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D4-T4 Now, what I want to talk about next is the fourth level up in the SS tools hierarchy. Now, we are getting into the big chunk items here. These are larger items in terms of the tools that we are using, the phenomenon that we are observing, the resources that we have at our disposal. And this is very important to us, because now we are starting to see how things fit into an overall structure.

So on that fourth level, there are two things here that I want you to write down. Two things go on the fourth level. The first one is "your state of consciousness", and the second one is "your frame of mind". Your state of consciousness, your frame of mind.

D4-T5 Now, what does that mean? Let's look at the frame. When you are in a situation, there is a certain way that you are looking at the situation, isn't it? Like imagine... some people get confused about state and frame. So let me give you a way to think about frames for second—meaning, let's say you are talking to someone. So if you form a picture in your mind of you talking to someone. Ok? There

is you and the person in the picture. The frame is around that picture, so it is "How does one see that

interaction".

Is the frame of it that you're "hitting on her"? Is the frame of it that "she is absolutely gorgeous and you are intimidated"? That's a frame. Is the frame that you are some arrogant guy, and you are just sitting there, busting her chops? That's a frame. Is the frame that... you know, you are some lecherous person who doesn't care what she thinks or feels? That's a frame. Is the frame that all you need is to ask for directions so you're asking for her help? That's a frame.

See, a frame is how you look at the situation from afar. It's the frame that you have put around it. And your frame of mind i s . . . the frame in your mind that you are putting on it. So if you are sitting there in the frame that you have is "Oh, she's really gorgeous and very beautiful, and god, I would be so lucky to spend two minutes talking to her" that's your frame. That's not a good frame is it? Ok.

But if your frame is "god, she is stunning, but you know, let's see if there's more to her than that. Let's see what she is like as a person. " That's a frame isn't it? That's a pretty good frame to operate from. If your frame is "boy, I wonder if she'll make me feel better about myself by approving of me or being nice?" Wow. Well, that's a frame... you could... picture that for second, I mean imagine you talking to a woman and looking at it from outside, and looking at it where you are sitting there thinking "boy, if she would only approve of me. I'd feel good about myself, that's a frame. That's not a good frame is it? But the frame of "Hey, I feel good about myself. I want to see if she's woman enough to recognize what a great guy. I am. " That's a frame. I mean picture that. Picture you talking to a woman and the frame around that picture. Ok? And that picture that you are looking at is one of "I am a great guy. Lets see if she can recognize that. " That's a frame.

D4-T6 Now, I want to get a point understood by you guys listening to this product is that guys ask the question a lot of times "What do I have to do to make her think that this is the frame?" Wait a minute. Let's try that again.

Guys will also ask questions like "What do I have to do to convince her that the frame is that I'm seeing if she... '. No, no, no. The frame isn't about you doing something to convince her of what the frame is.

You set the frame. You have to have the frame of mind.

When I hear guys say stuff like "What do I have to do to get her to see that I have the frame of such and such. " No, no, no, no. It does not work that way. You have to have the frame of mind.

See, when guys say, "how to I frame the situation, so that... you know... I am really seeing if she is woman enough to appreciate what a great guy I am?" Well, what they're really asking is "Dave, I don't really believe that. I don't really think that I'm screening her. But I want to fool her into thinking I am. So what do I have to do to trick her into thinking that I am really thinking that she's... " It gets

convoluted to even think about it in that way.

The point of a frame is not to trick her into thinking there is a different frame. The point of a frame isn't to do something to convince her that the frame is something different than it is. The point of a frame is to

have the frame.

If you have the frame, you have set the frame. If your frame of mind is "I am a great guy. I've got a lot going for me that's good, let's see if she is woman enough to recognize it' then you have set the frame. All of... If that's what your belief is, you don't need to do any work. You don't need to convince her, that is your frame, and all of the subtleties of how you present yourself, how you move, how you act, what you say, all of the aspects of what your subconscious is going to be doing, all of those things that her subconscious is going to be perceiving (remember it's very perceptive) that's all going to come across. You have set the frame. You cannot trick somebody into thinking you have a frame that you don't. Well maybe you can, but it's extremely difficult to do it. You have to have the frame.

Look, if you are good guy, you don't need to create a frame or trick her into thinking there is a frame that says you are a good guy, and she needs to recognize... n o . . . have the frame! Know that you have a lot to offer. That's the frame. That's all the work you got to do guys. Really. It's that simple. Ok, there's not a trick to setting the frame. The key to setting a frame is to have the frame have it as a belief, know it for yourself, and then the frame is set.

D4-T7 I hope that make sense about frames, because I want to talk about your state of consciousness next.

Your state of consciousness is how you feel at the time. Okay? And you've got to understand some guys

say, "I want to have a state, that's always on 100% of the time". Well, you know, guess what? No one does. It's good to have a positive state of mind as much as you can, but everybody has normal ebbs and flows to their state. Everybody has times when there in a good mood, and sometimes they are in less than a good mood.

Your state of consciousness is your state. It's how you are feeling at the time. How do you feel? Do you feel good, do you feel less than good? What is your state, and where your mind at... where's your mind at the time. It's how you feel within yourself. Ok?

Now if your state of consciousness, is that you're a positive person, you are looking for positive things, you are focused on a positive outcome, that's a good state to have. A lot of the guys that are focused negatively about what's going wrong, or what could go wrong, what went wrong in the past, that's a bad state to be in. See, the key about being in a good state is to look at the positive things and to focus on the positive things for yourself. Ok? So, your state of consciousness within yourself is your responsibility. You really have to get to a point for yourself and realize that it's ultimately up to you, and it's—really a big part of it—is that it's your own choice. You choose to have a good state of consciousness. That may sound overly simplistic, but it's actually true. Ok? You have to choose to have a good state of

consciousness.

D4-T8 Now here is the key. If you have a great state of consciousness and you have a good frame of

mind about the situation, you are so powerful in terms of meeting women, in terms of using these

techniques. And those things supersede—or they are senior to—everything beneath them on the hierarchy.

Look at the hierarchy for a moment. See, if you are in a great state of consciousness, you feel great, you're having a positive time, you got that state that says "hey, let's just see what happens". Well, how easy do think it is to do all of the other stuff beneath you on the hierarchy? Pretty easy isn't it?

If you have this frame of mind of talking to woman of like "oh my god. Hey, she looks great, but let's see what she's about as a person". Well, that's a great frame of mind to be in. That's a great frame of mind to visualize your interaction with her from, and it's very easy to use to stuff beneath it. See, this is all about being in that proper state, and having a proper frame about the situation.

The Frame and The State

Remember, you set the frame when you walk into the room. The degree to which you are secure, comfortable, and congruent within that frame (and the amount of rapport that you have) will determine the degree to which another person "adopts" your frame as well.

You can't "fool" someone into having them think you have a frame that you don't have. (Ok, maybe you can to a slight extent, and for some period, but for the most part, it does not work that way. )

The frame is that "picture frame" around the situation—how it is seen from outside. Are you the man who is begging her for attention? Or are you the man who knows that he is a great guy and is offering her an opportunity to have some fun?

Your state is how YOU feel. YOU decide that. NO one else. Things can happen to you all day long, and all through your life, but those are just "things that happen". You determine your state by how YOU DECIDE to respond to those things. It IS a choice. Any choice made long enough, or often enough, almost seems like it's not a choice anymore, but it IS. You want to change your state? You already chose to feel the way you are feeling, so just choose otherwise. That is as complicated, or as simple, a process as you want it to be. There are great tools to help with that as well, if you need them. The key is that YOU need to decide to use them, apply them, and change.

D4-T9 Now what I want to do here is to stop for a moment and look at the hierarchy and where we are at. Because it's important that you guys be able to put a lot of the stuff together. Again, although this is getting technical, it's getting a bit abstract, the key to all of this is application, I want you to be able to apply the stuff.

Now, if you are in the correct state of mind, or correct state of consciousness (I'm sorry), and have the right frame of mind about a situation, well, then look at all of the bits and pieces beneath that in the hierarchy. It's much easier to use them. They are much more effective. If you are in that proper state, (ok) imagine the kind of jokes that you'll be able to tell, the theme that can be very interesting

throughout a two-hour interaction with a woman. Being able to do demos and everything else—you are in a great state! It's very easy to use the proper demonstrations, to think of patterns, because you are relaxed and comfortable. If your frame of mind is correct then a lot of the stuff beneath it is very easy to do. Ok? So it is "senior" to it.

Now, one of the reasons its higher on the hierarchy as we see here is that there's an a lot of guys out there who are able to do a lot of the stuff beneath that. They can do patterns. They can do poems. They are good, maybe, at doing themes as well. They are good at all of the stuff beneath it. But sometimes they get nervous. Sometimes, they talk to a really beautiful woman and their frame of mind is all wrong.

It's like "Oh god, if she'd only approve of me, things would be great". Well, where do you think those guys need to work? What do think they need to work on in this hierarchy? Yeah, they probably don't need to work on more commands. Do they? Or more trance words. They need to work on their state of consciousness, and their frame of mind.

D4-T10 A lot of that gets to some of the stuff we will talk about in the future, but I want to take this moment to direct that to you. Your state of consciousness and your frame of mind to determine how effective everything beneath them are. And if you have a good state of consciousness and you are in the proper frame about the interaction it becomes so easy to do the stuff beneath it. It becomes easier,... again,... If you have the proper state and the proper frame, how easy to think it is to do jokes? To tell great stories that really key people captivated? To do demos in a way that people enjoy them and they're having fun?

If you are in the wrong state, or have a wrong frame of mind, how do you think those jokes are going to sound? What you think those demos are going to be like? I mean, some guys out there—you probably know of some friends—and I don't like to focus on negative stuff, but I want a point out some of these things just as an opportunity to learn, I know some guys that have learned some of the Speed Seduction® materials, and some of the demos or patterns, you know they have done the demo and maybe they did the demo the right way, and they said the pattern correctly, but they were in a bad state. They had a bad frame about the situation. Well, even though they said the pattern and the demo correctly, do think they were effective? No. Because they have to have the proper state and frame in order for it all to work. Ok?

Now, it does get easier with time. The more you focus forward and focus positively on the outcomes that you want and move towards then the easier it is to have the correct state and the correct frame. Learn from your mistakes, learn from what went wrong, but focus on the positive and what you want. Ok?

Now, I can do six CDs worth of material just on state and frame itself. But I wanted to show you here where they fit into the hierarchy, and how they affect everything beneath it. I hope that makes sense, and with that, let's move on to the next level.