If your ex did not ask you for another date then there is nothing to worry about...Wait a few days and call them again...Have a quick conversation and ask them out once more.
Try and ask them out when the conversation is at it's peak...Never ask them out right away! Wait till the time you feel they are in a happy mood. They will find it hard to refuse when they are in a positive state.
Once you have another date here is what you must do at all possible costs...
I want you to go back in past and think about the beginning of your relationship and try to figure out all the things your ex loved about
you....Think of all the great memories you have had together...The places you went to, The things you did, The feelings you experienced....
Now I want you to start doing all these things with your ex once again. Even if you think it won't work for you... It will...Trust me! No one wants to remember negative circumstances of the past yet all of us want to be reminded of positive past experiences.
Take your ex out to places you always used to visit during the good old days...Such things would easily remind your ex of the great memories you two shared in the past and the great times you spent together.
Keep doing this process for about a month or so...Till the time you feel you have gone back into the old comfort zone with your ex.
things you must look for. You cannot ask to re-unite unless they have some desire to get back with you. Asking them too early might get them into the same defensive mode again and all your hard work would go in vain. Study your ex for a few days and look for some signs of interest-
- Does your ex occasionally call you as well or are you the only one calling him again and again? You see if you are the only one initiating contact then your ex hasn’t opened up to you completely. Do not ask them anything yet! Keep doing things with them and carry on with the plan.
This is the phase where you must look for some feedback from your ex...Unless there are some signs of interest, DO NOT and I really mean DO Not think about asking them the big question.
- Is she always anxious to spend more time? Does your ex often get agitated when you make an early exit on a date? Your ex must be at a point where they automatically expect you to spend more and more time with them. Remember unless their levels of interest in you are high...The time just isn't right.
- Is your ex getting physical with you? Have you two been holding hands, hugging or kissing regularly? Under this situation, they are already telling you that they are ready to open up again and I would say this is the perfect situation to pop the big question.
Unless you see, some or all of the above signs do not even think about asking your ex to get back with you. Because it clearly means that, your ex isn’t ready for commitment just yet.
TIMING is the most crucial element here...And most importantly- Asking them the big question without noticing any of the above signs will only punch you back into square one.
So how to pop the big question?
Well it's easier than you think...But there are some things you must be careful about.
Make sure that you are in an environment which is highly positive and you two are having a great time in each other's company. The reason why you must be in such an environment because it reduces the possibility of a negative response from your ex.
If possible, try and get your ex to laugh....
In the midst of laughter just drop this line- "We were so good together weren’t we?"
Or a lighter one "You & I were so much fun together"...
Now you see you haven’t asked them directly yet you have told them that you would like to get back together. This is the time when you must focus on their response. If they are ok with your question and have shown high levels of interest, then be direct and ask them to get back together.
But if you feel that they have gone a bit dry and the situation has fallen into a dry silent zone then this is not the right time to pop the big question. Wait a few more days and let them develop some more feelings towards you. Remember this is where your efforts will turn into the results...Pain into pleasure...Failure into success...As long as you do everything right!