When you have a “broken heart,” your mind takes a deep disappointment and keeps replaying that same old sad movie, reinforcing the hurt feelings each time. A broken heart is really the result of a head-on collision between broken attachments, expectations, and emo-tional investment; there is some heart energy mixed in, which is why it feels like your heart aches. You really did love, but then your love drifted into the lower heart frequencies of attachment and expectation—expecting someone to love you in the way you loved them. When that doesn’t happen, the emotional shock can short-cir-cuit your mind and your emotions. Your security was
invested in someone outside yourself and when that se-curity is gone, you feel like a victim, powerless.
While some people are able to connect with their heart power, resolve their pain and move on, many get stuck in this kind of crisis and never recover. The head replays the old hurt endlessly or buries it in the uncon-scious so they can survive. When a child or adult is a victim of traumatic abuse, it’s easy to justify holding onto hurt and resentment that come from a feeling of betrayal.
But as natural as that may seem, holding onto hurt only causes self-victimization and more pain. When people finally let go of anger, grief or feelings of betrayal in their lives, it is the heart that has resolved the problem and released it from the mind. When bitterness, denial and sadness are released, it’s the higher heart frequencies that help you let go, usually bit by bit. Learning how to for-give, release and let go, is an important investment in mental, emotional and physical well-being.
The head alone cannot manage the emotions or heal the mind when it short circuits. The head can repress emotions, but those basic mental/emotional issues will pop up again and you can feel defeated. Only the heart has the power to give you complete release from mental and emotional issues that drain you. The bailout is to activate enough heart power to replace self-victimizing head programs with true heart programs. You start by activating your heart power to manage your attitudes and release inefficient head thoughts about your smaller
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problems in life. That builds your heart strength and power to then resolve your major problems.
Emotions
“E-motion” is energy in motion. It amplifies or adds a charge to your thoughts and feelings. Emotion can be called the affective aspect of your consciousness. It is a gorgeous quality to have, a juice running through your system that provides that extra “feel good” to life—in color, sound, taste, smell and texture. But emotional en-ergy in itself is neutral. It picks up its coloration either from the head or from the heart. Emotional energy can be added either to a disturbance or to a fun excitement.
The heart says, “Let’s Love,” and the emotions say,
“Yeah!” The head says, “Let’s get frustrated,” and the emotions say, “Yeah!” How we manage our emotions determines whether they add quality to our lives or bring us stress.
Too much emotion becomes emotionalism, the in-dulgence in unbalanced emotion. Emotionalism may feel good in the moment, but doesn’t solve the basic prob-lem. It can also drain the vitality out of your system. If you’re at the point of tears because something has dis-turbed you, that’s when you can choose to discipline your emotional body. You can let a few tears run down your cheeks—something evidently hurt. After that, if you get stuck in the head and blow it way out of proportion, you will drain your energy. Instead, you can go back to the heart and make peace with the situation. Then your heart
will help you find a wider perception. Watch out—if your head keeps replaying the hurt, the disturbance will build into emotionalism. If you do that, you are indulging in a
“poor-me” attitude and making the disturbance larger than it has to be.
Emotionalism will not solve a problem. To feel sorry for yourself, or blame the pain on someone or something else, will not dissolve the issue. It will only create stress.
Do have patience and compassion for yourself. Don’t be a poor me-er who is looking for pity and sympathy from others. You probably won’t get the sympathy from where you want and expect it. And if you do, it will just be them crying with you. This won’t free you from that emotional energy pattern. If you’re truly in despair and sincerely ask for help, you will magnetize compassion and under-standing to you. But, if you are in a childish pout and inner temper tantrum, you’ll just build more stress until you collapse and release all the emotional energy you’ve accumulated. It’s like having to close out your bank ac-count because you couldn’t stop spending. You have to start all over again from square one.
Emotionalism can also be created on the opposite side of the spectrum by over-excitement. While genuinely looking forward to a vacation or a special date, you can overload your emotional nature with anxiety, expecta-tions and an impatient feeling of “can’t wait.” That overload unbalances your energies, blocking your heart flow. Quite often children build Christmas into a
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anxious. Then they become tired and cranky because they’ve expended too much energy in over-excitement.
Don’t build an expectation so huge that if what you’re wanting doesn’t happen you will be crushed or deeply disappointed. The answer is to discipline your system to be excited about an upcoming situation, a fun
“can’t wait,” but in a balanced way. By using your heart to balance your emotionalism, you aren’t shoveling the emotions under the carpet and pretending they don’t exist. You’re taking control of them so they work for you to keep the fun and adventure in life going your way.
People often use drugs, alcohol, food, sex, TV or whatever they can find to try to calm their emotional-ism. These diversions are only temporary and don’t resolve the basic imbalances and lack of emotional man-agement. Your emotions work best for you when receiving directions from the heart. By learning to watch for your lower heart pulls, you can start to balance your emotions. Notice how higher heart frequencies feel com-pared to lower heart and head frequencies. The feelings of true love and care are very different from feelings like attachment and overcare. As you practice bringing your emotional pulls back to your higher heart, you will gain a peaceful feeling of true love, care or compassion.
Many marriages are based on intimacy, but when this turns into physical or emotional attachment couples often become insecure and the relationship can get sticky. The stickiness often causes one partner to want to pull away. By learning the difference between
this isolated frequency of intimacy, and all the other frequencies of the real heart that are clear, compas-sionate and caring, you can bring new love, depth and fulfillment to a marriage.
As you understand your higher and lower heart fre-quencies, you start building an efficient relationship between them. Your experience of life deepens as you bring your energies back to the higher heart as soon as you notice unsatisfying feelings. Your intuition will wisely guide you into the balanced and intelligent heart frequencies of true love.