CAPÍTULO IV ANIMALES MUERTOS
INFRACCIONES Y SANCIONES
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Women want guys that are, well, men. They want someone who is masculine and almost macho because they want to feel protected and safe. There is a misnomer among a lot of women that nice guys won’t fight for their “honor” if it comes up in a relationship.•
They think nice guys aren’t capable of satisfying them when it comes to physical intimacy.Wow. When you think about these things, they really hold water with a lot of the ladies. So come on, girls – give the nice guy a chance!
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t happens. That great-looking guy with the new Benz turns out to be a real jerk. He showed up late and is obnoxious. Here are some ways to gracefully and safely get out of a bad date.First of all, on just about any first date, don’t let the man pick you up. Meet at the restaurant or movie theater. That way you will always have an escape option if he is intoxicated or you just don’t want him to know where you live by the end of the date.
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Set a time limit. If it looks like he’s not going to appeal to you and be annoying or rude, say something like, “I’m sorry. I can only stay until 9 p.m., as I am expecting an important call from overseas,” or something like that.•
Everyone knows this one: set up a phone call that will come in from a friend or relative about 30 minutes into the date. If the date is going badly, you can pretend there is an emergency and you have to leave.•
Get sick. Fake sick. Cough or look down and excuse yourself to go to the bathroom. Stay about five minutes and when you come back say that you don’t feel so good and want to go home.•
Tell him that you are not interested but have a friend that he might be interested. This one can be tricky because you don’t want to set up any of your girls with a bad date. However, if it’s just you that don’t like him for whatever reason, you can play matchmaker and ease out of the date that way.•
Have a friend crash the date. Set it up ahead of time that your BFFWays to Get Out of a Bad Date
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Use the “F” word… “You’re a nice guy, but I don’t think we can be more than FRIENDS.”•
Use the “K” word. Kids. They are fool proof! Here ya go: “I’m sorry. My kid wasn’t feeling well today and I feel I need to get home and take care of him.”Don’t cut and run. It’s mean and it’s rude. Just use one of these methods to gracefully exit the date.
What to Do After That First Date
With texting and cell phones and social media, it’s hard to avoid communicating after that first date. And it’s not like the old days when you had to just sit and wait to see if he was going to call or come by and ask you out again.
Nowadays, you can take some initiative as well. Here are some tips to help you handle the post first date and any anxiousness you might have from it.
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Be sure you are both in agreement how the date went. It’s as simple as this: if he said he’d like to see you again, all systems are “go.” However, if I didn’t really say anything, he may not be interested or he’s just not sure if he you liked him.•
Follow up with a text or an email. “Hey, I had a great time.” Keep it simple if you are interested in seeing him again. By telling him simply that you had a good time, you are throwing the ball back in his court to reach out to you for another get-together. If you aren’t, just say “Thanks for a nice time. I wish you the best.” That has a finality to it that is not rude or mean.•
Don’t let technology start to define your relationship or set its precedent. What that means is that face-to-face meetings are theStrong Women only IntImIdate Weak men
best way to really get to know someone. Don’t hide behind the texting and emails, and don’t let him do it either.
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Stay away from social media at this early stage. Do not broadcast on Facebook or Twitter what happened on your initial date. The world does not need to know, and honestly, why would you do that when you know there are going to be people out there that will be negative about it. Keep it light and just between you two at this early stage.•
If you dig him, go ahead and ask for a second date. And again, don’t do it on social media. Keep it private and simple. Text him something like, “It was cool hanging out with you. I’d love to see you again.”•
Now don’t go manic and expect return texts or emails immediately. Once you’ve made it clear that you are interested, let him do his thing. Maybe he wants to check back with the friend or person who hooked you too up, or maybe he is a working cat who will take his time thinking about the next weekend, which is when he may be available. Just be cool and don’t overdo it and make him think you are desperate or worse, easy.A first date is not a relationship – it’s just a first date. Don’t make a big deal out of it. Enjoy it and let it possibly be the start of something bigger.
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urely it’s not easy to stay away from becoming intimate in a relationship these days. We are bombarded with TV shows and movies that paint romantic pictures of one-night stands and people doing the dance with no pants all over the place.But there are guys out there that will respect your position on having a celibate relationship until you are ready or committed to marriage. Here are some signs that can help you decide when it’s time to spend the night together.