It’s not your place or your right, just don’t do it about anything. This is a true story about my experience first hand with a medium giving an ex partner of mine a reading and advice.
For the purpose of this I am not going to name any names, those who do know the parties involved even though I have mentioned it in these writings please do not share the details of the parties involved.
I was in a relationship for three years; well coming up to the end of the second year, start of the third and the partner I was with at the time was an incredibly difficult woman. She was an overly sensitive soul and past experience with a previous partner had made it virtually impossible for her to trust anyone.
I constantly found my emails, Facebook, mobile phone and other articles
compromised in the sense that she was constantly checking up on me and expecting me to do something behind her back. I know this is not the basis for a good
relationship, I was young, naive and in love. I am still young - But not as naive.
But I was happy and she was as happy as she could be.
We lived together and had built a routine that worked; I was a salesman for Scottish Power which meant that I worked hours that weren’t set in stone as it went on a minimum number of sales and not an amount of hours. She was an administrative agent for Morrisons.
I would normally come home from work and if she had finished before me she would tidy and cook dinner before I returned from work and if I finished before her I would do the same for her.
One day i was on my way home from work and I received a text message that just said ‘I FUCKING KNEW IT’. I tried to call her phone no answer, I tried to text her no response and on returning to the house I couldn’t believe it.
Everything I owned was out on the front lawn.
It was honestly like a scene from one of them reality TV shows shot in a little suburban retreat. She was hanging out of the top window in hysterics throwing my stuff down onto the garden. I hadn’t the faintest idea what I had done wrong and I couldn’t get a word out of her.
I called a taxi for my belongings and had to move them back to my Grandmother’s house - I first moved out of home when I was 14 years old and it was like going back to square one. My home - gone, the things I worked hard for to fill the home- gone, three years of my life - gone but worst of all the woman I loved and cared for gone. Without an explanation, I sat for three days and tried to work out what I had done, whether she had been doing something behind my back.
A few days later I received a text message that said - ‘I can’t believe you have done this to me after everything you promised me’. I hadn’t done anything, so I called and she answered the phone.
We agreed to meet in Starbucks, we sat and after what seemed like an eternity of awkward silence i found out what had happened.
She finished work early on Wednesdays and used to go around her friends house for dinner and while at her friends house she was introduced to a psychic and out of intrigue she got a reading.
This is the way she remembers the reading - Of course we know it never went down like this and anyone who has listened to a second hand version of events from someone that has had a reading will know exactly what I was dealing with.
I am telling this portion of the story from my ex girlfriends perspective (from her mouth),
“I sat down and she told me that I was in a relationship with a tall dark haired man with green eyes, who was always busy. A tinkerer that was the sort of person to take things apart and try to fix something if it was broken. She also told me I was worried because I thought you might have been up to something. She also said it was ok for me to get angry and suspicious because if people hadn’t wronged me then I wouldn’t act that way.
She then told me you had been seeing another girl and you had got her pregnant!
I knew you had been seeing someone I could sense it and she confirmed it for me.
She said that I would be better and next year would be a new chapter for me with holidays and that there is love for me with someone who is not going to ever wrong me”.
That is the gist of what was said and no matter how much I tried to convince her she had been given the confirmation she was looking for.
We saw each other a few times after that but it was never the same and just as quickly as we came into each others lives, we departed.
I never cheated, never got another girl pregnant and wasn’t even looking I was far too wrapped up in my routine to even have thought outside of it. I was by no means the perfect partner - Who is? But I never purposefully went out of my way to start a drama and we never really argued about anything else.
There are two really, really important things to be learnt from my story.
One is that your words hold a massive power if someone believes in you, even if you tell someone you are not a psychic or a medium if they perceive you as someone who should be listened to it really doesn’t matter they will listen and actively take on board what you say. Remember it their belief of you that counts not what you tell them to believe (about you).
If you give someone a nod to their suspicions even in an implicit sense - Whether it be innocent or not, you can wreck homes.
For example.
If someone outright asks you if their partner is cheating on them, don’t respond with “Only you will ever know that in your heart” or “I can’t say” or “It’s not for me to talk about such things” as all of these things can be implicit of you saying “yes" or to a suspicious woman they might think you are saying "I don’t
want to say anything because I know he is/ she is” at the same time I don’t think it is fair to answer with a no if the partner is, it will seem like you lied and that can be damaging for your reputation.
You have to be tactful, answer by degrading your abilities - At the end of the day why would you ever do that if you weren’t being truthful. Answer with something like this (In a massively relaxed fashion)
“Being 100% honest I read people, things that they already know about themselves.
I wish my abilities were better to be able to give you an answer but I can’t see into the future or read things about people that I cannot see. I would only know what you know about this person”.
There is no way they can chase an answer that doesn’t exist from that statement, you have told them you only see what they can see and therefore you don’t know and at the same time you have said you wished you had the ability to give them an answer stopping them dead in their tracks if they thought about asking you any more questions like that.
When I read someone (in-between effects) i don’t answer questions like this.
If you are nervous about being asked a question like this paint it red. Before you start demonstrating simply point out -
Performer: “During parts of what you are about to see I will be reading people, please don’t ask me questions pertaining to your partners or health as I won’t be able to answer questions like that”.
And stop it dead before it happens, it is something that very rarely happens but FAILING TO PREPARE IS PREPARING TO FAIL.
It is best to be in control of the situation at all turns without seeming dominating.
Secondly you are not a life coach or advisor (if you are reading this and you are then exempt yourself from this).
Who are you to tell someone what decisions to make for the future?
Who are you to give someone advice?
Even if the cause is one close to your heart you have to distance your feelings when reading that person.
If your partner has just cheated on you and you are totally hurt from it and want wicked revenge on your partner and you happen to find yourself being asked the above question you have to leave your personal feelings at the door. You have to learn to not become involved emotionally in the person you are reading. I know this has become very deep, very quickly but I don’t know in which context you are going to be giving readings only the context that I give them in and that is in a mentalism setting.