3. DESARROLLO METODOLÓGICO
3.4 ETAPA 3: DISEÑO E IMPLEMENTACION DEL CURSO VIRTUAL
3.4.7 Etapa 3/Actividad 3: Validación
(January 2009)
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he subject is “How to Transition Into Language Patterns.” Very often, people say, “I can do the walk-up and get started talking, but it just feels awkward transitioning into patterns. How do I do it, Ross?” This video is going to address that question.Here are some reminders:
1. First, a pattern like the Discovery Channel pattern or the Blow Job pattern is not just a long, memorized speech.
2. A pattern is any use of language that will capture and lead the imagination and emotion of women, open up the third or fourth levels of her mind, and get the right brain going. It could be the use of suggestive language, embedded commands, questions, metaphors or jokes.
3. Next, don’t predict your outcome prior to experimenting. Your worries about getting caught or about whether you’ll feel awkward doing it may have no accuracy as far as what will really happen.
I also want you to remember that just because you’re uncertain or nervous doesn’t mean you’re about to fail. Your uncertainty and nervousness usually contain no information value whatsoever about what’s going to happen in the outside world.
It’s just a report about what’s going on in your own neurology There may be no connection. Just because you’re feeling nervous doesn’t mean the other person won’t receive what you’re about to do very well. You just don’t know.
I want to give you this concept of gold coins, counterfeits and fishhooks. Many guys think that using language patterns or Speed Seduction® is
something they have to get away with or that they’re going to get caught doing, that it’s like committing a minor crime such as picking someone’s pocket, stealing their watch or peeping in their window.
In reality, this way of talking and expressing yourself is what women hunger for. You’re giving out the gold coin. Everyone else is counterfeiting with their 5 Bs: bullying, begging, buying, BSing and booze.
The other aspect is that a lot of guys’ discomfort around using patterns has to do with the fact that they wouldn’t want to be talked to in this fashion. You, as a guy, think that if someone talked to you with language patterns, you’d hit them in the face.
I like to use the metaphor of fishing. When you go fishing, you don’t bait the hook with your favorite food. If you like peanut butter-and-jelly sandwiches, that’s not what you bait your hook with. You bait it with what the fish like to eat. This is what women like.
If you don’t believe me, do some research. What is the highest-selling genre of books, the one that outsells everything else? It’s romance novels.
Also, the worst that can happen when you try this stuff is that nothing happens. If something bad does happen, 99% of the time the worst that happens is that nothing will happen. She just won’t respond.
Finally, I want to remind you that sometimes in life it makes sense to be dramatic and go for heroic progress with fantastic marathon dedication. At other times, you just want to do steady practice. Depending upon where you are in your life and what else is going on, one or both of these may
work better for you. I recommend steady practice.
Let’s talk about transitioning into patterns. Your first basic choice is to do a demo or quiz, such as my Twin Brother scenario, my Snack Quiz or the Blammo.
An example of the Snack Quiz would be, “Let’s see if we’re snack compatible. Do you like Pringles or pretzels? Answer honestly.” No matter what she answers, you say, “Damn. Let’s try for two out of three. How about little Goldfish snacks or Ritz crackers?”
Basically, the Snack Quiz just gets her talking about what she likes to snack on. It’s not as innocent as you might think because it’s actually bringing up the topic of indulgence, and what she likes to enjoy and put into her mouth. You can see where I’m going with it.
Instead of a demo or a quiz, you could ask a seduction question. An example of a seduction question would be, “When you really want to cut loose, indulge yourself and enjoy, what do you love to do?”
Your third choice is to do a traditional memorized pattern. Essentially, there are three different starting positions.
Any one of these three categories can be introduced with one of the following transition phrases. “Do you want to see something really cool I learned?” “I noticed something very interesting about you.” “Do you know what I think teaches you a lot about people?” “I watched the most interesting show on TV the other night.” “I’ll bet I can show you something about yourself that no one else knows.”
As you can see, these transition phrases can introduce almost anything.
I also want to recommend that you offer challenges, particularly when you’re doing a demo or quiz. I like these. They are good. You could say, “I don’t know if you’re X enough to really want to learn about yourself,” where X is whatever positive quality she would want to live up to.
Some of the typical qualities that women want to think they show in their lives are open-mindedness and adventurousness. “I don’t know if you’re open-minded enough to really want to learn about yourself” or “I don’t know if you’re adventurous enough to really want to learn about yourself.”
Here’s another one. “You know there’s something really interesting I’d like to show you about yourself, but not everyone is up to learning new things.” What is she going to say? Would she really say, “I don’t like learning new things”?
The other thing is that we don’t tell her what that something is. We’re not going to let her know up front what that something is in order to make her curious about it.
What is she going to say? “No. I don’t like to learn about myself. I’m a militant dumbass. I just like to have sex, smoke dope and listen to bad rock ‘n’ roll.” Even if she is a dumbass, she doesn’t want to admit it.
I recommend that you get the “Gold Walk-Up” DVD. It’s really simple to introduce patterns. All you have to do is get your ass out there and do it.