the servant of the heart. Are you willing to do this?
LETTING GO TAKES LOVE
To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another.
To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more, and To let go and to let God, is to find peace!
Remember: The time to love is short
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REUNION
Re union can also be seen as your conscious abandonment of what was keeping you falsely safe in the matrix.
As St John of the Cross shares, there are three obstacles to getting closer to God: the world, the flesh (sex without soul love and God) and the devil (negative spirits.)
The first step to letting go of the world requires bravery and a gut full of vulnerability / courage as you begin to start cancelling events, appointments and making the moves to leave certain groups and establishments. When you do it, the first taste of freedom is delicious, and it has to be that good, otherwise you would never continue. So enjoy that taste of bountiful freedom, drink it up; drag it out as you continue to cast aside your attachments, connections, and identities.
Letting Go is freeing, loosening and creates a space for wonder to return. Life takes on a certain charm, as an innocence reveals itself from beneath the adult sense of duty and routine. Life becomes fresh and full of possibility.
The second stage is very interesting, and only those with a sense of soulful maturity can hold still during this time. This is when
“others” start questioning your behaviour and attitude. You have to understand that change often frightens others, and will certainly challenge their beliefs especially with the people that you have been hanging out with.
Older people, long term friends, peers, colleagues, and those supposedly in authority like ”teachers”, wise family members etc, may take you to one side and gift you their very important wisdom and advice, that you really should follow. This advice is usually from people who have never gambled or took any sort of risk or chance in life before. This advice arrives as warnings, judgments, projections and a sense of disappointment.
So steer clear from these people and if they corner you, hold on steady to the total commitment to your Soul. Please only realise that these “others” are just thought forms from your own emotions and mind, as the ego really is rather uncomfortable with change, especially if the ego senses a demise in some way.
You may experience most of your friends and family deserting you, or you deserting them! This is an initiation into a baptism of fire. It takes strength to stand up against the herd and refuse to continue going with the flow. The herd will do all they can to pull you back into the field, to continue grazing with your head down, doing what you have done for eons.
It’s at this stage that you rest and take sanctuary in God, as nothing else will make much sense. It is an inward time, as you silently watch all parts of your life inner and outer fall into pieces. It reminded me of the moments when watching the 9/11 Twin Towers collapse, and all you can do is watch and remember to breathe.
The Third stage is beginning to see and feel your actions taking hold. A sense of dread, fear and confusion could arise as the emptiness is now beginning to be felt and the Great Unknown looms up ahead. Confusion and doubt are classic hallmarks of the mind, beginning to shift uneasily as its masterful voice is beginning to be ignored.
The mind will try to grasp and calculate the way ahead into the future. BEWARE any decision that you make during this time. Make a declaration not to move at all, unless it is in Truth and for the Giving and Extension of Love. I will not sell out for anything less than that. I will not cheapen, weaken or market my soul.
Most people will move aside these restless and unsettling feelings.
They can be nauseating and infiltrate your mind with a dark sticky cloud of dread and annihilation. But this period is essential, as these feelings will lead you into the big ONE. Actually coming face to face with being No One anymore. Nameless, genderless, ageless, raceless, wordless, wisdomless, adviceless and without any form of
control, safety, security or anything you have known and navigated so well for your whole life to fall back on.
At this stage, I have nothing to give or say, and you may well encounter this. This may be painful, especially if you were afflicted with being a “Somebody”. Others will pass through this stage with grace, as they already had little worldly sense of themselves. This stage is crucial, as you are becoming the vessel for which true alchemy will take place.
In letting go, we come across the stirring feelings of loneliness and abandonment. Only the brave will venture all the way down through the canyons of feeling cast out from the warm love of our Creator and from abandoning the love of our own soul for the pitiful and temporary pleasures of another.
As with all the Wounds of Love, Self‐Responsibility of their presence within you is the first step. When abandonment or loneliness is experienced, turn away from the external world, and the supposed other that caused its effect, and steer your attention inwards towards the feeling voice that cries out. Listen to its voice, and ask to be taken deeper into its feeling state. Ignore the dialogue and story, and dive deep through the layers. Be resolute in the soft tears of vulnerability.
Whenever the story begins again, turn back to the direct experience of feeling; allow no veil to come between you and its core. Give permission to the heart to break open in an ocean of tears. The healing balm of sadness will wash clean this hole.
The depths of feeling abandonment can break down a door to God.
There will be despair; you will experience hurt, the pain of which may never have been felt before. Yet in the next breath, a meeting arises which will cleanse your life. A reunion that remains, even though small residues of the original essence may still be felt. Stay within the reunion, commit to that truth, and in time the emotional charges, echoes and triggers will bear no hold over you. They will be divinely forgotten, deleted.
Reunion is a movement, a willingness to move, to take an action out of one place towards another. Freedom to explore your choices to remain abandoned, or to reunite. We always have a choice in each moment, and taking responsibility for our choices is where our growth lies. One is not adult because they have reached a certain age; adulthood means being out of the victim role and taking responsibility for your choices and actions, and the thoughts and feelings that lie behind them. It means being author of your own life with God, writing your own script with God instead of living your life by rules laid down by your previous actions, by others, or by the shadow.
Reunion also takes on its own delicious joy. As we know, a reunion amongst friends and family fills us with a happiness that dispels the time and distance that was once between us. How many of you, in reunion, have spoken the words “ My God, it is as if we have never been apart!”
In reunion you can have great rest, where no protection is needed.
An honest, timeless embrace swirls throughout your entire being, healing, smoothing and making whole, a grace that washes away bitterness and the hard edges from our human experience.
The degree to which you hold back will be the degree in which you will feel separated. When hopeless, be willing and resolute to dive down. When rejected, be Purposeful in feeling, and then adhering to, and exploring the question: What would Love do now? When unworthy, feel it. When in the throes of desertion, feel the Sweet Sorrow, the compassion for self and all others who are suffering.
Extend your heart to others suffering, and yours will seem small in comparison.
When lonely, realize that the Journey to God is only made Alone = All One. Truth is something you bear alone. As a Sufi saying goes,
‘The Flight of the unknown is the journey of alone, to be with the Alone’. In order to understand ‘who am I’ one must learn to stand alone with God, independent of the rules and values laid by others and the shadow, and be prepared to claim every bit of yourself with Gods help, without judgment of being wrong or right.
It is in the denial of truth that we suffer the most. Stay with the pain. Pain and love are two sides of the same coin. Where do you feel love missing so much that it hurts? It is painful to face your shadow, but it is a very essential part of your journey to Self. If you keep on avoiding what is difficult, you can never go one step forward. All sufferings are associated with the avoidance of your shadow. The only way forward is by going through shadow, for you cannot meet God without first dealing with your own demons.
God never forsakes anyone. We forsake God, we choose to leave love and experience something else; it is our choice! We create it, through putting on the clothes of beliefs, choosing our wounds as a sacred pathway to one day go to God. Can you feel this?
Meditation 1
Stop, close your eyes, and take a few deep belly breaths.
Feel yourself opening your arms to all those who have abandoned you.
Feel yourself opening your heart to all those parts of yourself you have left out and forsaken in your life.
Ask, welcome and embrace all these aspects of yourself back into your heart‐soul.
Meditation 2
From deep in your heart, sincerely pray to be shown the moment you turned your back on God. What were you doing?
God has never, and will never, turn His back on you. You are his Son and Daughter.
He will always give you Divine Love, if you ask. And this love will bring up all that is not love within you. Dive deep into the feeling of ache in the heart and follow it to the womb or heart.
Then let go. The feelings will guide, and images will present themselves.
DENIAL / EMBRACE
Key Words
WOUNDS: Repression: “It never happened.”
Disassociation: “I don’t remember what happened.”
Projection: “It’s happening to you, not me. OR: It’s your fault this is happening.”
Substitution: ‘I eat, drink, take drugs, shop, meditate, have sex, etc, to not feel.’
Minimizing: “It happened in the past, it’s not that bad. Forget it. I’ll get over it. ”
BALMS: Embrace, humility, vulnerability, weakness, acceptance, praying to feel and allowing of emotions
To refuse to admit, recognize or deal with an aspect of your life that blatantly does exist, and is shown to you in many ways, is denial.
Denial occurs when you shut out the truth, both Divine Truth and your own knowing of it, as well as hanging onto personal truth.
Sometimes you do this even when you know better. Denial shuts off the hearing, receiving and expressing of truth and does not wish to feel painful emotions. And truth is always coming to us if we bother to listen and see!
One way this is always happening is that the universe is constantly giving us direct and indirect assistance. We can deny, ignore and reject both direct and indirect assistance because of a lack of humility. Direct assistance occurs when someone else with a loving motive and desire tells us directly what error is within us, and /or someone else with an unloving motive and hurtful desire informs us what is “wrong” about us. Both may hurt, leading us to deny it, or if we are humble about our desire to grow, to feel into what is being shared, accept it and take action on it.
Indirect assistance occurs when a child, animal or person acts around us in a certain way that exposes denied emotion within us.
Have you ever reacted or kept quiet when other people around you are having discussions about matters you believe you have resolved? But obviously have not! Indirect assistance also occurs