You are now ready to put all you’ve learned so far in this chapter together into one single sensuous exercise, complete with cul-de-sac penetration. This is a turning-point exercise, so prepare.
Ready yourself with an entire, languidly erotic full-body sensate focus caress. Lubricate your flexible dildo and use it to begin a genital caress. Take extra time with your genital caress and make sure to play with your PC muscle and G- spot, although not to the point of having a “gusher.”
Making sure your knees and feet are in a comfortable posi- tion you identified for yourself in the previous exercise, gently insert the dildo beyond the G-spot and into the end of the vagina. To find the cervix, move the dildo until you feel it rub against the knobby surface that yields a cramping sensa- tion. Explore the cervix to find how bard you can thrust against it or if you enjoy sensations in that area at all.
Now, as if you were having intercourse, thrust the dildo into yourself and, at the same time, flex your PC and uterine muscles simultaneously. The extra one-half to three-quarters of an inch of the cul-de-sac will open to penetration, and then close off around the dildo. Don’t panic, it is not stuck there and you can always pull it out. But feel how with a light tug it still stays in position. Keep that pressure on the dildo as you keep your tugs gentle. With practice, you will be able to tighten your
muscles so that you can tug harder on the dildo without pulling it out. Explore the wonder of sensations and feelings this new territory of your very own undiscovered body gives you.
Don’t be surprised if your body explodes into a dramatic climax at the completion of this exercise. After all, you have penetrated the cul-de-sac. But don’t feel let down if that doesn’t happen. While some women will have an explosive orgasm from dildo penetration, the majority will not…not yet. Your body is still adjusting, and your training is not complete. Still, the sensations from this exercise are going to be incredible. So enjoy them.
A more challenging, but extremely fulfilling, variation on this exercise involves working with a dildo with a suction base. Give it a try.?
After starting with a sensate focus body and genital caress, attach the suction-cup base of your lubricated dildo to a clean, smooth surface and lower yourself onto it bit by bit. Play with your PC muscle by moving up and down on the dildo as you flex, hold, and release. Lower yourself far enough now to have the dildo rub and then tug against your G-spot. You may need to curve the head of the dildo to do this. See if you can stimulate it without going all the way to a “gusher.” Now stimulate the cervix with the dildo and then move on to tightening the PC and uterine muscles simultaneously as you slide the dildo all the way into the cul-de-sac. Let the cul- de-sac latch on to the dildo and move gently up and down on it,
feeling the gentle thrusting motions as the dildo tugs against the pull of the cul-de-sac. Enjoy the pure physical delight of it all.
Please understand that from this position, it is more diffi- cult to make the cul-de-sac available. But with practice, kindness, and patience you will get there. Don’t pressure yourself to “do it right” the first time. Don’t look to have an orgasm. And certainly don’t look to have a super sexual or- gasm. Just explore your reactions and value whatever exper- iences come your way. Learn about the different aspects of your sensual potential. Take as long as you like and repeat both of these cul-de-sac exercises a few times each week be- fore moving on to the next chapter.
MOTION
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ou may not know where you’ve heard the expression, but I’m sure you’ve heard it somewhere: “It’s not the meat, it’s the motion.” Now these words may make you blush; you may find them a little crude or naughty or nasty. But some- where inside of you, I know these words also ring totally true. Motion is exactly what we are going to be talking about in this chapter, the enticingly pleasurable dance of sexual connection that is so crucial for discovering your fullest sensual potential, and for making a super sexual orgasm connection.Rhythm, timing, pacing, position: You didn’t realize there
were that many details and fine points to the experience of lovemaking, did you? That’s okay. You’re not the only one. The majority of people do not understand the primary im- portance each of these elements plays in the enjoyment of an intimate encounter, let alone an SSO encounter. But they are all important.
It’s a fact: Even the most gorgeous people do not make for gorgeous lovemaking if those people are out of sync or in the wrong place at the wrong time. And you can have all the moves and grooves down to a T, but if the approach is off- speed, your bang will turn into a bust. But we’re not going to let that happen. You are going to reach your goal of discov- ering your fullest sensual potential. You just need to first learn a little bit about the motions that will get you there.