The biggest social superstars, politicians like Bill Clinton and John F Kennedy, know how to use their sexuality as a key ingredient to their rise in stardom.
Most people, by nature, try to suppress their sexual needs and desires.
This leads to a population of people who hunger for their fix of sexuality through pornography, explicit chat rooms, hidden affairs, and romance novels.
For this reason, the individual who his comfortable, and better yet, makes us feel comfortable with our sexuality is a refreshing change of pace, and we begin to crave this person's presence.
This is something that I've always been extremely good at. I've never viewed sex as something dirty or to be ashamed of, so I tended to naturally talk about it. While people are usually taken back at first, soon they are opening up to me with their explicit thoughts. Very few people give them this opportunity so it automatically puts you in an
advantageous position.
I remember a few years back, I had been working in a restaurant for about a year. For the first year working there, I didn't socialize much with this group as I had a huge scene at college, and a girlfriend that was already occupying most of my time. I also found these people incredible tame for my taste.
Well, after graduating college, and simultaneously getting dumped by my girlfriend, I found myself spending more time with these people. I brought my frank sex talk with me, and openness to admit explicit details of my life without blinking an eye.
Soon this tame crowd was openly discussing the use of vibrators, threesomes, and an entire other lot of topics that had previously been unheard of to discuss.
I became almost a guru to them. They looked to me to tell them was alright to discuss and admit to. Which gave me an unbelievable amount of power. At my command I would have girls hooking up with each other, random games of truth or dare, orgies (yes I will tell this story one day) and countless one night stands.
By creating an environment where everyone was able to let their guard down and feel confident expressing their desires, sex became just another every day activity. There were no games behind it anymore. On many occasions I would sleep with more than one girl in a night… with both of them well aware of what was going on.
This is an art form. And not something that you should assume you have the skills to do right off the bat. If done wrongly, you will wind up looking like a sex crazed pervert. You don't want to come off as the horny college guy who can't stop talking about sex. You need to come off as having a maturity towards sex beyond your years. Almost as if you're more evolved towards it then others. You have to be comfortable talking about it because it is such a natural part of your life that you would not be able to understand otherwise.
By creating an environment where sex is not a taboo subject, you create an environment where everyone feels free to indulge in it. This is similar to the movement that went on in the 1960's with the hippies. Although I don't suggest taking the "free love" approach, as that will only label you a dirty hippie.
Chapter 7: Cultivate a fan base
(commitment + liking + reciprocation)
Your Objective:
The objective of the following chapter is to teach you how to develop a legion of people who worship you. The previous chapters have given you the tools necessary to be the type of guy who people want to be around. But a crucial element to becoming a social superstar is to be liked and adored. The three most important weapons of persuasion and influence for building a fan base are commitment, liking, and
reciprocation.
Your communication skills need to be honed to near perfection. If you want to have people following you it is important that you first get them to like you. Once someone decides that they like you it will be much easier to use the other weapons of persuasion and influence on them.
The following section will teach you exactly how to get people to like you.
The second step in building a fan base is to get them to commit to the idea of following your lead. People's attention's spans often waiver. They quickly get sucked back into their own day to day existence. This is why it is necessary to use specific psychological techniques that will mentally bind them to sticking with you.
The third weapon of influence you must use to build your fan base is the weapon of reciprocation. This is perhaps the most powerful of all the weapons. This weapon simply states that human beings feel a mental obligation to repay favors done for them. In the following section I am going to show you how use the power of reciprocation to get legions of people looking for ways to help you achieve superstardom.
Your Plan:
This next section will get you further in life than any of the previous sections. If you follow the communication techniques laid out
throughout the rest of this section you will make more friends, date more women, earn more money, and live a more exciting and rewarding life than 98% of the population.
These three weapons of influence (liking, reciprocation, and
commitment) are so powerful that if you can master them the world will be handed to you on a silver spoon.