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“Well, that’s obvious, everyone knows that you need feelings to be in a relationship,” you might think. You are right, but how many times have you heard the words “I had a good feeling he or she could be the one!”

and it turns out those “good feelings” were wrong. There are many of us who have no idea what emotional attraction means, let alone how it works. Most of the time, we’re too preoccupied with the superficial “feel-ings’ of physical attraction that we fail to recognize the more elementary, more significant inner process.

People skilled in the appropriate display of emotions make a more fa-vourable and lasting impression . . .

Human preference for emotional expressiveness is something that has been pre-programmed into our psyche via thousands of years of primate heritage. Our pre-programming has led us to be uniquely sensitive to in-tensity, smoothness, regularity, and rhythm of body motions, and whether we gain or lose energy from being around a particular person.

Given a choice between several individuals with similar dress, hair, grooming, and accessories, the man or woman with the “less than perfect”

body or hair, who speaks with passion, is vibrant and quick to smile, al-ways has a twinkle in the eye, and looks happy, will be found more sexu-ally appealing than someone who looks stressed, stiff, and full of himself or herself. We naturally imagine that a person who exudes an animated general state of well-being feels more deeply and experiences more pro-foundly and therefore must be more delightful to be with.

Men and women are more attracted to others who look like they are en-joying themselves because they are looking for new and uplifting experi-ences with a vibrant soul that is full of support and encouragement. They want to see a common energy or “mood of life” that unites them with someone special and to believe with great certainty that involvement with him or her will bring about enjoyment, excitement, arousal, intimacy, nur-turance, or some reward related to personal expansion. And they want someone who has a similarly strong drive toward natural liveliness, versa-tility, interest in new ideas and new experiences, and with whom they can

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intelligently share a life that is more interesting than it would be if they were single and alone.

Emotionally attractive people are not born that way. It takes a bit of work and commitment to become emotionally attractive . . .

It is not possible to scientifically measure how much energy we gain or lose from being around a particular person, but for whatever reason, some people are easy to be around and some aren’t.

We gain energy from those people who bring out the best in us and with whom we feel more energized just by being around them. Energy drainers are the exact opposite. They are like a gigantic breathing and walking sponge sucking the very life out of us. They leave us emotionally and physically exhausted after being around them, even in a short period of time. Energy “drainers” come in different shades and varieties. They in-clude those who are pessimistic, selfish, or cynical; those who lack pur-pose in life; those who are always whining and complaining, or always worrying over what they said or how they said it; those who only see “the negative” or “conspiracy” in everything and everyone; those who always try to discourage rather than encourage; those who engage in gossip or pass around unfounded facts about others; those who are afraid of taking risks and see only obstacles; those who are always telling you what to do with your life and yet they themselves are not any happier; those who live lives that are incongruent with their innermost values, hopes, dreams, and desires—the list goes on.

My personal “secret” for maintaining high energy and vitality in life is to avoid people who are always looking for someone or something to “give them energy” or make them “feel good” about themselves. Of course, sometimes situations develop that require us to “lend” energy to another person to help them back up to be self-sustaining. I experience a lot of this in my practice. I know that these people are not purposely draining my energy but are stuck somewhere and need a little “energy” boost, but I am careful not to allow myself to burn out and crash! If the person shows no sign that he or she is trying to get his or her energy level back up but in-stead is relying on “mine” to keep him or her going I cut loose. It took me

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a long while to learn how to cut energy drainers loose but now I also teach my clients how to get rid of energy drainers in their lives so that they do not have to depend on my energy because theirs is being sucked out by a friend, relative, lover, or spouse.

When it comes to emotional attractiveness, you can make the best bet on the “law of reciprocity” . . .

If a person senses an emotion being sent to him, a very human thing to do is return it.

I’ve had clients who come to me wanting to know why they are always attracting people who are not “warm and intimate” and then go ahead and say, “I am really not a feely-touchy person and I have trouble com-plimenting people.”

Happy, deep, and moving emotional experiences stand out positively in the other person’s mind; painful, shallow, and dull emotional experiences stand out negatively in the other person’s mind. In general, the more posi-tive and less negaposi-tive the emotional experience, the more they’ll like us. A positive experience here includes sharing moments of fear, grief, sadness, or pain. A positive emotional experience also goes far beyond “sharing”

how each feels.

The important function of the art of seduction is to transfer your “good feelings” to the other by touching their emotions and senses . . .

In the stages of initial contact, your emotional attractiveness is judged by your ability to hold a man or woman’s imagination long enough for him or her to experience (get a taste of) your enthusiasm, passion, and energy.

The mistake most single people make is to waste time explaining to a man or woman that they are right for him or her, that they are better than the next loser, and all that other explaining claptrap. Rather than explaining, it is much better to allow the person to feel for him or herself and later on, on their own, to recall the warmth and security they experienced. This is more likely to be with good feelings about the future.

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So, the obvious question must be: How the heck do you work with some-thing as high speed and fickle as the imagination?

The imagination is a responsive device that does not act on its own accord but rather reacts to what is presented to it. You’ve probably heard that it’s always best to “leave something to the imagination.” There is some sense in this in as far as titillating and perhaps, where some extra enticement is involved, but this is not usually the best thing to do especially when the little that is revealed, said, shown, or exposed, does nothing to the imagi-nation except to trigger the question “why?” The other person should not have to guess about anything. Most people are unable to accurately read another person’s body language, let alone their minds. Take nothing for granted. Whatever is shown or exposed should be clear and suggestive enough to trigger the right emotions and evoke the right response—a knowing look, an inviting comment, a suggestive or provocative gesture that the other person can’t help but see and notice.

Your job is to create an “emotional snapshot” that allows the other per-son to put him or herself at the center of the picture . . .

If they can’t grab onto the emotional image (what is in it for them, emo-tionally), they will not be emotionally moved. An emotional snapshot is an internalized emotional picture of how great a person will feel, in this case, how deeply and profoundly a man or woman will feel when they’re with you. If you can show that you can provide a deeply satisfying ex-perience of affection and connectedness you will cause their own imagina-tion to do the seducimagina-tion on your behalf. Such snapshots do not require an explicit visual presentation or complete sentences or explanations, and they do not necessarily have to suggest sex unless of course that is what you are after.

While the judgment of how one dresses and presents general physical ap-pearance inevitably includes subjective opinion and contextual issues, some women are desperate to sexually appeal to men, and the rest follow like sheep, scared to act differently or be seen as unfashionable. We can’t ignore the fact that something that is obviously packaged to appear visu-ally erotic arouses sexual feelings associated with that object or person.

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Commercial advertisers know it. Even the men and women in the sex trade industry know it. It’s just a fact of life. If you do not want to be seen merely as a “sex object,” then make sure there is more “accent” in the way you dress that sends a strong message about you and how you want to be perceived and treated.

The next question, of course, is: What, specifically, should a man or woman do to effectively stimulate and hold the imagination so that it trig-gers appropriate emotions in a man or woman?

For seduction to be meaningful and pleasurable, what is exposed or re-vealed to the other person should lead to an expectation of enjoyment, ex-citement, arousal, nurturance, or some reward related to personal expansion that the other person believes with great certainty he or she will get from engaging you. If your efforts fail to accomplish this, the other person will still imagine and create an “emotional snapshot”—like one of sizzling roast ribs on an oven rack—something else that takes him or her further away from the possibility of connecting with and being tuned to you.

Effectively stimulating and holding the imagination is an art that requires skill and practice to pull it off.

Engage the emotions and the intellect in extraordinary and equal meas-ures . . .

Everything we experience causes us to experience an emotion to some de-gree. Your words, actions, and behaviours therefore have to add some-thing more to the experience for it to evoke intense emotions. If your words, actions, and behaviours can actually elicit complex combinations of emotions and thoughts and the other person can experience the emo-tions in “real time” or undergo an emotional change associated with an emotion, then the other person will associate the intense emotion with you. The more emotionally involving the experience, the more likely it is to change the other person’s emotional state and so increase the level of attraction they feel towards you; and the stronger the emotion, the stronger the attraction.

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Strong emotions also create strong memories. Emotions that capture a mood or feeling that is subtly creative, interesting, and challenging help keep that experience alive in memory, and help both of you revive or re-live the pleasantness and wonder of the experience whenever you want to.

To make the most of it, engage as many of the person’s senses as you can.

If one sense is prompting the person to “feel” one emotion while another sense is prompting another emotion altogether, the person will become confused and immediately begin to “drift” or disconnect altogether.

Intensify the emotions once they’ve been created . . .

One of the most important things you can do to make someone feel at-tracted to you is to make them feel special. Uniqueness and exclusivity is something that we all secretly long for. Our hearts and souls are finely tuned to seek out a man or woman who treats us as if we are the centre of their universe. There’s nothing that is a bigger turnoff for both men and women than being seen as every other single guy or woman out there.

When you make someone feel special, they in return will feel you are also special. This is not about seeking her or his approval but rather a contrac-tual exclusivity played consciously and knowingly by both partners.

Look at it this way—you’re the owner of a luxurious brand who wants to confer an image of superior quality to a buyer. You are not going to achieve this by using “first come first serve,” “open house,” or “one size fits all” methods. You must create a sense of “exclusivity” in some way.

The other person must somehow feel that he or she has “arrived.” A sen-suous seducer takes “exclusivity” one step further. He or she doesn’t stop at the “by invitation only” phase, but instead creates an entire lifestyle.

Like “members only” offerings, sensuous seducers live up to their prom-ise. Because human relations, including sexual relations, have a different nature and meaning to sensuous people, they have the extraordinary abil-ity to tap into the deepest and sometimes most forbidden desires, fanta-sies, and passions of their dates, lovers, and spouses, challenging them to become more of themselves and do more than they’d dared to do before.

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Let the other person feel you went to some effort just to be with him or her . . .

Stay focused and be present with him or her at all times. Staying focused and present does not mean trying to respond to the person’s every expec-tation (including our own unrealistic ones), or trying to anticipate, judge, and analyze the other person’s every word or action. Instead, being pre-sent and focused is being open and alert in your interaction which has just one goal—to focus undivided attention on the other person and to make her or him feel exclusive. Everything else you will do or say will come from this connection you make by focusing and paying attention on him or her. When this connection is lost, the power of seduction is lost—the interaction degenerates to a lot of “trying this” or “trying that” to see what will fly, and in most cases, lots of uncomfortable silences in-between.

Creating exclusiveness requires a wise and intelligent awareness about what you are doing—a knowing look or adoring sparkle in your eyes, not dumb adoration, but total focus, total attention to what he or she is saying, sensitivity to and awareness of his or her needs.

Let him or her feel you’re “worth” the time . . .

Exclusivity, in and of itself, brings very little reward if the other person doesn’t feel the time spent is “worth it.”

Almost every emotionally healthy man or woman is wired to seek experi-ences that involve messing about—trying different approaches and new things that create engaging, fun, and meaningful interactions, and that make them feel good about themselves. Step into the situation with a calm relaxed playful liveliness and exuberance and in every moment be ready to take the unknown and the difficult, and make it into something famil-iar, friendly, and rewarding, without placing limits or restrictions on it.

This requires you to be very adaptable, flexible, and innovative. You also need to be open and yet focused, sharp and also spontaneous, something that might be a little uncomfortable for people who don’t like to make

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mistakes and prefer structure and predictability and who have a tendency to feel impatient and frustrated.

Resist the urge to rush . . .

One way to make emotions more powerful and more “bonding” is to stretch out the moment. A seductive intention must be shown gradually, bit by bit, if you want to effectively stimulate and hold the imagination so that it triggers appropriate emotions in a man or woman. Always keep in mind that the present moment hovers between becoming the past and progressing into the future. Even if you know where you want to go, don’t rush the moment. If you rush through, not only will you cheat yourself of this most delicious part of seduction, but it may be very difficult to recre-ate the sense of deep connection once you have gone too far.

Furthermore, it is impossible to know the intentions or feelings of the other with complete certainty. Rushing things too fast may force him or her to make a premature evaluation of you and your intentions. Most men and women are guarded and watchful of possible physical intrusions by others, listening beyond beguiling words for manipulative intentions, and are adept at sniffing out danger. It is a natural instinct of self-protection that triggers such defensive behaviour. Taking your time to experience each and every moment as new, significant, and necessary allows you to observe how the other is reacting. It is well worth remembering the sensi-bilities of the senses. They are your best ally.

We all have the ability to craft emotionally transcendent experiences that can make our dates, lovers, and spouses feel they are flirting (literally!) with the unpredictable and the unknown in a most intense, agreeable, pleasing, charming, endearing, enticing, enlivening, and reality altering way. Who wouldn’t want to spend eternity with someone like that?