Conclusiones

Need some more tips? Get close to the woman and move around among women and make yourself visible most of the time by getting involved in activities that are taking place in the organization. There are plenty of opportunities for this, through sports activities, clubs and charity organizations where men and women move hand in hand to carry out various activities together. Men and women also move around in big numbers in political organizations. You can’t seduce

something or someone you do not see, let alone know, so therefore you have to put yourself in a position to be seen.

To attract the attention of the woman, you must create a good first impression.

You must appear attractive, presentable fascinating. Don’t worry if you feel you do not have these attributes. These characteristics are developed as you mature and as your circles of social interactions widen. Again, these definitions are arbitrary and what one woman sees as attractive another sees as just normal.

What is fascinating to one may not be so to another. These attributes can be inculcated into the personality with the right social formula. The TV stars for example are just ordinary people but by virtue of their being film stars or TV stars they are seen as attractive and fascinating. Your take off the film or TV cloaks you will find them nursing scabies on their rickety legs.

There is a way for you to be attractive, interesting and fascinating. Look for role models and study their actions and the way their carry themselves about. Listen to their conversations, their jokes and style of putting arguments forward. Make note of the things you like about them and what makes you like to join their company again. Maybe you can watch other interesting people and study what makes them interesting; what makes their conversations fascinating and make them attractive to women. Keep gathering an arsenal of knowledge you can learn from and study the character that you can blend with yours to give an added value. As you do this you will find that all along you have what it takes to be attractive and fascinating But these traits lay dormant through lack of the

necessity for exposure. It is common knowledge that the best acting stars are not in the films but out there in the open where the illusions of make believe is totally absent.

Just as film stars are trained to act a life of make-belief, so also you can

inculcate and develop qualities and traits that women admire, not for the screen but for real life situations.

To seduce a woman you need not be superficially attractive with all the thick make up of film stars. If you opt for that, you will look like clowns and be a

laughing stock. Be an alpha man, cool, relaxed and natural, smartly dressed and well groomed hair. Join in the jokes and fun but do not overdo it by chipping in cheap vulgar jokes to attract the crowd. It might offend the ladies present and you will be looked upon as vulgar instead of being attractive and fascinating.

Don’t be too gullible and take the conversation platform all to yourself in a show of know it all attitude. You will be viewed as repulsive instead of attractive; as stupid rather than intelligent because it is always true that empty drums make the most noise.

To look attractive and charming, just join the crowd and the fun, talk less and listen more, once in while just smile when the jokes are good and offer opinions intelligently when asked for. Do not reinforce the emptiness of scandalous gossip neither should you initiate one. Only a man of shallow intelligence engage in baseless gossip that belittles others and envelope cloaks of guilt on other people’s personalities. Remember what you do and talk is being watched and scrutinized as a basis of assessing the person you are.

If you are asked about the things or events that you do not have any clue about, just be honest, apologize and say you cannot offer any comments yet as you are not exposed to the information. Maybe you will be able to enlighten at another time. An honest admission that you do not know of what is being asked is many thousand times better than to appear stupid trying to talk about things you don’t have a clue to. People are not stupid and trying to make them so will only expose your stupidity. If you should contribute to the conversation, be sure that you have the facts right. Otherwise just sit relaxed occasionally, smile and shut up. To be attractive and fascinating does not lie in how loud and how much you talk during a conversation. It lies in the sophistication in the way you handle and blend yourself in a social setting. There is cliché that says “If you do not know anything, do not reveal your ignorance by talking”. If you want to be attractive and

fascinating, send positive vibrations around the room and the aura will bounce back and enhance your personality. You will stand out in the crowd and be noticed by the women present, including the one you are silently trying to attract and seduce.

If you want to have a high success rate in how to seduce a woman, you will have to be aware that there are certain positive traits or characteristics or behaviors that you will have to cultivate if you do not have them yet. Likewise there are certain negative characteristics or behaviors that you will have to shed. It is not only women but people on the whole abhor negative behaviors of

self-centeredness, close-mindedness and judgmental attitudes. Nothing can be more repulsive and boring than to have an evening with a person who always talk about himself; his exploits, adventures, successes and feats of high

performances in almost all fields. Never be the person who monopolies the conversational platform for almost the whole evening talking almost non stop to show off his knowledge about topics of conversation, irrespective of whether he really knows slightly or pretend to know something which he actually hasn’t a

clue to. It is always the “I” aspect of the conversation that you will hear all evening. Psychologically people who blabber all evening, giving little chance to others to join in and enjoy the conversation are people who are bugged by a high degree of inferiority complex. In an effort to cover up his weaknesses, he

displays and acts the knows-all script, little realizing that by doing so he not only reveals some glaring weaknesses and inadequacy of knowledge but also

becomes more and more repulsive to the crowd. I am sure you must have had the experience of being in the company of such people. I can imagine how you try to find an excuse to go somewhere else and leave the know it all immersed in his repulsive and boring blabbering.

Without a doubt, being close minded, self-centered and judgmental does not blend with the technique of how to seduce a woman. As mentioned earlier, these characteristics will not only repel women but are also repulsive to just anyone except maybe to people who are just as repulsive. It would be interesting to watch from the sidelines how a group of such people play a game of

conversational tug-of-war, each attempting to outdo the others in his haste to blabber all the junk that he knows or have heard about, irrespective of whether there is an iota of truth or not. To these repulsive people it is not the authentic content of the subject matter that counts but their primary concern is their ability to take the limelight or “repulsive light”. Please remember that if you want to be successful with women, you never make this fatal blunder of being self-centered and close-minded, where you are the only one who knows everything from plumbing to how to build the pyramid and maybe on how to straighten the Leaning Tower of Pisa , you are the only one who is right in all things and on all counts. Such people will also blabber about weaknesses in other people’s characters and all that is wrong with the world and all its contents. Should anyone touch on the subject; he might also suggest how Adam should have reacted to the Devil in the Garden of Eden. Imagine yourself in his place, how do you think anyone will react in your presence? If you realize the seriousness of the matter, never make this fatal blunder in your relationship. Otherwise you will have to have the skill of a squirrel when forced to jump from tree to tree, in this case from group to group or from woman to woman who will disappear the moment they see you.

People who are self-centered, close-minded and judgmental usually display a lack of good manners because these traits come in a package. They are crude, negative towards life and are always complaining. They indulge in vulgar jokes irrespective of how it affects those present in the crowd. They wouldn’t care a dime if it affects the ladies present negatively. If you display this trait with women, you will be counted out as fast as you come in. Surely this is another gross

blunder you can make should you have included this in your arsenal of how to seduce a woman. You will be disqualified even before you hear the starter’s gunshot.

If you want to be successful in your attempt to seduce a woman, you must learn to cultivate the positive traits of confidence, warmth and a good sense of humor.

Learn to develop good conversational ability and display a high respect for others by not being judgmental on them. Acknowledge that there is no absolute in what is right and what is wrong. Welcome ideas in parallel and abandon the fascist doctrine of the Gang of Three (Plato, Socrates and Aristotle) where there is only one right and when one is right, then the others are all wrong. Over these past 2500 years the world has changed and opinions too change. We must be open-minded and in the process, respect people and their opinions for what they are.

To be close-minded and grossly judgmental would put off the flames of good social interactions and relationships. Do not commit this blunder if you want to be successful in the company of ladies especially if you are studying the techniques on how to seduce a woman. Show individuality, conversational ability and

kindness. She will appreciate that and it would create a good positive impact on your relationship. The woman will find you fascinating and irresistible and you can assure yourself that she will be looking forward to meet you again.

Another aspect of your personality that will make the woman disappear as fast as they come is a display of immaturity, indecisiveness and a habit of always

complaining even about the most trivial things. The woman expects a confident, and fit individual able to take the steering wheel of life and tough to overcome any adversity, kind and creative and who knows his way in this challenging and turbulent world. She appreciates a powerful shoulder to lean on. Against this background of expectations, if you display the character of the pathetic paralyzed beggar without a backbone, you will be reduced to dust and crushed into

nothingness before the evening is over. If you want to be successful in seducing the woman, be mature and display maturity, decisiveness and confidence. You can exhibit these traits subtly in your conversations and your body language. The woman wants the company of a true man, not a sissy.

Creativity gives life even to the simplest of things. The arrangement of painted bricks in a small backyard garden can be a source of attraction if it smacks a touch of creativity. The bonsai fetches a high price just because of its creative design. Otherwise it is just an ordinary plant. Creativity never fails to attract attention and fascinate people of all ages from young children to adults. Sales people know that and designers know that even better. Out of creativity we find all kinds of toys for children in the market. Out of creativity the fashion industry rake in billions of dollars annually. The dying flames of the film industry is powerfully rekindled on the platform of creativity. Man has made tremendous quantum leaps in development of science and technology through creativity and creative thinking.

Throughout history, creativity has never fail to astound man to gaze in wonder and awe at the beauty of the masterpiece. In your relations with women, you can put this element of creativity to great advantage. To be creative you don’t have to be Beethoven or Michaelangelo or Alexander the Great. If you take one step

ahead and look at the things around you, you will find that vast opportunities are available where you can be creative. If you don’t have it in you to be creative, take up a course in Ikebana (flower arrangement), landscaping and gardening, music, painting or whatever it is that you have an affinity to and would be able to exhibit your creative prowess.

If you have a lady friend and you would like to have her for a life partner, it would be wise to discuss with her, about courses and hobbies that both of you can be creative. It would be a welcome suggestion and the thought of becoming creative would be fascinating. If you already have some creative talents, you can share that with the woman especially if she is fascinated by your skills. Transfer the skills and knowledge to her. She would be grateful and you have nothing to lose.

In fact your generous gesture would draw her closer to you. Display and share your creative skills if you happen to have one and learn to be creative if you do not possess one.

This is an asset worth possessing, culturing and developing because almost everyone is fascinated by the uniqueness and artistry of creativity. Creativity creates things of beauty that brings timeless joy to the human heart. Be creative and appear creative both in your thinking and your actions. You will never fail to attract the attention of the woman you are seducing. In fact creativity is one of the lethal weapons of seduction which you cannot afford to omit from your arsenal of how to seduce a woman. Use it wisely and you will win appreciation all round.

Like all good things, if you use it wrongly it will work to your disadvantage. Use creativity as a platform to gain friends to share and it will go a long way to boost your self image and self esteem.

In any human relationship, learn to handle things delicately and avoid blunders that would be very difficult to amend once committed. Your relationship with the woman you want to seduce poses an even bigger risk if you are not cautious in your footsteps.

In your quest on how to seduce the woman, avoid the temptation to resort to manipulation. It is unnatural, unreal, and despicable and will give birth to a lot of disappointments and hatred once the cat is out of the bag. People do not like to be manipulated. They hate it and will bear a perpetual grudge against the

manipulator. Do not put yourself in the shoes of the manipulator especially if you want the woman for keeps. A woman wants to flow naturally into a relationship be it temporarily or for life-long partnership.

A smooth flow of relationship without the trickery of manipulation radiates the warmth that nurtures the relationship with joy and appreciation. It is natural and you will not have to go constantly into a manipulation mode every time you want to seduce the woman. Above all you will not have the subconscious feelings of guilt constantly hammering in your mind. It would also relieve you from the

nagging ordeal of guessing whether the woman is attracted to you for who you are or has been wrongly manipulated into the relationship. You will never find out, perhaps until it is too late to make amends.

In order to seduce a woman, you must learn the art of seducing the woman. You will have to be prepared physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually to face and overcome all eventualities. It is not for the weak heart. It is not a job for boys either. For those who do not make proper and solid preparation, the causalities are high. You can’t simply just join in the fray and expect positive results because winning the attention of a woman is not as easy as you would like to think. It is a delicate matter as women are very evasive and unpredictable. They are very mysterious and no one knows for sure what they would do next. Their actions always keep men guessing and at times in total suspense. Maybe that is their strong weapon of attraction and their natural irresistibility that gets men seduced instead in the process.

If you are to make headway in your effort to seduce a woman, you had better have an arsenal of weapons on hand to suit the different circumstances. You will have to be flexible in your tactics and change strategies when necessary.

To top up all these, you must prepare yourself internally as well as outwardly.

Check your self image rating. If you are low on self image, just postpone the idea of doing any seducing at all. If you have a low self image and low self esteem and you try to seduce a woman, she will swallow you alive or chew you like chewing gum.

You will have to look into your self image and change it first. If you have been living a poor self image, acted out of the script of others, discard the old script and write a new one where you play the hero and not the extra. A healthy self image boosts a powerful self esteem and that will put you in good stead when face to face with the formidable woman. Build a healthy self image and a high degree of self confidence. Do not get swallowed alive.

You may be wondering why all the fuss just to seduce a woman. You might say

You may be wondering why all the fuss just to seduce a woman. You might say