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5. You can't help yourself ("Sometimes you don't even know why that's taking place ... now ... with me ... I think all sorts of things go deep inside yourself ... and

you don't even know why you can't help yourself ... now ... with me ... )

6. POEM! Intro it by saying how all this inspired you to write something ...

With women who tell you off the bat they are married, have a BF, etc, the sequence is:

1. Relationships and the roles they force us to play cause us to shut away parts of ourselves ...

2. But they are still there ... in those special places inside your mine ... where you keep your most exciting memories ... etc. etc ...

3. You can't help yourself 4. BJ

5. Blammo 6. Poem

Play with these sequences. The most profound thing I've noticed is that doing the visualizing stuff first REALLY heightens everything else, be it poetry, Dark Sun, BJ or whatever. Part of the reason is, I think, that when I DO have them in their ideal vacation spot I throw in the following KEY piece of language:

I invite you to notice that each breath you take ... each beat of your heart ... each word I say allows you to experience anything I suggest you ENJOY that much more vividly!

Dark Sun Variation

Anyway, the variation is to talk about how important it can be, when getting to know someone, to really understand their sense of personal rhythm.

"And you know, Debbie ... there are all sorts of rhythms a person has. There is the rhythm of their breathing ... the rhythm at which they speak ... even the rhythm at which they PAY

ATTENTION ... but then there is another rhythm ... a personal and deeply special rhythm ... and that is the rhythm of how they move back and forth between being outside in the world ... talking and communicating with people ... and being INSIDE ... in that special place of FANTASY ...

and of course sometimes a person doesn't even know what makes them GO INTO THAT PLACE OF FANTASY ... I think sometimes all sorts of things GO DEEP INSIDE ... and she

It's just so interesting how when that is taking place, a person can just TAKE A DEEP BREATH ... and go ALL THE WAY INSIDE ... into that place of fantasy ... where they can consider the person they are observing ... they can wonder ... really wonder ... what does this person do in their free time ... who do they know in their life ... and what it would it be like ... to be enjoying this person ... in all the ways YOU love to be enjoyed ... in all the ways two people can enjoy each other?"

SUMMARY:

#1 I waffle on about the email stuff I'm doing

#2 I point out some pattern language stuff in greeting cards

#3 I point out that this summary business is a lot like hard work ;-)

#4 I tell everyone to have fun.

This SS by email is a pain in the neck. I've got two women bombarding me with hints that I should fly across the Atlantic and visit them. Every day the same old thing ;-) Another one at least is actively planning to visit me in the spring. Yes, it's a long time to wait for a shag, but she's going to visit another continent just so she can hop into bed with me? Wow! Now I gotta get the other two turned around. One was suggesting I send her a plane ticket. Getting closer, I suppose, but not quite there yet ... ;-)

The lady who's planning on visiting has also taken to sending me cards by snail mail. She's picking up on the pattern language quite fast, and doing her level best to SS me right back, bless her. Anyway, I've hit

her with a mix of dark sun, poetry, and some really weird stuff that just sort of rose out of the context, and she started looking for cards to express how she felt. The first one had this message:

'Always A Pleasure'

The kind that's brought happiness right from the start,

And that's always nearby ...

for it's kept in the heart.

-By Emily Matthews (Forget Me Not Cards) Does the process in that sound familiar to anyone?

Now, I get another one that's got so much NLP type stuff in it it can hardly be accidental. It goes like this:

[front of card]

This card comes with special instructions

Okay. You've already opened the envelope. Right? Right. And now you're holding this card in your hands.

So here's what to do next ...

[inside card]

Get a big goofy grin on your face. (Go on: I'll wait.) Now, as you begin to realize how sensational it is to receive a card from _this_ particular person (me!) ...

• Start jumping up and down and cheering as though you'd just won an eighty million dollar lottery

• Act like you just scored the winning touchdown in the Super Bowl. Do the "end zone strut." Give yourself a high five. Really whoop it up.

• Plant a big juicy kiss on this card and say something that sounds incredibly Italian.

• open your door and yell at the top of your lungs "Yesss! Yesss!" Startle the neighbors, Get them jumping up and down with you in unison.

Then ... go back inside.

Smile a nice quiet smile.

I mean have a look at that again: Lovely pacing on the first page. Throw in a tag question, a bit of thought binding ... then inside: Get some linked presuppositions on the go, suggest a smile, link to the sender. Get some useful physiologies going, elicit some nice juicy states, some useful sounds as well for the auditory types amongst us. Then "go back inside (?!!) smile a nice quiet smile" ... and link all those feelings to the sender.

I'm going to have to do some browsing in a Card Bar somewhere, assuming I can find one that has its pattern language in English.

My mind is still fried from Ross' seminar this last weekend and while on the plane home I came up with a wonderful ambiguity that you can work into any pattern.

Ross, Mark and the gang made it clear to me on all sorts of levels NOT TO MAKE APPLOGIES for what we do and to be blatant in a context of FUN (Ross, you gotta post about the errant phone call to the seminar room. It was a WONDERFUL example!).

The pattern starts off with the Dark Sun and you explain how " ... it's my job, my obligation, in life to make people who will *accept the good things I have* to *feel wonderful* or get them out of my life because WHY NOT PUT PEOPLE WHERE THEY MOST WANT TO BE

ANYWAY WITH ME?"

Please, tell me if this trances you out like it does me? FIELD TEST!

On that note the seminar was AWESOME!!! Ross and Mark were on a roll from day one.

Ross, on that spot and inspired my Marks talk evolved a pattern on the difference between what we would like in a relationship and what we NEED ... ... ... but I will leave that for Ross to post.

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The question came up "Where is SS going?" and just from looking at where its come from in such a short time leaves me beyond speculation. Suffice to say, the sky’s the limit.

Hey guys. V-day is coming up, and my school is having a "romantic ramblings" contest. Having wimped out of competing with an SS poem last year, this year I decided to write a Dark Sun poem. The contest deadline is Thursday, and I'd like some feedback. If you like it, by all means use it, but please don't use it until Friday night (just in case). If you have any corrections, send them this way!

The Dark Sun A certain spot inside you,

Where everything is true, There you store your qualities,

And all the best of you.

In your dreams, you often Find that sacred spot.

But then there are the fantasies, The things you just might not.

In your mind you keep The wishes you embrace, The ones you dare not think of Except that special place.

That place you can't yet explore But in your secret dreams, Where anything might happen, For them your mind will scream.

Imagine something coming, Soon you'll dream of it.

Each dream you will remember, Through all your daily grit.

You'll replay all those dreams All day right in your mind.

Experience them fully, Time right after time.

That place will stay so secret, No other needs to know.

With help from your unconscious, Just go down below.

You need not feel excited, But in the future, soon, You'll begin to realize, It's something you must own.

Remember all your dreams, For when you make them true,

Brothers,

Taking the half thrown ball from Ross and brothers I have devised my own Dark Sun Pattern:

I think its so interesting how all those creative processes seem to come from that same special place ... like do you remember the last time you really had a good laugh so that as you remember it you smile really wide? ... or have you ever worked on something that really compelled you (point) to study it so the you wanted to take it all in as far as it would go? ... NOW, WITH ME, there is that one special place where all of that comes from. WITH ME, as you GO THERE it really is a place where you can FEEL NEW FEELINGS, and THINK OF NEW WONDERFUL IDEAS. It's the place where you can DREAM THE DREAMS THAT WILL(WE'LL) BE COMING TOGETHER to make new things possible. WITH ME, it's like you are able to LISTEN TO THIS VOICE that just draaaaaws you inward ... and if you can THINK OF TIME YOU MADE A REALLY GOOD DECISION it was this voice that guided you ... this voice of wisdom ... this voice of experience ... I have a voice like that ... in fact maybe you can think of a time in the future where need to make a decision and you STOP and you HEAR THIS VOICE guide you ... I'll bet that if you listen you can hear this voice right now ... with me ... that's what

*MY* voice does ... and it comes from that special place ... inside ...

Special acknowledgements to Ross and Mark C.

Here's a version of "Dark Sun" designed to get a woman having intense sexual dreams about you. I think it was Brother Xhodos who posted about his dream induction pattern, and I've used a wee bit in it.

*********DARK SUN: BETA TEST VERSION II*****************

Caution: this pattern may induce uncontrollable sexual arousal in women. Use caution if applying it around women who are on the more unstable side.

Where to use it: Try it as a phone pattern ... there's a lot of key phrasing that it depends upon.

Conversational set-up: Ask if she has any married friends. It doesn't matter what the answer is.

Follow up by saying you were having the most interesting conversation with your married friend, Suzanne. You say:

"We were discussing how relationships and the roles we play in them require that we shut away and compartmentalize certain aspects of who we are ... yet they are still there in that special place where we keep our most exciting memories ... where we ponder fantasies ... daydreams ... new thoughts ... amazing possibilities ... and what is it in how some people effect us that causes us to

think of them in that special place ... to hear their voice and feel their presence from that spot ...

so that no matter how much we may try to deny our desire to act ... it takes on a life of it's own ...

undeniable ... demanding ... compelling ... real ... "

(Ok. now that you've set her up ... here's where you program the dreaming)

I think it's the kind of thing to explore in a dream ... with me ... as I think about it ... a dream is a place where their are no rules ... no restrictions ... just fantasies ... excitement ... and the amazing enjoyment of something you realize you have to have.