Dimensión 3. Criterial
III. Resultados
3.1 Descripción de los resultados Tabla 6
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rom the outset, I want to make it clear that having solid energetic bounda- ries is not about isolating yourself from something or someone else; it is using energetic strategies to establish harmony with another context. Most people are familiar with the phrase “establishing firm boundaries” from the popular literature on codependency. We have been told that the codependent enables the other, often an alcoholic/addict who requires everyone else to adjust to their needs. The codependent is the one identified as having insuf-ficient boundaries, whether she is living with someone who is an alcoholic or someone who has a proclivity to fits of irrational rage. In this more traditional psychotherapeutic conceptualization of boundaries, the codependent is the one who tends to reference to the otherʼs needs first, not having sufficient personal resources to advocate for her own needs in the relational context.The codependent often personifies the caretaker or rescuer personality. Their self-esteem is wrapped up with pleasing and serving the other, often as a compensatory strategy to avoid conflict and anger. This creates an internal polarization or split whereby the anger and controlling influence (internally disowned) is typically “dreamed up” as the partner from hell.
In Dynamic Energetic Healing®, the interpersonal relational context remains central for the establishment of healthy boundaries (since personal relationships are a core issue of psychotherapy), but establishing boundaries is substantially expanded (from the codependent model described earlier) to include other related or linked contexts as well. These additional linked
contexts organically emerge when I begin to inquire about how and where clients feel disempowered in their lives. For example, if the diagnostic phase of the initial muscle testing determines that you (the client) have no energetic boundaries with your family of origin, this would likely become our subse-quent focus. I would inquire in detail about all aspects of your relationship to your family: What are the particular disturbance factors you experience? How are you being affected right this moment when you talk about or think about your family? What are your thoughts, your feeling states, and your overall relationship to them? The more information we can bring into the field, the more the relational context is defined and expanded and the more you will have to focus on during the subsequent interventions to create the balance.
Our goal in this scenario is to restore 100 percent of your energetic bound-aries with your family. We will select the appropriate interventions and muscle test afterwards to determine if you are now at 100 percent (at all levels). If we have succeeded, it means that you have made a frequency shift at an energetic level to create a harmonic resonance in relation to your family. This is yet another demonstration reflecting the power of focused intention in relation to a specific context and specific outcome. There may still be unresolved and residual trauma with your family that remains to be dealt with. However, since doing this boundary balance to “reset” the energetic relationship between you and your family, you have now built in an insulating layer of energetic protec-tion that creates a safety zone in which to address the dreaded trauma. You will now be able to think about your family without getting into an extreme emotional state. If need be, you will be able to talk to family members over the telephone without PTSD symptoms being triggered.
Once your energetic boundaries have been established, we will con-tinue to inquire with manual muscle testing about any other family-related boundary issues. These could include unfinished business with particular individuals, particular incidents that occurred within the family, a particular time during your life with your family, and so on. Our goal is to map out the entire matrix of disturbances that, in one way or another, have created weak links in your energetic field (which normally keeps you in a state of homeo-static balance) vis-à-vis your family. The more we identify and define specific relational contexts that are pertinent to our working intention or goal, the easier the work becomes. Energetic boundaries essentially reframe how we are related to something that is creating a disturbance in our life. Our ultimate goal is an optimal, appropriate relationship between you and the disturbance.
Letʼs look at a more specific example. Let us say that one of your parents treated you abusively when you were younger. As an adult, you still find your-self uncomfortable and vigilant any time you encounter that parent. In fact, itʼs common for you to experience some tension and anxiety whenever you are in the same room with that parent. Establishing 100 percent energetic boundar-ies with that parent allows you to maintain your own power whenever you encounter him or her. Your parent may continue to be as controlling or verbally disrespectful as in the past, but being more empowered gives you more choices for how to respond. Having solid energetic boundaries does not suggest you will like this individual any more than you ever have, but it will enable you to sustain an optimal, appropriate relationship with the abusive parent as a way to maintain your emotional homeostasis in that relational context.
Contexts for establishing energetic boundaries are many and varied. If an individual has been negatively influenced by his religious upbringing, he may now carry a great deal of fear about dealing with supernatural phenomena.
It is not uncommon for me to encounter clients who are very apprehensive about dealing with spiritual matters, particularly spirits or the concept of evil.
In these cases, it is important to establish 100 percent energetic boundaries with supernatural phenomena. Once this is accomplished, a bridge has been built supporting the client to consider possibilities that otherwise would have simply generated fear. Dealing with supernatural phenomena becomes the targeted context for establishing optimal appropriate relationship.
The truth is that driving automobiles is usually more frightening than dealing with the supernatural. During one of my trainings, a trainee exclaimed that she continued to be anxious and hypervigilant while driving her car in traffic. This was the result of an earlier collision she had been in. It had been months since the accident, but her anxiety had not improved. We established the intention to eliminate all her anxiety and hypervigilance while she is driv-ing her car. Our first order of business was to establish 100 percent energetic boundaries with her experience of driving her car in traffic. This was the context in which she needed to restore optimal appropriate relationship. We selected frontal occipital holding as the intervention. As I gently made contact with her, I could see that she still carried traumatic shock in her energy field and in her body. With the help of spiritual resources, all traumatic residue was released—no more trauma-elimination work was needed. When we next muscle tested, she was at 100 percent energetic boundaries with driving her car in traffic. A couple of weeks later, she reported that she was driving
nor-mally once again without any anxiety or hypervigilance. She had reclaimed her power and confidence as her energetic boundaries were restored.
Boundary work is one of the most important focal points of Dynamic Energetic Healing®. As you may have gathered by now, any problematic context can be addressed from this conceptualization of energetic boundaries.
Common client issues resolved by establishing or restoring energetic bounda- ries include the following: sleeping difficulties, compulsive overeating, deal-ing with particular emotions such as anger or sadness, specific individuals, work environments, air travel and airports, weather (such as the continuous cold, gray, wet weather during our winter in Oregon), and psychic phenomena (such as being too psychically open and being overwhelmed with information that is unsolicited).
A brief case example illustrates the creativity that can be generated by addressing energetic boundaries. Sarah, a client of mine, is a licensed mas-sage therapist. One of the issues she wanted help with was feeling more empowered and at ease around men. Because of a significant amount of early trauma in her life, it had been challenging for Sarah to maintain 100 percent energetic boundaries with men in general. Though she was comfortable with many individual men one-on-one, when she referred to or encountered men as a collective she began to feel intimidated and disempowered. As Sarah now continues to work on releasing old and residual trauma from her early life events, she is able to maintain her energetic boundaries with men in general for longer periods of time before they begin to erode.
In one particular session, I started out by testing Sarahʼs energetic bounda- ries with women in general and men in general. She was at 100 percent with women in general, but her energetic boundaries with men in general were once again compromised. I then started thinking about contexts. I asked Sarah if her energetic boundaries were compromised with all of her male clients—
they were not. I next asked her (through manual muscle testing) if they were compromised with just one client—no. It turned out that her energetic bounda- ries were compromised with two of her current male clients. When I asked Sarah to talk about it, she told me that each of these two clients has a particu- lar health issue that made her uncomfortable.
The first client she described had hepatitis B from a hospital blood transfusion. After she tapped on her heart chakra for two minutes, she had restored her energetic boundaries to 100 percent with this man. I next asked her to describe the other client with whom she had no energetic boundaries.
She told me that there was a general unhealthy quality about him. She just never felt comfortable around him and always sensed darkness around him.
His body smelled and he had herpes sores on his buttocks. Following up on her description, I asked if there was any dark energy associated with this client—there was. The manual muscle testing indicated there was an earth-bound spirit attached to this man. Her intuitive sensing had recognized this!
Sarah had already called a dermatologist to inquire about the contagion fac-tor for both hepatitis B and herpes. When we completed the interventions and restored her boundaries to 100 percent, she was reminded how important it is to energetically clean her work space as well as her own energy field after working with each client.
Sarahʼs next appointment was four weeks later. In the interim, her attitude toward the client with hepatitis B completely changed from feeling threatened by him to feeling compassion toward him. As to the client with herpes, at the end of his next appointment he announced that he was not going to schedule any other massages. He did not elaborate and Sarah didnʼt ask. Sarah had never had a client who terminated their massage treatments so abruptly or spontaneously. We wondered about this together. All we could surmise is that when Sarah established 100 percent energetic boundaries with this man, she came into an energetic resonance with him so that she was in optimal appropriate relationship. When this occurred, everything energetically shifted within their relational field. Sarah had talked to me about considering asking this man to leave because of her own health concerns; he got the message energetically and took the initiative on his own.
Sarahʼs harmony was restored by establishing energetic boundaries.
Though Sarahʼs story may seem amazing, it is not unique. Working on the energetic level is working at a more essential level than most cognitive- oriented therapists do, which enables changes to occur rapidly and consis-tently. One might say that Sarah effected a change in the relationship with her client at the quantum level. As she shifted energetically, the entire field shifted in accordance! This is an example of why I love Dynamic Energetic Healing®.