DISPOSICIONES GENERALES

Whenever a guy uninitiated to the concept of spinning plates reads the theory for the first time his first response is usually rejection of it because it conflicts with what I call a monogamy-as-goal mindset. Understand, this is always going to be a tough stretch for any guy still plugged in to the feminine Matrix, but it’s not limited to them, it’s also the ‘natural’ guy who doesn’t have much trouble

attracting women. A male-specific, monogamy-as-a-goal mindset serves the feminine imperative, but it also has roots in our natural desire for security. So it makes anything even remotely like plate

spinning counterintuitive.

The feminine imperative pounds into men’s collective consciousnesses over the course of a lifetime that monogamy will cure loneliness, make them responsible, provide them with a constant supply of sex, and a host of other things that assures them it’s “the right thing to do” and it’s in their own best interest. This then leads the more option-less individuals to develop and practice Beta methods and rationales in accordance with what they believe (and have been told by) women is required of them in order to achieve their monogamous intimacy (i.e. the goal of everything).

So, understandably, when the principle of being non-exclusive is presented to them in a rational way (instead of a ridiculed way as it’s normally passed off as) it conflicts with this perceived path to happiness in monogamy. The very idea that any man would be better off with more options in this arena of life, or could feasibly and logistically pull it off, seems foreign. As a counter to this he makes up rationales as to why it wont work or wont work for him.

Logistics

“I can’t spin plates because I have too little time, I can’t manage more than one girl without the other finding out, etc.”

If you are indeed spinning plates in a healthy, upfront, non-exclusive way this should never be an issue. There are Game-aware Men with less time than most who manage 4-5 different girls in a week without having them consume all their leisure and business time. I don’t suggest that you go this route per se, because for the better part PUAs rely on a dishonesty in non-exclusivity. However, the reason they are capable of this is because they’ve perfected plate spinning effectively enough to have the

plates spin themselves. Most uninitiated Betas reason that they must, at all costs, apply a constant effort to each and every individual girl they encounter at risk of losing a “good one.”

Besides this being indicative of ‘soul-mate thinking’, what they fear is losing a plate because they are unaccustomed to ever having had the leisure to do so. This is evidence of a scarcity mentality that is a result of their monogamy-as-goal preconditioning. Plate Theory necessitates an attitude of

fearlessness – not carelessness, fearlessness. When you’re practicing Plate Theory your plates should call you. You are the prize and the Prince who’s time is valuable and sought after. You should be the object of women’s pursuit.

That said, you still have to make an effort to see them and keep the attention you do apply to them valuable, but this must be done with the attitude that if one plate falls you’re confident in your other options or your ability to generate new options.

Personality Type

“I’m just not like that. I don’t want to be considered a ‘playah’. I could never do that to a woman. How can anyone be like that?”

This rationale is a common one and not limited just to chumps. There are plenty of otherwise

confident, positively masculine men who’d still think they owe it to women to allow them to set the frame in their relationships without any fear of competition anxiety.

Players are men who’re dishonest – they are not spinning plates because they are isolating each plate independent of the other, and this goes back to logistics. Of course you can’t find time for anything else if all you do is try to coordinate each individual story with each plate for fear that they discover each other.

The plate spinning Man has no need for this, because he never implies exclusivity to any plate.

Either they accept this or they’re not a plate to consider. Done in a frank, honest, yet indirect way, you will not be a ‘Player’ and you will establish yourself as Man who’s attention is worth a woman

competing for.

Women would rather share a successful man than be saddled with a faithful loser, perfectly sums

up Plate Theory vs. Monogamy-as-Goal mindsets.

Men in general gravely underestimate the power of female competition anxiety and how useful it really is. As I’ll illustrate next, women are natural plate theorists – they are accustomed from a very early age to mitigate multiple sex-interests, they simply learn how to balance their indirect

communications with that anxiety in their own plate spinning.

it if they knew it’s usefulness it is always present. Everything a woman does on a daily basis is

colored by competition anxiety. Make up, clothing, shoes (God, the shoes!), indirect communications with men and women, social contrivances, comparing and evaluating dates and possible suitors, everything is borne from this competitive desire to achieve security with the best possible guy and make damn sure the girl next door doesn’t get him first.

This anxiety is analogous to men’s consummate fear of rejection and all of the myriad rationales he’ll create and the Buffers he’ll devise to avoid it. Bear in mind that monogamy is a dictate of the

feminine imperative. It is the social contract that the feminine ultimately needs in order to quell a constant desire for security in a very chaotic world. When you are predisposed to monogamy-as-goal thinking, or trying to break yourself of this, understand that this is a tool of the feminine imperative. That’s not to discount the overall merits of monogamy, but it is to make you aware of how it’s

acculturated into men as a responsibility to providing monogamy. Men who find themselves in a state of internal conflict about abandoning monogamy-as-goal are really confronting a fundamental shift in their prior feminine conditioning.

PLATE THEORY V