In this part I will cover some of the more advanced topics relating to male multiple orgasm. Most of these techniques will become relevant only once you are fairly comfortable holding off your ejaculation while having an orgasm and do so regularly while having sex.
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The Use of Partial Ejaculation
So far, partial ejaculation has been something that indicated that you still have to do some work on your multiorgasmic abilities. Having some of the semen come out during a non-ejaculatory orgasm meant that you weren’t able to squeeze your PC muscle hard and long enough to hold off ejaculatory spasms. As a result you probably lost some of your erection.
However, once you are comfortable holding off your ejaculation entirely, you may discover that sometimes, you have an orgasm, but retain both your erection and arousal “so well” that you almost immediately find yourself wanting to ejaculate again. And so you have to either ejaculate and thus end the intercourse earlier than you perhaps wanted to or to hold off another ejaculation. If this happens too often during a single session of sexual intercourse, it can be very tiring for your PC muscle and you will still have to ejaculate quite soon, so your sexual intercourse won’t be much longer than it would be without using multiorgasmic techniques. Plus the sex will be very “choppy” – you thrust a few times and then have to wait until the orgasm is over, then you thrust a few more times and have to hold back another ejaculation. So, you may find yourself in a situation where you would
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want to lose some of your arousal at every non-ejaculatory orgasm so as to make the intervals between the orgasms longer.
This is where partial ejaculation comes in. Basically what you want to do, is to proceed with stimulation normally as you would with multiorgasmic sex and squeeze your PC muscle as ejaculation becomes imminent. This time however, somewhere during the orgasm, you want to quickly relax your PC muscle and instantly tense it again. The idea is that during this short period of relaxation one or two of the ejaculatory spasms manages to get through. Along with those spasms, some of the ejaculate may also come out. As a result, you should be able to retain an almost full erection while losing some of the arousal, thus extending the time needed to achieve the next orgasm. Exactly when to relax your PC muscle and for how long, you will have to figure out for yourself. With practice, you can learn to maintain an absolutely rock-hard erection while not being as aroused as you would normally expect to be in this state.
You will probably notice that it is not the partial ejaculation itself that reduces your arousal. It is actually the spasms. It’s almost as if with every ejaculatory
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before you can have another orgasm. The interesting thing is, you don’t necessarily have to ejaculate – you might actually have these ejaculatory spasms without any ejaculate coming out. Thus the name “partial ejaculation” is perhaps not very accurate.
Remember, in the beginning of the book I said that orgasms, and ejaculation are separate things – if you have achieved a non-ejaculatory orgasm, then you have already experienced this yourself. Now I would actually expand that statement: orgasms, ejaculation, ejaculatory spasms, loss of erection and loss of arousal – these are all separate things. The usual male experience is for all five to occur simultaneously. That’s the ordinary ejaculatory orgasm. With advanced multiorgasmic skills you will however discover that these five elements can occur in almost any combination. How to achieve various combinations will be up to you to discover, because this is a very individual process. Partial ejaculation is one of the techniques to experiment with.
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Total Release
Once men harness the power of the PC muscle, there is an interesting tendency among them to start using almost all the time. You are having sex and you are constantly tensing and releasing the PC muscle, thereby “tweaking” and “fine- tuning” your arousal the way you want it. It’s certainly a good thing to be so much in control of your arousal, but only up to a point. If you find yourself constantly pumping your PC muscle even when you don’t really need to hold off an ejaculation, here is something I would suggest. Simply try completely and entirely relaxing your pelvic floor when you are between two orgasms.
There are several reasons to try to do this. First, it frees up your mind from having to be in complete control of your arousal and thinking when to squeeze and when to release. This makes sex less “technical” and much more “sexual”. You can pay more attention to your own sensations, to your feeling and definitely much more attention to your partner. Secondly, it lets you preserve PC muscle strength and endurance for when you really need it – the non-ejaculatory orgasms. Your PC muscle can rest while you are enjoying yourself and is there for you when you want to prolong the enjoyment. Thirdly, you might actually discover that keeping
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the muscle relaxed strangely increases the time between orgasms. Whether that’s a good thing or a bad thing, is up to you to decide. I have personally found that I prefer having significant periods of time between my orgasms, and so have quite a few men I’ve talked to. Fourth, you might also discover that having the muscle completely relaxed between the orgasms somehow tends to increase the pleasurability of the orgasms that follow. I cannot proide a definite explanation for this, but I think it has something to do with the fact that the arousal builds up slowly and gradually and is not interrupted by constant squeezes, and so becomes “deep” or “thorough” by the time of the next orgasm.
I’m not saying you should always keep your PC muscle completely relaxed when you are not orgasming, especially since it would contradict some other stuff that I talk about. I’m just saying it’s definitely something to try every now and then and see how you like it.
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Orgasming without pausing
Now this is something that you may started to wonder about: can you actually have a non-ejaculatory orgasm without having to pause the stimulation in order to prevent ejaculation? The short answer is yes. The longer answer is that it will take a considerable amount of practice, but is completely possible.
So, how do you go about getting this skill? Basically you have to add, bit by bit, the amount of stimulation you get during your non-ejaculatory orgasm. If currently you go about your multiple orgasms the way I showed you earlier in this book and stop the stimulation entirely for the duration of the orgasm, then what you have to do is to start by adding just a tiny bit of extra stimulation into your non-ejaculatory orgasm.
For example, you are having sex and are about to ejaculate. You engage your PC muscle and stop the stimulation. As you are holding off the ejaculation and see that it’s going fine so far, so you make a thrust with you penis. This will often make the squeeze more difficult, but if you manage to hold off the ejaculation
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nonetheless, you have just increased your comfort zone. The next time you are having a non-ejaculatory orgasm, you can try adding two thrusts in the middle of it and see if you can still hold off the ejaculation.
This way, increasing bit by bit, very gradually, you will after a while find that you can almost handle a continuous (albeit very slow) stimulation thoughout the entire orgasm. Now you have to gradually increase the speed of this stimulation every time you are having a non-ejaculatory orgasm.
Be ready to have quite a few “flops” while you are doing these exercises. Every time you increase the amount of extra stimulation, you are stepping into uncharted territories and sometimes will have unwanted ejaculations. Don’t let this discourage you. Simply back down, stay at the previous amount of stimulation for a few times and try to move up again.
This learning process takes quite a lot of dedication, but certainly pays off. Many women prefer continuous stimulation as it makes it easier for them to achieve vaginal orgasms. So if you are practicing this with your woman, she will probably be grateful for you effort. In addition, developing this skill raises your control over
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your sexuality to a whole new level and will probably be very satisfying for yourself.
Accelerating an ejaculation
Here’s a topic that you would have probably found absolutely ridiculous before you found out about male multiple orgasms. Delaying ejaculation as much as possible is probably the biggest sexual problem for most men. Multiorgasmic abilites, however, give you such incredible abilities in holding off your ejaculation that you may want to actually know a way of accelerating it.
You may find yourself in a situation where you have held off one or more ejaculations and are now in a kind of an arousal plateau – you have a strong erection and are quite aroused, but despite being in constant sexual motion, your arousal doesn’t seem to increase. This may be a great situation to be in – it gives you a chance to give your woman vaginal orgasms and to emotionally connect with her during sex without racing towards an ejaculation. But at times, it can also be fairly annoying. Maybe you or your partner are tired, maybe you are both
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already satisfied with the sex or maybe you don’t have much time (for whatever reason). In any case, here are a few things you can do to get your arousal to grow faster.
First of all, you can try changing positions to something where your penis is as downwards oriented as possible. It tends to be the case for most men, that the more upwards-oriented their penis is during sex, the slower their arousal grows. That is why “woman on top” positions are often recommended for men who are a bit too quick to finish. (Poor them, they don’t know about male multiple orgasms :).) For this reason I would suggest switching to the missionary position or something like that if you want to ejaculate faster.
Secondly, you should try to relax your PC muscle as much as possible. When men develop multiorgasmic abilities and learn to control their arousal using the PC muscle, they tend to start using it all the time, squeezing it every now and then, even when they don’t need to hold off an ejaculation. As I’ve said earlier, there’s no problem with this, but it may become an obstacle to faster ejaculation. This is kind of contrary to what I said earlier in the section “Total Release”. That’s because it depends entirely on the properties of your own sexuality, which I
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cannot really predict. What I suggest you do is try to relax your PC muscle entirely and enjoy the “free” feeling that this gives you. You may notice your arousal gradually starting to grow.
The third thing to do, and the one I personally find most efficient, is energy breathing. This is a practice similar to energy breathing in meditation. If you have done yoga, qigong or some other medidative practices that involve breathing “energy”, you will probably know what I am talking about. If you are not comfortable of thinking in terms of some mystical life-energy that you breathe in and out, you don’t have to. Just think of it the same way you think of arousal – the same sensation you feel in your genitals and your body during sex. Imagine you are trying to control this sensation in different parts of your body by “breathing” it in and moving it around your body.
What you want to do is to start “breathing” in and out through your penis. Breathe in deeply, feel the air fill up your lungs and at the same time, imagine arousal moving from the tip of your penis into the rest of your body. Really try to feel how this arousal energy goes down the shaft of your penis and then spreads
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Then slowly breathe out. Let the arousal energy gather from all over your body and stream into your penis, coming out of the tip right into your woman. Try to visualise ejaculating at the same time. Now breathe in again. Keep doing this until you feel your arousal lift off its plateau and start growing, or perhaps keep doing it all the way to ejaculation. While doing such energy breathing, you can try experimenting with breathing the energy through different parts of your body and moving it into other parts. Play around with it, you will probably find it quite pleasurable.
This simple energy breathing exercise can be quite fullfilling in itself, but is actually only a tiny part of a much greater topic of sex as a spiritual practice. Unfortunately going deeper into the spirituality of sex is way beyond the scope of this book, but if you haven’t previously encountered this area at all, then this exercise can serve as a good introduction for you.
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Importance of Changing Condoms
Perhaps I shouldn’t really be talking about this, and it’s probably superfluous information for most people. But for the sake of staying on the safe side, I want to stress that, if you are using condoms with your partner, it is very important to change them regularly. If you are not using a condom, then of course, this bit doesn’t apply to you.
You should change condoms for two main reasons. First, you will be having sex for much longer stretches of time and of course, condoms, as good and strong as they are nowadays, are not everlasting and the constant friction wears them out. Using additional condom-compatible lubrication may mitigate the problem to some extent but not entirely.
The second reason is that during “non-ejaculatory” orgasms you may experience partial ejaculation. Whether it happens by accident or because of your deliberate use of partial ejaculation to increase the interval between orgasms (as described earlier), you may end up with some semen in the tip of your condom. Even with ordinary non-mutliorgasmic sex, you may have some semen come out of the tip
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case, semen in the tip of the condom increases the risk of the condom bursting. Also, during continuous motion, the semen may actually move down the shaft of you penis to the base of the condom and eventually make contact with the vagina even with the condom intact.
I won’t tell you exactly how often you should change condoms, because that will really depend on how you have sex and on the condoms you are using. I also wouldn’t want to be held liable (even if just morally) in case I told you to change condoms every X minutes and you have one break nonetheless. Just use common sense and change every now and then during a long session of sex.
Amplifying Orgasms
Do you want to have more powerful orgasms? Yeah? Who doesn’t! Well, my general approach would be to recommend practicing energy breathing in this case, but there are two simple methods you can use to make your orgasms more powerful, sometimes even mind-blowing.
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Recall the “Walking on the Edge” exercise. That’s where I asked you to achieve a very high state of arousal and then try to stay around it for a significant amount of time by alternating between stimulation and PC muscle squeezes. Well, as it happens, using this same little technique when you are already multiorgasmic can significantly fuel up your orgasm which comes right after the process. Keep in mind that, if you are trying to have a non-ejaculatory orgasm, powering it up can make it more difficult to control. But that’s not a reason to avoid using this technique before a non-ejaculatory orgasm, since constantly pushing your limits is the best way to learn and progress. If, however, you do this little trick right before your final ejaculatory orgasm, it can seriously blow your mind, so definitely try it once you are comfortable. The idea is very simple then – as you approach an orgasm, start oscillating your arousal at a very high level. Do this for a while (you will have to figure out yourself how long you want to do it for) and then simply go for the orgasm. Enjoy.
The other method I can recommend, and this applies mostly to ejaculatory orgasms, so you might want to do this when you are about to have your final orgasm for the day, is to do a slight squeeze right after you have passed the point
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of no return. When a man is very close to ejaculation and he is actually planning to ejaculate this time, the most common approach is to continue the stimulation right into the orgasm and perhaps all the way through the ejacultion. What I suggest you do instead, if you want a stronger orgasm, is to proceed with the stimulation only up to the point of no return. As soon as you realise that this is it - you are going to ejaculate and there’s no way back (barring a really powerful PC muscle squeeze) – you stop the stimulation and quickly tense your PC muscle. This should be just a very quick little squeeze, on and off, and should happen before you actually start ejaculating. This should create a little delay in the ejaculation, and almost like a feeling of suspence although you already know that ejaculation is inevitable. Just a little pause... and then the orgasm comes rolling in. It’s a lovely little trick, nothing difficult, but can seriously enhance your final orgasm.
Final words
All right, you are all set! As you can see, developing multiorgasmic abilities does require some commitment and some knowledge, but the rewards are huge. Some
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exercising and some experimentation, and you’ll be having the sex of your life! Hopefully I have done enough to encourage you to strive for these abilities and laid out a clear path in front of you.
Here’s one last thing I would like to recommend you. Don’t get bogged down with