AMOGS males tend to be the center of attention and more than less have their confidence founded on insecurities, being loud and obnoxious is merely their way of overcompensating. The legitimately secure AMOGs are usually fine with giving you a shot at their women, as they quietly assume they are better than you anyway.
AMOGs will tend to talk over you until you stop talking and let them have their say. This makes you feel weak or inferior because if you keep talking, even when they are talking over you, they will usually increase their volume and speed to help shut you up. Often they are so into themselves that they start their own topics of conversation before you finish yours. It is common for an AMOG to talk over you or interrupt you in order to try and place the focus back on him. Here are your choices in how you could respond:
Keep talking despite him talking over you until the two of you just get so loud it becomes embarrassing
Stop talking, let him finish and then re-continue your story
Tell him you weren’t finished talking and that he’s being rather rude
All very normal probabilities when someone does this to you, however they will all result in you appearing to have lost control of the group and of your frame of mind. One PUA continually did this to me over a series of parties.
At first I did not back down and kept talking despite him talking over me; that got me nowhere. The second instance I stopped talking and let him take over the conversation; I never had a chance to get a word in again. Thirdly I told him he has no manners and that it’s rude to talk over people; he replied with “yes mum, now don’t interrupt”.
Now this made me ANGRY.
In the heat of the moment I placed my hand on his chest and kept saying “whoah whoah whoah whoah whoah” as if I was trying to slow down a wild horse running towards me. The “whoah”s started quick at the beginning and then wound down into a slower pace once the AMOG began to keep quiet. Looking him dead in the eyes I continued saying “whoah” until he stopped talking. Once he shut up I slowly and calmly raised my index in the air and said “Relax”.
I continue what I was saying whilst he turned bright red out of either embarrassment or frustration. He began to interrupt me again brining it back to a topic about him: some concert he went to on the weekend. I turned to him and said “Oh you’re still talking about that? Hold up for a second mate we’ll get back to it later”. Of course I never brought it up again later, he’d lost.
The longer you leave the AMOG to be rude to you and the more you fail to reprimand his bad behaviour, the more he will believe he can get away with disrespecting you. The beauty of repeatedly saying “whoah” as opposed to any other comment is that people realize that “whoah” completely inhibits a conversation from continuing. Two stories being spoken over each other makes the AMOG believe people are still listening to him rather than to you and he will continue talking louder and LOUDER until you are demoralized.
The moment you overtly call the AMOG out on his rude behavior by saying something like “Why do you feel the need to talk over me” not only have you lost your frame but you are now the one solely responsible for changing the mood of the set from light to tense.
There is no easy way to handle this and you will find a lot of PUAs will also try to do it to you. You need to establish a precedent early, otherwise they will continue to behave like wankers throughout the whole interaction. This is probably one of the hardest things you will have to deal with when AMOGs come your way. However, realize that you too can play dirty and talk over them. If they call you on interrupting them whilst they are talking simply look at them and say: “Well I guess I learnt from the best, anyhow…”
you in an arrogant or disrespectful way. Be aware that sometime people do not wish to be the center of attention nor do they wish to disrespect you. On the off occasion it is good when people, namely the target, interrupt you if they are so excited about the conversation that they genuinely cannot wait to say their contribution. Here’s an example: T: I never knew what a Chai Latte was until today, not really my… Savannah: Chai lattes are so good, I can’t go through my day without one.
Rude, yes, but not malicious.
The “whoah whoah whoah” has no way out of it, it will shut anyone up every time provided that you maintain eye contact, put your arm out with your palm or index finger pointing towards them in a “stop sign” position and make sure you are loud to show them you mean it.