Historically, the original use for condoms was to prevent the spread of disease, then many people realised that they could be used as contraceptives and started to think less of disease prevention. Nowadays, the reasons for condom use have gone completely full circle: they’re used to prevent the transmission of diseases like HIV, herpes, etc.. We also have other latex barriers that can help us play safely: gloves and dental dams.
There are some basic things to know about latex. Number one is that you don’t want to do anything that could damage the latex barrier. This generally means having your fingernails clipped short. To some people, long nails are a fashion statement, but the holes they create in a glove or a condom could kill you and/or your partner. Depending on the activities you want to perform, the choice is yours. Like facial tissues, latex gloves, usually of the surgical variety, can be bought in bulk. They can be autoclaved to keep them sterile and come pre- packaged in pairs. For more information on sterilising things, please see the section on the Cleaning of Toys. Avoid any forms of abrasives when playing with latex barriers. Grit can easily cause the latex to tear. Also, don’t try to be cute and blow up a rubber before sex. If you put a small, invisible hole in the latex, you’ll remove the protection that the rubber should provide.
Cheek the expiry dates on anything made of latex rubber. If the latex is old, it will also not do its job. Old latex gets brittle and can crack. So, if your local medical supply store is having a ten-for-one sale, check the expiry date before you buy. They must be fresh. Sometimes the only way to tell if bulk bought gloves are fresh is to check the lot number and ask the manufacturer. Don’t count on any latex that doesn’t look right. If it looks marbled, discoloured, or is cracking, throw it out. Sometimes, it’s really hard to tell, so be careful.
Equally, if your latex barriers have been lying around in, say your toy bag, being bashed around by the toys for six months, the wrappers will have little mutilations on them. That means that they are no longer sterile. If the wrapper is all bent out of shape, don’t count on the contents being clean or undamaged.
Never use fats or oils when you play using latex rubber. If a lubricant does not specifically state that it is water-based and is oil- and fat-free, don’t take the chance. These oils and fats break down the rubber, weakening it, allowing for holes and tears to occur. Hand cream, moisturisers, cooking oils, Crisco, and other foods are fatty, so don’t use any hand creams before using a latex glove. Even body film has oil in it.
Wrap anything that will end up in you or your partner. Finger cots are used by some when they play, but they have a tendency to fall off “in the heat of the moment.” The last thing you want is to lose a finger cot, which is about the size of a dime. There are many big openings in which you could lose one of these.
Wrap things before you play with them. This goes for body parts as well as toys. If you’re already hot and steamy, who knows what you could pick up and put on the toy, even as you wrap it in latex. It doesn’t matter
whether you go for vaginal or anal penetration, use a latex glove. If you intend to be there for a while, use two gloves
one on top of the other. If you damage the outside one, there is still a 50-50 chance that the inside one will remain intact.
The same goes for penile penetration, be it vaginal or anal. When in doubt, wrap it more than once. Try the prelubricated ones. You’re not going to notice a great change of sensation. Some men say that, when a condom is tight around their penis, their penis feels better. Most AIDS prevention organisations recommend “double- bagging” some even suggest triple wrapping. You’ll also have to make a choice between those with dry powder on them for ease of application, or those that come prelubricated with nonoxynol-9. Some people are sensitive (allergic) to the type of lubricant they use.
Dental dams tend not to be lubricated. Some women are taking condoms and cutting them and using them in place of a dam. Condoms, however, are thinner than dental dams. It is relatively easy to put a split in a condom used as a dental dam. Dams are more like ‘industrial strength.” Dams are now becoming available in larger sizes making them more like the area of a split condom.
Some people have used Saran Wrap instead of latex for prolonged rimming or oral-vaginal contact. This is an unsafe practice. Supposedly, Reynolds film is better than Saran, is better than Clad wrap, is better than Handi-Wrap. You’d have to be an engineer in polymer chemistry to understand why. It has something to do with micro-pores in the sheeting.
If you’re in the situation where you’ve just got to go down on someone, never use a barrier that says it’s microwaveable. This immediately means that there are micro-pores in the plastic. Good old-fashioned Reynolds film or Saran wrap is better.
Dildos don’t come. So there’s no problem putting a rubber without a reservoir on a dildo.
If you think that your play will involve one or both partners
Safety: Condoms, Dental
Safety: Condoms, Dental
Dams, & Latex Gloves
Dams, & Latex Gloves
coming into a’ rubber, use a reservoir tip because there is a very real possibility that the act of coming can rupture the condom.
As a general rule, wrap it or whack it; lick it with latex; no glove, no love. The trick is to break the chain of disease transmission. Don’t let diseases into or out of your body.