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You will experience stretches of time in your life when you are alone and stuck between relationships. Women depend on their girlfriends to comfort them and set them up with dates and get them back in the game after a broken heart. Are your dumb-ass buddies likely to help you out in a similar fashion? Get real. As a man, you have to depend on yourself to manage your own emotional and romantic life, and be able to bootstrap yourself back onto the playing field when necessary.

For that you need to develop a routine that you can use to score yourself a new girlfriend after you’ve lost one... a standard mate-hunting routine that you can pull out of the tool shed whenever you need it. Such skills will keep you from falling into long periods of isolation, which aren’t necessarily bad in themselves, unless they grow so long that you begin to lose your edge from having been away from pussy too long. Women can sense it when you’ve been out of circulation for any great length of time, and this does not usually help your chances with them, to say the least. Maybe you’re going through one of those periods right now and

that’s why you bought this book, I don’t know. If so, the sections coming up will give you loads of ideas to get you off the dime and socially involved again.

Just remember that getting back on the romantic horse is similar to

breaking a cold streak in baseball – it never ends by just suddenly smashing one out of the park and knocking in two runs. You take the pitcher to a 3-2 count, fight off three fouls, then finally hit a grounder to the shortstop who bobbles the ball which barely allows you make it to first. But you’re on base... finally! Next time up you casually knock a double into left field on the first pitch like some .380 golden boy and ta-da... the slump is over!

That’s how it goes sometimes when trying to break out of a cold streak with women as well. You have to fight like hell just to get that lousy first date with some frumpy dog, then it begins to get easier once you get some stink back on your hang-low again.

I guess the point I’m trying to make in my usual roundabout way is that you need to re-frame the whole notion of meeting women as something other than absolute life-or-death for yourself. As men, we tend to put enormous weight on this subject and way too much pressure on ourselves to make every aspect of it work perfectly. It might be time to view scoring women more like anything else that you somehow figured-out how to do for yourself. Important sure – but you can’t let it threaten to crush you every time things don’t go down well. Packing your parachute before a jump... now there’s a skill you’d better get perfect each and every time! This stuff should be approached more in the spirit of play.

So what if after reading through this gauntlet of “necessary skills” you are now discouraged to discover that you need extensive work in more than one of these areas, what to do? Well don’t panic and get overwhelmed – you just need to split the larger task up into smaller chunks and focus on one aspect at a time.

Trying to completely re-structure your entire life all at once can be a major project, and your enthusiasm for it will certainly bounce up and down along the way. Learn to take time-outs for yourself whenever you get fed up with your progress or lack of it, and come back when you start to feel more enthusiastic about things again. It’s okay to move along in fit and starts – but the absolute most important thing to remember is this:don’t ever give up! It’s not the amount of time involved in any of this that’s significant, it’s the steady movement

forward. As long as you’re getting somewhere with your life at any speed, you’ll get wherever you’re going eventually.

And please enjoy the ride my friend, we only get one.

Developing An Edge For Yourself

In order to effectively come across as a man that a woman might want to take a romantic interest in, I believe that a guy needs to have a little bit of an edge for himself. An edge comes from having some assemblage of emotions working you over... maybe some kind of subtle anxiety about some aspect of your current life situation or whatever. It doesn’t really matter what exactly causes you to possess this emotional edge, only that it exists and is visible in some way just beneath the surface of your character.

The opposite of having an edge is being over-controlled and seeming to have every little aspect of your world in absolute perfect order. Kind of like the nuns in grammar school who used to have everything so neatly and perfectly lined up on their desk. All “T”s crossed and “i”s dotted. People this together are more than a little bit unnerving... just how exactly are you supposed to fit into their neat and tidy life? Will you ever be able to match up to their frighteningly high standards? Yikes! As a guy, you don’t ever want to come across as this much of a poindexter stiff.

A guy’s edge is an announcement that he doesn’t live in a safe and secure little bubble of his own careful design... it says that he’s out there living life,

taking chances, and taking his lumps along the way. This kind of restless energy is sexy to women because they are all about emotions – and they love to see emotions at play in the men who fascinate them! Of course, they don’t expect you to act like a woman and express your emotions all silly-nilly like they do. Women want to see you stoically bearing up under whatever pressures life has created for you. They love it! That’s why bikers and snowboarders and stage performers are more enticing to them than geeks who sit around wrapped up in their safe little (boring) nerd-worlds.

Having an edge creates an interest in you as an unknown entity

whenever you first meet a woman. She can connect with a guy who’s bristling with barely-controlled emotional energy – identify with his pain-anxiety-fear- discomfort or whatever. This is where that first spark of chemistry is also likely

to occur... and for many women, chemical connection is everything. If they don’t catch this spark right away, you’ll have little chance getting onto their radar.

You may be thinking now that what I’m telling you is in direct conflict with the ideas I laid out earlier concerning emotional balance. No, this is just an

example of that fine line I’m always talking about... while it may be valuable to be

balanced for all the positive effects it has on your life, it’s best to seem a little less so when it comes to making an effective impression on women. Get it?

A perfect example of what I’m talking about is how recently divorced guys seem to do better at scoring a new girlfriend than a lot of single guys can

manage, even though they’re only just re-introducing themselves to the dating game again. That’s because the emotional turmoil resulting from a guy’s recent breakup gives him that sexy, vulnerable edge. It also works to overcome the very same network of fears that usually stops the fretful, overthinking single guy dead in his tracks. Men in this agitated frame of mind have an emotional pressure on them that forces them to take chances with women, because they are suddenly free to experience first and think second. A greater desire to fill an empty void in their life overwhelms any fear of rejection which they may have.

So don’t be ashamed to let some of your own emotional edge show off to women as well. It’s what they’re looking for!