After getting her off the first time, keep your fingers inside her for a bit, gently massaging her G-spot (unless she's overly sensitive now and can't take it), but make sure you keep your hand covering her vagina, move it a bit very gently but keep some pressure covering her whole vagina. This will be your gauge for when she's ready for seconds. Move up and kiss her breasts, then her neck and if she's ok with tasting herself, allow her to move in to kiss your lips. Some women do not want to taste themselves so let them go for it. Once you can tell that her clit is not as sensitive, start over but stay away from her clit for a little while. Massage her G-spot for a bit, kiss her labia, lick her thighs where they meet her vagina and ramp up the pleasure again. Try to give her at least 2 orgasms this way, then move on to sex and you'll be a god to her.
Many women don't even experience orgasms. Think about if you get one of those lucky girls - you're now her new favorite thing.
Fingering
A misconception among inexperienced men is that when going manual on a woman, he should thrust his fingers in and out, or stuff as many as possible inside. These tend to be unpleasant. Instead, spend most of your time on the clit, and then perhaps work in other forms of stimulation such as the G-spot and deep spot.
Lou Paget in How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure describes various forms of fingering techniques:
1. It Takes 3. She is with her back to you as in watching TV. Put your middle 3 fingers over her clit (pointing towards anus). Slip your middle finger into her vagina. Move back up so index and middle fingers caress the clit.
2. Thumb massage. She is on all 4s, you are behind her. Put thumb inside vagina and massage G-spot.
3. Mini-Fire Starter. Gently squeeze her clit and rotate it between your thumb and index finger. You can also move it up and down (towards and away from the vagina). And you can rotate it such that your thumb goes up (towards air) while your index finger moves down (towards skin), and vice versa. You can jack it off like a penis. Many
of these maneuvers feel better later during the session, and may be too forceful if done before she is adequately aroused.
4. Double duty. As with #1, her back is to you. Pull your palms and fingers upwards, beginning at her thighs, then inner thighs, then her crotch (alternate hands).
5. Touring the dance floor. Trace her labia in circles with your fingers.
Gently pull at her labia.
6. Y-knot. One hand separates the lips, the other hand on top massaging her clit (up and down, rotate), and going into the vagina.
7. The world is your oyster. Woman is on her back at edge of bed, man is on floor. Put fingers on mons while your thumbs massage around her lips, clit and vulva.
8. The sculptor, static C. Same body positions as #7. Make a C shape with your hand. Put thumb into vagina all the way to the web, and press the thumb up into the G-spot while the other fingers push down on the pubic area. Now rock the hand so the thumb glides side-to-side over the G-spot, or try rocking so the thumb glides front-to-back.
9. The sculptor, dynamic gun. Put out your index and middle fingers like a gun. Rest your free (non-dominant) hand on top of her pubic area and pull upwards towards the belly button. Put your thumb inside her vagina and rotate your hand so it glides along the inside wall of her vagina. Then remove thumb, and put your index and middle fingers inside the vagina, and rotate your hand so your fingers glide up along the other inner wall. If this is too difficult, use the index and middle fingers for the entire motion.
10. man. Insert your index and middle fingers and massage the G-spot. Your other hand rests on her pubic area, and can either apply pressure down on top of her pubic area, or can massage the clit.
There is clitoral tissue underneath the pubic bone, and that can be stimulated from above using the non-dominant hand.
11. Frog prince. Make your index and middle fingers doing 'frog kicks' inside her vagina, with the hand either oriented vertically or horizontally.
The Welcomed method involves stimulating the clitoris with the very tip of the lubricated middle finger, lightly touching the glans while passing side to side. Your palm can rest on her pubic area, and your non-dominant thumb can go into the vagina or just below it. The rate is about 2 strokes per second.
The G-Spot and Squirting
Though this patch inside the vagina was described in a modern publication by Dr. Grafenberg (hence the name G spot) in 1950, it wasn't widely recognized until the release of the book The G Spot in 1982. Since the amount of arousal tissue varies widely among women, many women do not find this region particularly sensitive, while others can achieve orgasm when it's stimulated. This has lead to the myth that the G spot does not exist.
The G spot is located on the top surface of the vagina as she lies on her back, about 2 inches in, and deep to the vaginal wall (not in it). It consists of clitoral tissue, as well as paraurethral glands. These glands are the female equivalent of the male prostate, and they release their contents during orgasm. This fluid can enter the bladder and give a sense of fullness. Or women can shoot this fluid out their urethra at the moment of orgasm, what is called female ejaculation.
Women inhibit themselves from squirting because they confuse the sensation with urination. You can help educate women to get past their fear that they are peeing, and encourage them to ejaculate. Squirting orgasms can be very intense, though messy, so you may want to prepare the bed with towels.
A useful demonstration of squirting comes from Seymore Butts' Squirters 2.
To stimulate the G spot, she can get on all fours. There are several motions you can switch between using your index and middle fingers:
1. Press down firmly and slide the fingers in and out of her vagina.
2. Flick the fingers downward (come hither) like you're signaling 'bye-bye.'
3. Rotate the forearm so the middle finger slides side-to-side.
Note that with these you may introduce air, which can come out as she moves, making noises. Don't make fun of her, but it's okay to laugh with her to reduce embarrassment. As her G spot swells you may need to apply firmer pressure.
When she is on her back, you can perform similar maneuvers with your middle and ring fingers. Her G spot is easier to access when her knees are all the way back to her chest. If you are on your knees at her side leaning over her your arm won't fatigue as fast.
She can get onto her knees and you can kneel in front. Get your middle and ring fingers behind the G spot and flick (signal bye-bye). As she gets more excited, the stroking gets rapider.
The Deep Spot
Much is written about the G spot, but many books devoted to female sexuality make no mention of the deep spot. As a result, both women and men often have no first-hand experience with this form of orgasm, putting you at an advantage. Deep spot penetration is one way to induce squirting.
This is covered by Steve P in his White Tiger Tantra instructional videos.
The deep spot is a Frisbee-like region that is located around the cervix, and so is also referred to as the cervical ridge. This ridge can be plucked with a firm 'come-hither' motion, both in the front and the back of the cervix.
Cervical orgasms can occur, though women often do not find massaging of the cervix pleasant.
Sexual Positions
There are several basic positions, and each can have variations:
1. Missionary. Man on top. In coital alignment technique, he presses the base of his penis against her clit by moving his body slightly higher. The man then rocks against her pelvis to grind the clit, as opposed to going in and out of the vagina. Variations of missionary include a) he simply lies flat on her, b) she has pillows under her butt and keeps her legs wrapped around his waist, c) he leans up and back to better access her G-spot.
2. Cowgirl. Woman on top, as if riding a horse. In reverse cowgirl, she is turned to face his feet. During cowgirl, the woman can lean backwards. In reverse cowgirl, she can lean forward until resting on his legs, but this takes a pliable penis; the advantage of this position is it allows for anal play.
3. Rear-entry, or doggy style. Woman on all 4s, man enters from behind. This hits the G-spot. In rear-entry, the man can access the clit. In a variation, the woman can be flat on her stomach and the man on top of her. In another variation, she can be standing, hands on the ground.
4. Woman on man's lap, facing towards or away.
5. Crisscross. Woman on back, man on his side, such that her legs are over his butt.
6. Woman on edge of table or specialty furniture (swing), man standing.
Her legs can dangle off the edge or be supported on his shoulders.
7. Spooning. Man enters from behind while both side-lying.
8. Man and woman standing. This is good for a quickie in a janitor's closet. In a variation, she can wrap her legs around his waist.
Nine Steps of the Taoist Thrust Maneuver is a rhythm of intercourse invented by a 7th-century physician. You will alternate between short thrusts of 1 ½ inches, and long thrusts of the entire length. The ratio will change such that you start with 9 short thrusts followed by one long thrust, then 8 to 2, et cetera, ending in 1 short and 9 long. Then start back at 9-to-1.
Anal Sex
Some women find this pleasurable, many do not. If she is willing to try this out, work gradually into it. Never 'accidentally' go into the wrong hole during sex. One approach is to condition her to be used to anal play during other activities such as cunnilingus. You can calibrate her receptiveness to this by sensing her reaction as your finger wanders close to her anus.
Anal penetration of any kind is best done with lots of lubrication, willingness, relaxation and patience. Avoid any product with anesthetic in it, as this reduces her ability to avoid injury.
Never put anything that was in her butt, into her vagina or mouth. Women will often enjoy butt plugs during intercourse, or anal beads that can be pulled out while she orgasms. All these toys should be thoroughly cleaned between use, and needless to say, you shouldn't share these toys with other partners.