is present) and with the other, slowly glide the catheter into the aperture at the tip of the penis. For the first half inch there is no pain, absolutely no problem! Further on since the delicate mucous lining of the urinary tract (which is also the ejaculatory tract) is very sensitive, doctor has to be very careful and proceed very slowly. On the first day, one half an inch is enough. Tomorrow go a little further. This should be really painful. While the catheter is inserted, make a few short movements backwards and forwards inside the penis to gradually desensitize the lining of the urethra. The whole procedure takes only about one minute and as soon as the catheter is out, immediately pass water to rinse the urethra. The whole procedure takes only about
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one minute and as soon as the catheter is out, immediately pass water, to rinse the urethra. Before starting the process, one should urinate without totally emptying
the bladder; some urine should remain in the bladder. Intact the least pleasant part of
the whole process is passing urine, because this is a bit painful. After a short time this pain will subside. Now the process is over.
The next day proceed a little further inside the urethra. The aim of the whole thing is to desensitize the urethra. You may take two or three weeks before you get the catheter into the bladder. In a hospital, if the nurse has to drain a patient's bladder, because it is urgent, she has to insert the whole catheter at once!
One day the catheter will reach the bladder. How shall we know this? Since we keep some urine in bladder, as soon as the catheter is in the bladder this urine flows. Immediately, withdraw the catheter a bit, in order not to empty the bladder, make some backward and forward motions with the catheter and pull it out. Now totally empty the bladder. Proceed very slowly and cautiously throughout.
One must reach the bladder and then retreat a few millimeters, because this is the strategic zone where the sperm duct from the prostate gland runs into the urethra and it is from here that ejaculation really starts. With practice after some time, the catheter will easily glide into the urinary tract without causing any irritation or even discomfort.
The action of vajroli :
The aim of vajroli is the inhibition of ejaculation During ejaculation, spasmodic, uncontrollable waves of contractions go all along the ejaculatory tract to eject the seminal fluid out of the body. By desensitizing the nerves of the ejaculatory tract, the ejaculatory reflexes will be dulled without making the sensual bliss less intense. Once we get to this point, it is no longer necessary to perform vajroli daily One can do it only twice a week and later on only once a week or once a month.
Vajroli has another advantage. It makes us aware of the entire ejaculatory tract from the aperture at the tip of the penis up to the prostate gland. Lastly, vajroli invigorates the scrotum as well as the testicles, increasing the strength, vigor and vitality while the increased secretion of gonadal hormones rejuvenates the body.
Stop and squeeze method
Also called pause and squeeze method to learn ejaculatory control choose a time when you are absolutely free for half an hour without an interruption. Remove
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all your clothes and lie on the bed. Relax for 5 minutes Take deer relaxing breaths. After S minutes relaxing, stroke your penis while concentrating on the sensations in the organ. Hold the organ in the way you like best and stimulate it slowly. As you feel the tension is building up, concentrate on the erotic sensations in the penis until you feel ejaculation is inevitable. Stop masturbating and squeeze the glans penis between the thumb, the index and middle lingers. Do not worry if you trigger off (ejaculate) at first while attempting this exercise. You will soon learn when to stop and start squeezing.
When the feeling of ejaculatory inevitability has gone, restart stimulating and enjoy the pleasurable sensations within. Stop once again when you get the signal that it is going to come (ejaculate). Repeat the procedure a third and a fourth time. At the fourth attempt masturbate till you ejaculate and enjoy the feeling. This is called dry stimulation.
After four or five days of dry stimulation lubricate the penis with K Y. Jelly
or Vaseline and repeat the procedure while fantasizing a film star or a model. This is
more exciting than the dry stimulation as it stimulates the type of sensations you feel in the vagina Repeat the same stop squeeze procedure as before and discharge at the fourth time.
This practice will increase your ejaculatory control gradually. You are now ready to start exercise after a week or ten days with your partner. Practice relaxation for a few days before starting stimulation
Female on top position
To prevent premature ejaculation, the female sits astride the male who is lying on his back. With her figures, she spreads labia a puts her vulva against his penis, taking care touch the glans. In doing so s! establishes a genital contact with out, penetration. While the male relaxes (his buttocks and his abdomen above all) female lets her moist vagina glide alongside. his penis
The thrusts from the lower back follow one after another becoming stronger and faster, at each thrust the pubic bones meet and spread wider each time the penis retreats The unavoidable result is well known; after twenty or more long deep movements of the penis inside the vagina, the semen burst forth, leaving the men exhausted. Calm, relaxed without any haste, both per- and vagina will be able to stay united eventually for longer duration at a stretch without any difficulty.
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Magic mantra
Psychiatrist David Ruben suggests this following tips, based on a very effective psychoanalytic formula that has helped many people. The next time you are going to have intercourse and you are worried about ejaculating prematurely, repeat this word: Silently to yourself over and over in an emphatic and determined way. If it sound-, strange to you don't worry about it.
Just say it this way to yourself ‘I will not spill my milk! I don’t want to spill my milk! I am not going to spill my milk!'
It's effective about 70 percent of the time.
Dolly breathing
This it simple breathing exercises you should do everyday. Lie comfortably on a bed, on your hack Loosen (if any) tight clothing. Place one, hand on your abdomen and the other on your heart. Now take a deep slow breath that you can feel all the way down to your abdomen. Breathe as if you are drawing breath down through your body, into your legs and toes. This type of breath will cause your abdomen to expand and rise; when you exhale it will contract.
As you breathe, inhaling and exhaling should be one continuous process. Don't hold your breath alter you inhale. Feel the air flowing all the way into your lungs and all the way out. Visualize that air as a white light flowing in and out of you not only relaxing you but also energizing you. If you want to, rest after each exhale. To 'belly breathe’ take two deep belly breaths and then breathe normally for about a minute. Take two belly breaths again and breathe normally for another minute. Repeat this pattern for about ten minutes.
This lime tested exercise will help to allay anxiety, increase the ability to relax and activate the benevolent energies of the parasympathetic nervous system.
Rubber to decrease sensitivity
The easiest and cheapest method to decrease the sensitivity of the penis is to wear two or more condoms. The extra layer of rubber may just dull his sensation enough to retard orgasm. They may also give him the unmistakable feeling he is making love to a rubber glove.
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Local anesthetic ointments
It’s simply an ointment containing benzocaine, which numbs the sensory receptors of the penis and sometimes delays orgasm. It may also prevent orgasm completely and convert premature ejaculation to no ejaculation at least for the night. The other disadvantage is that some men are allergic to this chemical.
The real problem with anesthetic ointments is that in the long run they tend to make premature ejaculation worse. The penis becomes negatively conditioned and gradually less and less stimulation is required to trigger orgasm. After a few months of using the ointment, just the touch a woman’s hand may be enough to jettison a full lead of semen then and there.
Medieval approach
The most primitive approach is simply to repeat intercourse until the sexual reflexes become sufficiently fatigued to delay ejaculation. This is a tedious business at best and requires sending the lady to the corner to get a pack of potato chips while the man is waiting for the next erection to arrive. Some men even masturbate in advance so that what appears to be their first orgasm of the evening is really number two. With this approach, masturbation can become the main event and intercourse is anticlimax.
Mental diversion
One technique men try to delay orgasm is by ‘thinking of other things' during intercourse. This is the technique recommended by some experts in the field of marriage counseling.
Another variation is to think of something ‘disgusting’ to delay orgasm.
Psychiatrists argue ‘If the patient can think of something disgusting enough he may solve his problems by losing his erection completely and throwing up. The whole concept is self defeating anyhow. They continue to comment how much fun can it be to have sex while you are thinking of dead rats?
Lying around
Another method calls for the couple to merely' lie next to each other in bed naked and think of other things They are to avoid any sex stimulation at all. According to the experts this calms down over excitable men who tend towards prematurity. For the man who ejaculates with him lying around thinking of other things instead of having intercourse is not much of a thrill.
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Stop start technique
Dr. Semans and Dr. Donald Hastings were the pioneers in this technique of premature ejaculation. In this technique the female partner stimulates the erect penis without indulging in intercourse. As soon as the male feels the sensation to ejaculate he tells her and she stops the stimulation until the ejaculatory feeling has disappeared. She then starts stimulating him and continues till the male can hold himself indefinitely. Dr. Semans reported a hundred percent disappearance of the symptom within a month with this technique.
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