Degradación - Dinámica de los Compuestos Orgánicos en el Suelo

3.2. Dinámica de los Compuestos Orgánicos en el Suelo

3.2.7. Degradación

Loving Body Discovery

take turns exploring each other’s bodies, from head to toe and everywhere in-between. When you are exploring, you start from the outside (hands, feet, ears, etc.) and work your way in toward the hot spots (breasts and genitals), always moving very, very slowly. When you think you are going slow enough, go even slower than that!

One of the exercises from our Tantra weekend for couples is the “loving body discovery”. In this exercise lovers

Loving Body Discovery

The loving body discovery is not a massage, nor is it an attempt to build sexual excitement. Rather, the idea is to explore “as if for the very first time” touching, smelling,

nd tasting your lover, inch by lovely inch. Of course, your lover may become aroused during your exploration, but that is not your objective.

Loving Body Discovery

The loving body exploration can easily last several hours and is something to do many times, not just once.

Afterwards, share what new and delightful things you iscovered about each other during the exercise, for xample—marks, lines, textures, scents, sensitivities, your leasure, your appreciation, etc.

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Loving Body Discovery

ne problem that couples report to us in our Tantra

h touch, each breath, or each lance of the eye. In Tantric sacred loving there is no goal, but there is a purpose—union between the lovers. The loving body discovery is a most excellent exercise to help discover the joys of loving without having to get to orgasm, to be free of the requirement to perform in a certain way.

On the contrary, both the one exploring and the one being O

workshops is performance anxiety. People quite

understandably want to be great lovers. They want to make something wonderful happen for their partner. Goal

orientation may creep in and take over, becoming a focus on getting to orgasm. This can rob you of the delights, pleasures and beauty of eac

Loving Body Discovery

“Kneeling between her thighs, tickle her breasts and under her arm call her 'my lovely darling' and print deep nailmarks around her nipples.”

Love Teachings of Kama Sutra, by Vatsyayana, translated by Indra Sinha

In the “loving body discovery” exercise, we usually suggest that you do NOT proceed on to intercourse and orgasm. In this way, you can experience what it is like to make love without trying to get anywhere, without having the possibly frustrating experience of wanting an orgasm but not getting one. Ironically, when they remove orgasm as a goal, many lovers report having lots more orgasms. Here surrender and letting go are much more useful—control does not help at all. Remember, control is the enemy of ecstasy.

Loving Body Discovery

A common complaint we hear from women, is th male lovers go almost immediately for the hot spots—

breasts and genitals. We refer to this as the bulls-eye syndrome. The loving body discovery is an excellent antidote to the bulls-eye syndrome because you don’t approach the breasts and genitals until well into the exercise.

Ladies, bear in mind that men are animals—they can be trained easily! Remember Pavlov’s dogs? The dogs learned to salivate at the sound of the bell once they associated the bell with food as a conditioned response. Men go quickly

at their

If you want your man to stay at another spot on your

eautiful body for a long time and to go to that spot early in your lovemaking, give him a big response when he is there.

For example, move your body and make appreciative sounds when he is nibbling on your neck, whispering in your ears, or sucking your lovely toes.

Loving Body Discovery

atching your penis, the lady with dark eyes like upturned lotus petals

t may n). You are not building with the idea of going n to intercourse. You are not trying to make your lover

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guides it into her yoni, clings to you and shakes her buttocks.” Love Teachings of Kama Sutra, by Vatsyayana, translated by Indra Sinha

When finally you do reach the hot spots, remember tha you are exploring with all of your senses. You are not trying to arouse your partner sexually (although this well happe

come. You are not trying to get to orgasm. The loving bo discovery mercifully lets both of you off the “performance hook”.

Loving Body Discovery - Eating Out

You may introduce some playfully creative variations into your loving body discovery. Dress your lover up like an ice-cream sundae and dive in for an erotic snack. This gives a whole new meaning to “eating out”. Dessert was never so good.

Massage

Massage is one of the easiest and surest ways to disconne rom the many demands of a busy life and to connect with

ct our lover. You can give your lover a full-body massage in f

under 7 minutes. This will get you both out of your heads and into your bodies. Ecstasy in lovemaking is not

essentially a mental process; rather it requires that you pay attention to sensory information (sight, taste, touch, smell and kinesthetic sensations), any or all of which will get you into your body, fully present in the now moment.

Massage

active lovemaking. Be sure not to use this offering f massage in a manipulative way, as a strategy for getting your partner to be interested in sex just because you are.

Offer the massage as an unconditional gift, with no expectation of anything in return.

Any time one of the lovers is keen for lovemaking, but the other is too tired, try giving your partner a full body massage. This will sometimes awaken your lover’s sexual energy so that he becomes aroused and able to participate in more

Massage Tips

assages are easy to do as well as fun to give and receive.

ou do not have to have any training to give your mate a thoroughly satisfying massage, although if you would like more guidance there are some excellent books

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and videos available.

Giving each other a massage as a first course of sexual play adds to your entire experience. Both partners are able to relax, leave the world behind, and be in the moment

together. With massage, a woman’s body begins to awaken for arousal—her erotic side receives the time and attention she needs to “get in the mood”. A man whose body is relaxed so that his energy can flow more freely is able to last much longer.

You can perform massages just about anywhere—bed, floor, couch—but most comfortable for the masseur is a

assage table at home, but you do have a kitchen or dining ble. With firm cushions, a foam mat or even an air

table at about hip height. It is not likely you have a portable m

mattress on top covered by a sheet, they make great massage surfaces. If the kitchen or dining rooms do not afford you as much privacy as you would like, move the table into your bedroom.

Give a dry massage—without oil, or a wet one—with oil.

The market is flooded with wondrous lubricants—flavored, scented, unscented, edible, warming, tingling—take your pick. You can also make your own with a light vegetable oil, such as safflower, sunflower, jojoba, or canola-grape seed, and add your own essential oils to create a scent you prefer.

This is Al’s refreshing, and lightly spicy recipe, for the assage oil we supply in our lover’s kits at our Tantra eekends.

4 oz. canola oil (or substitute as above) 4 drops YlangYlang essential oil m

1-2 drops Black Pepper essential oil (1 in summer, 2 winter)

1-2 drops Clary Sage essential oil (1 in winter, 2 in mmer)

hichever products you choose for general body massage is best to use water-based lubricants

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oman’s genitals. Other lubricants may clog her pores and ncourage vaginal infection.

assage Strokes

you are unsure how to begin to give a massage there are few simple strokes you can learn to master easily. There re some excellent massage videos

w kin to skin contact.

• Rocking, with one hand on either side of your partner’s body, or a particular part of it, her buttocks for

example, gently rock back and forth.

• Long, smooth, firm strokes following the line of muscle up and down his body.

• Circular motions, especially at joints.

• Kneading—slowly and firmly squeezing muscle between fingers and palms of your hands, then letting go and repeating—particularly in large muscle groups like shoulders, back, buttocks and thighs.

• Feathering—very light fingertip strokes—primar erotic massage, the arousal of s

You cannot go wrong by starting out with slow, gentle ressure in your strokes. Ask your partner to tell you if she

te your desires and sensations with loving equests and appreciative sounds—give your masseur

ing se of his spine with your palms on his sacrum (just above his tailbone).

ks or shoulders or neck or arms—

would like more intensity as you go. The more massages you give each other the easier it will become to know wha is needed through the messages your hands give you.

Nevertheless, whenever you are receiving a massage communica

informative and thankful feedback.

Starting your massage

An excellent starting point for a relaxing and invigorat massage is the back.

• Begin at the ba

• Inhale.

• As you exhale slide your hands up his back on either side of his spine.

• With a firm touch, follow the line of his shoulders out from his neck.

• Slide your hands down the outer sides of his back, coming to rest again at the base of his spine.

• Do it again and again and revel in his sighs of pleasur Move on to his buttoc

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wherever your hands feel compelled to go.

If you are giving your lover a full body massage, make sure to cover every part of his body—ears, toes, eyes (very softly), fingers—not just the major sections like legs and back. His whole body has skin hunger.

Massage Variations Seven Minute Massage

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also give your lover a boost with a massage

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toes, up her feet, to calves and thighs, stopping just short of er genitals, or her fingers to palms to inner elbows to armpits and almost to her nipples. Only slowly, as her body It elicious treat to receive a full bod

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• Near the beginning of your sacred loving time.

• As a refreshing pause from strenuous sexual activity.

• To start or end your day.

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her head and shoulders and finishing at her feet, with most of your strokes in a downward motion—is generally relaxing, draining tension away and down. Working in th o

head with most of your strokes going up her body—can be upwards.

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arily for arousal, erotic massage focuses, exclusively, on tantalizing skin-to-skin contact that

omes increasingly sexual as the massage continues.

Using light, feathery touches begin moving inwards from extremities of your lover’s body, for example fr h

awakens under your teasing touch do you move on to actually caress her hot sexual spots.

With erotic massage you may use not only your hands but also your tongue, lips, hair or other exotic aids like fea and even ice cubes. Add more spice with a blindfold o loosely binding your lover’s wrists and ankles to the be corners so she is at your tender mercy.

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Not all massages are equal; some are more for relaxation and energetic revival, while others can be particularly erotic building high states of passion and sexual

excitement. A simple blindfold will add a note of mystery to any erotic massage.

Erotic Massage

A teasing, sensual, erotic massage is a wonderful gift to each other, as exciting and satisfying for the giver as th receiver. W

e hile your lover is blindfolded, entice him with ysterious sounds, scents, and sensations. Touch him all

, ice cubes, hot oil, silk cloth, and parts of ourself, of course. Appeal to all five senses in your

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tantalizing play.

Sexual Fire Breath

The sexual fire breath is one of the best exercises,

especially with a partner (but you can also do it alone), for rapidly building a hot sexual charge and moving it up through your body, helping to open all of your chakra centers. In the sexual fire breath you use a combination of

und, pelvic rocking, PC (pubococcygeous) muscle

ueezes, deep abdominal breathing, visualization and hand ovements.

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Sexual Fire Breath

he sexual fire breath is one of the meditations on Pala T

Copeland’s CD, Apertio: Tantra Energy Meditations, wi lyrics and voice by Pala Copeland, and music by Jeff Davies. Use the sexual fire breath on your own to open yourself to your full exquisite sexual potential. Do it as a charger-upper before making love. Do it during lovemaking as you are being manually or orally stimulated. Do it

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flash in the early learning stages or the m

during e very observant and ready to stop in a

an may go beyond his point of no return to ejaculate before you are both ready to end the lovemaking. If “energy” is very subtle for you and you don’t usually feel it, try this exercise. Most report really feeling something the very first time they do the sexual fire breath.

Sexual Fire Breath

• Lie on your back. Feet flat on the floor/bed. Knees bent. Legs comfortably apart. Hands at your sides, palms up. Eyes closed.

• Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into your belly.

• Focus your attention on your genitals and visualize drawing breath in and out through them.

• When you have a comfortable breathing rhythm established, begin to rock your pelvis, tilting it up toward the sky. Use your feet to slightly push off the floor so that you are not using your abdominal muscles to rock and they can remain loose and open.

• Inhale as you rock back. Exhale as you rock forward. (Note: some bodies want to do it the

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ight want to do it the opposite way, let it.).

• Begin to visualize your sexual energy as a great ball of golden fire in your genitals. As you rock, breathe and pump draw the golden fireball up through your chakra centers, one chakra at a time.

• Send the energy out through your crown chakra into the universe. Do not leave it to build up in your head. If you are making love with a partner, you can also pass the energy to him through your eyes, your kiss, your breath.

opposite way – listen to yours and go with w feels right).

• Make sound as you exhale – AAAAAHHHH. (This is the most difficult part for many people but it helps enormously, sound carries the energy).

• When you are in a comfortable rhythm, add PC Pumping. Tighten your PC muscles as you rock back. Relax them as you rock forward. (Note: your body m

• Pass your hands in flowing motions up your body to help with the energy movement.

• Breathe more rapidly to move the energy higher within your body, allowing yourself to open into its flow.

• When you reach a high edge of energetic arousal you can maintain this level by deepening and slowing your breathing and keeping your body relaxed.

• Rest in stillness for a few moments when you are finished practicing so that the energy can continue to flow through you. Bring it back down and store it in your belly chakra for later use.

• If you have left a store of energy in your head and feel some congestion there do Grounding and apply firm pressure with your fingertips to your crown chakra.

BDSM Play

One of the most common fantasies for men and women is to be blindfolded and tied up. Milder forms of BDSM (bondage/discipline/sadism/masochism) play are entering into the bedrooms of the nation as cultural taboos against the healthy exploration of sexuality among consenting adults drops away. If you find your lovemaking has become predictable or routine, spice it up with a touch of BDSM play.

Torture Teasing

Playfu “torture” can lead to extraordinary orgasms. l

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Blindfolds and tie-ups are two of the most common forms of light BDSM sexual play.

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Sweet surrender my darling

Many lovers report that their BDSM explorations taught them a great deal about trust, so that they can surrender themselves utterly, becoming completely open and

vulnerable. When this is done within a cocoon of love, the emotional, energetic and spiritual connections can be deep and profound.

Dark Stranger

“Grasping the ankles of the round-hipped woman, whose buttocks are like two ripe gourds, raise her beautiful thighs and spread the thigh-joints widely.”

Love Teachings of Kama Sutra, by Vatsyayana, translated by Indra Sinha

“Yes master, have your way with me. Your command is my wish.”

Paddle Play

“With lotus-feet set well-apart on the ground, she bends, placing a hand upon each thigh, and you take her from the rear…” Love Teachings of Kama Sutra, by Vatsyayana, translated by Indra Sinha

“If I’m a bad girl, will you promise to spank me master?”

perimenting with BDSM play within a context of trust, surrender, love, and a willingness to explore mysteries of the shadow. In the darkest corners of the shadow, BDSM can include overt domination, submission, cruelty and pain, but for most Tantric lovers these aspects are not present.

There is a great deal of misinformation and

misunderstanding about what BDSM is and what it means.

Modern Tantric lovers are ex

Dominatrix

“My darling, you are now at my mercy. You must obey my commands. Do exactly as I tell you or face your deserved punishment. Of course the punishment must fit the crime.

You are going to like this!”

Golden Showers

any men become extremely aroused when their goddess elivers warm golden urine or honey cum onto their body.

erhaps a perfect punishment for disobeying your

ommands could be to female ejaculate onto his eager face

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while he dines between your luscious silken thighs at your gate to heaven. Gentlemen, lick, lap and love it!