The slightest sound matters. The most momentary rhythm matters. You can do as you please, yet everything matters.
—WALLACE STEVENS
The adept Djwal Kul tells a wonderful story about a town by the sea in Holland where the people were much happier and wiser than the other inhabitants of their land. No one could ever understand why, but Djwal Kul says it was the result of the gentle miller and his wife, who put so much love into their work. The towns people carried this love home in sacks of flour and then baked it into their bread.
At every meal the regenerative power of love from the miller and his wife radiated around the table and entered the bodies of the townsfolk as they partook of the bread. “Like radioactive power,” says Djwal Kul, “the energy of this vibrant love from the miller and his wife was spread throughout the community.” He says that just as food prepared by hands charged with divine love can create spiritual happiness, so our actions imbued with love will enhance the beauty of the world community.
Your heart has great healing potential. And there will be times when someone will need a direct infusion of love from your heart. Although we can all be an instrument of healing, we do not become one automatically. In order for our heart to be a reservoir of healing light, ready on a moment’s notice to give that infusion of love, we have to open our heart and expand our love. But we also have to guard the heart.
We jeopardize our ability to be an instrument of healing when we cannot hold on to the light that God has given us—when we allow that energy to be drained through outbursts of anger, irritation, pride, intolerance, selfishness, criticism, et cetera. God wants to entrust us with more light and energy, but we have to merit that added increment of power. In other words, the cosmic bank won’t lend us more energy than we can prove we will use judiciously.
The unruly intruders who run riot in our heart when we are not on guard also cause us to lose the valuable ground we have gained. “How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it,” wrote Marcus Aurelius in his Meditations. The eighth-century Buddhist monk and sage Shantideva put it this way: “Whatever my virtuous deeds, devotion to Buddhas, generosity, and so on, amassed over a thousand eons, all are destroyed in one moment of fury. There is no sin as harmful as hate, no penance as effective as tolerance....My mind will not experience peace if it fosters painful thoughts of hatred.”[32]
“He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”
—PROVERBS
Saint Symeon the New Theologian, a tenth-century Byzantine monk and mystic, said that guarding the heart is the chief task of the spiritual seeker. We must attentively “be on patrol” in our heart, he says. To make his point, Symeon cites Jesus’ reply to the scribes and Pharisees who accuse the disciples of transgressing the law because they do not wash their hands before eating bread.
Jesus tries to make them understand that it’s not what we do on the outside, like rituals and outer appearances, that makes us holy; it’s what takes place within our heart. “Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth,” says Jesus. And those things that come out of the mouth “come forth from the heart.” In other words, the condition of our heart colors our words and our actions. Jesus goes on to say that from the heart can “proceed evil thoughts” as well as the “things which defile a man,” like murders, adulteries, thefts, false witness and blasphemies.
Therefore watching over the heart, says Saint Symeon, is so important that the holy fathers “abandoned all other forms of spiritual labor and concentrated completely on this one task of guarding the heart, convinced that through this practice they would also come to possess every other virtue.”[33]
One particularly subtle form of danger that proceeds “from the heart,” a danger that can be as corrosive as rage, is the force of irritability. In the Agni Yoga books, the adept El Morya describes the poison resulting from irritability as “imperil.”
Imperil is a toxin that can infect, weaken and ultimately destroy. It can make projects fail, relation ships fall apart and businesses disintegrate. Imperil can spread like a virus unless we decide to stop the chain reaction, hold the line and meet the force of irritation with absolute harmony. If we tie into the pattern of imperil instead of guarding our heart, we take on that same energy and add our momentum to it. We become a carrier of this infectious disease.
What is the antidote to the poison of irritability? “We place our confidence in the power of patience,” says El Morya. “In the intensity of patience a special substance is created which, like a powerful antidote, neutralizes even imperil.”[34] Patience is a potent
form of love.
In a similar vein, one of my spiritual mentors once said to me, “It’s not enough to stand for the truth. It’s not enough to stand for the right causes. You must do it with a
perfect love and a perfect heart. You must not contain anything of hatred or resentment, because you will instantaneously attract more of that darkness to you. Whatever is inside of you, you will attract.” The more intense the opposition to our love, the more we must love.
That’s what Tony tried to pass on to his son when he came to him for advice about how to work with his children when they needed disciplining. His son was worried that he wasn’t handling it right. Tony has been through a lot since he raised his son. Now Tony meditates on his heart every day as part of his spiritual practice, and he understands how important heart-centeredness is. When his son came to him for advice, he was grateful that he could share what he had learned over the years.
Tony gave his son the honesty and support he needed. He told his son that the way he had raised him was not necessarily the best way. “The only way to raise your children,” Tony advised, “is with love.” Although that love may at times have to be firm, it always comes from a centered place in the heart, he said. “Never do anything out of anger. If you feel deep anger churning in you, look in the mirror. The person you’re angry with is probably yourself.”
Tony went on to tell his son that when we deal with children out of love, we have an incredible opportunity to nip potential problems in the bud. “When you’re angry,” he said, “dig into your reservoir of love. If you still feel there’s a need to discuss whatever occurred, do it out of love. In anger, no one hears anything.”
Tony is right that the only real way to deal with the forces of anti-love that would try to unseat us is to radiate more love. If we send out flood tides of love, then the opposition to that love will not be able to withstand the pressure of the waterfall of light surging through our heart.
H E A R T P E R S P E C T I V E S
• Cool off and count to nine. We all have to deal with circumstances that test our patience and harmony and tempt us to get angry. “The best cure for anger,” said Seneca, “is delay.” If you are attending a meeting, for instance, and find yourself or someone else getting hot under the collar, try suggesting a fifteen-minute break.
Cool down with a glass of water, get outside for some fresh air and do some deep breathing. Resolve that you will not be moved from your center of harmony by anyone or anything connected with your meeting. Affirm three times out loud with love and determination, “I shall not be moved from the harmony and love that lives within my heart!” Having so resolved, consciously turn over to God the matter at hand.
To help control runaway emotions and riptides of negative energy that come up from time to time, you can also use the following prayer as a safety valve. Give it aloud with fervor and know that your Higher Self is in total control of your energies, your meeting and your life.
COUNT TO NINE Come now by love divine, Guard thou this soul of mine, Make now my world all thine, God’s light around me shine.
I count one, it is done. O feeling world, be still! Two and three, I AM free,
Peace, it is God’s will. I count four, I do adore My Presence all divine. Five and six, O God, affix My gaze on thee sublime! I count seven, come, O heaven,
My energies take hold! Eight and nine, completely thine,
My mental world enfold!
The white-fire light now encircles me, All riptides are rejected!
With God’s own might around me bright I AM by love protected!
I accept this done right now with full power! I AM this done right now with full power! I AM, I AM, I AM God-life expressing perfection all ways at all times. This which