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I love reading children and teenagers. They still dwell in the magical world of imagination, and thus they believe that anything is possible. Their wide-eyed wonder and belief in miracles, in the unseen, in extrasensory perception, has not yet been poisoned by the atheism, skepticism, and pessimism of their parents, teachers, or other adults. Even children as young as seven or eight seem to approach a reading with great reverence and awe, as if they somehow know that they are participating in a sacred experience that touches upon the divine. Many children sit on the edge of their chair, afraid to breathe or even bat an eyelash for fear of missing a single word. Much like their adult counterparts, they are there to receive hope, validation, and direction. They want to know that they will be somebody important in the world and that they will be happy. Unlike so many adults, they still believe this is possible.

A clairvoyant reading is an experience that these young people will re-live over and over again in their minds, and describe time and again to their friends. While the exact words and sequence of events of the reading will become cloudy or distorted over time, many of the clairvoyant images that are relayed to them will forever be inscribed in their memories and imagination.

When a child or teenager comes to me for a reading, I view this as a unique opportunity to bring inspiration and hope to a young life, while teaching that child, through example, about their own psychic abilities and potential. For a clairvoyant reader, an opportunity to read a younger person is a special gift and a challenging responsibility. Children can so easily be programmed and their enthusiasm so severely crushed by negative input. Also, they have selective hearing; they are prone to misinterpret words and fill in the blanks with their own hopes and fears. Children and young teenagers don't yet know how to discriminate between information that is really relevant to them and information that is not. If a psychic tells them one thing that seems to be true, they will likely believe that every other word from the psychic's mouth is a proven fact. Furthermore, children and particularly teenagers often don't know how to responsibly handle the information they receive during a reading. They may use it as a weapon against their parents or others.

In this chapter, I offer suggestions on how to approach a clairvoyant reading and communicate clairvoyant information to children of varying ages. These suggestions will help you empower and inspire the children you read, while minimizing the possibility of detrimentally programming or upsetting them during the reading. I also offer specific techniques and age-appropriate reading formats that I have personally developed to help you navigate your way through a reading.

General Pointers

Always focus on the positive .

When reading children, focus on their strengths, their successes, and their positive relationships with others. Look at their dreams and how they can best achieve these. Acknowledge problems and challenges that the child is struggling with, but help them redefine these problems as opportunities for growth. Help them see how their strengths will get them through difficult periods in their lives.

Be hone st, but don't fe e l compe lle d to te ll e ve rything .

As clairvoyant readers, I feel that we must be honest with our clients, no matter what their age. We should never make anything up just to make someone feel good. Luckily there is no reason to do this, because there is always a bright side to anything. That being said, when reading children, I feel that it is all right to sugarcoat potentially upsetting information so that the child can deal with the situation at their own pace.

For example, if you see that the child's grandmother is dying, rather than stating, "Your grandmother is going to die very soon," you can clairvoyantly ask the grandmother's spirit if she has

Whe n looking into a child's future , le t the m know that you are me re ly looking at one or two of se ve ral diffe re nt possibilitie s.

Many kids have a fantasy about what they want to be when they grow up. They want you to tell them clairvoyantly in your future that you will be really good at working with computers, and lots of people are going to depend on your help and pay you a lot of money for it, but that doesn't mean you can't also be a famous baseball player if that's what you really want."

Always counte rbalance a ne g ative state me nt with a positive one , and always g ive the child proactive ste ps to take to chang e the ir future if it looks ble ak or difficult.

Instead of saying to an eight-year-old, "It looks like you will become an alcoholic and end up in jail by the time you are twenty," you can say, "I see you are vulnerable to the problems that drinking alcohol can cause. If you want to have a happy life and enjoy your freedom, then you should stay far away from alcohol. I see you are a very strong runner, and if you stay away from alcohol, you have a good chance of becoming a very successful athlete." Again, only say what you honestly see.

Te ll the child about the ir pe rsonality characte ristics that will he lp and those that could pre se nt challe ng e s throug hout the ir life .

For example, "I see you are a great speaker and are very funny. You will always have lots of friends because you know how to make them laugh. I also see you don't like people to tell you what to do and you have a strong stubborn streak. This could cause problems at school and at your work unless you learn to give in during arguments that aren't that important to you."

Give the child hope that a curre nt proble m the y are de aling with will e ve ntually be re solve d or will le sse n with time . with a pet. If the child says yes, then you can clairvoyantly look into the present to see what might make the child feel better, or into the future to see the soonest point in time when the child will be happy again. Maybe you will see the child hitting a home run at a baseball game, or getting a new pet, or going to Disney World. If the child doesn't seem to know what you are talking about, you might say something like, "I see that at some point in your life something difficult might happen that will make you feel sad for a while. But then I see you looking happy again." Or you may just decide not to say anything and go on to the next topic because the child really isn't ready to talk about or deal with this subject, and you don't want to make him apprehensive about a future even he can't control. Most of the time, however, you will be picking up on the past or present rather than the future.

Take advantag e of this opportunity to se e how the child is alre ady using the ir psychic and he aling abilitie s and which one s will he lp the child in the ir life .

There is a reason why the child or teenager has come to a clairvoyant reader as opposed to another kind of reader, so tell them something about their own clairvoyance, how they can develop it, and how they can overcome any obstacles to accessing this and any other ability. You can also look to see on the level that you can give, so make full use of your time together. You are one of the child's spiritual mentors, even if you only spend five minutes together.

Always addre ss a child with the same le ve l of re spe ct as an adult.

Use simple words the child can understand, but don't talk down to them in a condescending manner.

Many children are hidden within the shadows of their parents and long to be seen as the sovereign spirits that they are. As clairvoyant readers, this is one of the most important gifts we can offer them.

You must re spe ct the child's confide ntiality, but don't e xpe ct the m to do the same .

Let the child know upfront that you will not repeat whatever is said during the reading, even to their parents, but that they should feel free to share the information with anyone. Children need to know that they can trust you and that there will not be any negative repercussions from being honest or allowing a clairvoyant reader to see into their lives and feelings. On the other hand, it's important that you don't ask them to keep secrets from their parents, because the conflict between not wanting to

disappoint you but wanting to share with the people to whom they are closest could be traumatic.

Some children view a secret as something that is shameful or bad, and if they feel that there is something secret about the reading, they may feel that they have done something wrong.

He lp the child unde rstand the dynamics be twe e n himse lf and his pare nts, but know that whate ve r you say about a child's or te e n's pare nt could and like ly will be use d as ammunition ag ainst the pare nt.

When reading a child or teenager, issues concerning their relationship with their parents will frequently arise. Sometimes you will see information about the parents that the parents will not appreciate. This is the information that the child will bring up later at the first sign of conflict with their parents. This is a sticky situation. Children are obviously dependent, physically and emotionally, on their parents, and yet even the most nurturing, best intentioned parents may not have a clue as to what their child's spiritual destiny entails or how to provide the proper experiences or education that will help their child move along on their own unique spiritual path. So many parents are consumed with fears, judgments, and limitations that the more they love their children, the more they suffocate and poison the children with their own doubts and lack of faith in the ultimate perfection of God's plan and the universe.

However, most of the time, struggles at home have more to do with differences in personalities, desires, and goals between well-intentioned parents and their children. Most parents think that because they are the parents, they have the right to make all the decisions for the children. They want to control their children, and when the child asserts her own will or attempts to control the situation, the child to be empowered because this could lead the child to become even more disobedient and outspoken.

As a clairvoyant reader, I recommend that you be honest with children about their family dynamics, and at the same help them see their parents or family members with compassion and forgiveness.

Always clairvoyantly look to see how what actions and philosophies children can adopt that will help them peacefully coexist with their parents for as long as necessary, without having to sacrifice their own sense of self.

Should the pare nt be pre se nt during the re ading ?

Personally, I always prefer to read a client in privacy, whether they are an adult or child, unless the reading is going to focus on the child's relationship with their parent or I am reading a very young child who is nervous about being separated from their parent. Most children cannot clearly see themselves in the presence of their parents because even the most loving of parents are constantly projecting roles ("You are the child, I am the parent"), expectations ("As a child, you are unable to care for yourself, unable to speak for yourself, and dependent on me") and judgments ("You can never sit still, you talk too loud, you misbehave in school") onto the child. The energy behind these projections is so intrusive that the child may feel like, and therefore become, almost a totally different person when they are around their family versus when they are not.

Have you ever noticed how, as an adult, you feel different about yourself when you are around one or both of your parents? Your selfesteem and sense of independence may suddenly plummet, or you may feel generally cranky and irritated but have no idea why. This is because your parent's projections continue to persist far into adulthood, even when it is logically clear that they have nothing to do with reality.

These projections interfere with the relationship between the clairvoyant reader and the child as well as the overall accuracy and ease of the reading itself, in that the reader will be more inclined to confuse the parent's projections with the true nature of the child. Even when the parent is not present, there is always the risk that a psychic may confuse the parent's energy, in the form of projections, thoughtforms, and emotions, with the child's energy and true characteristics, but this is much more likely to happen when the parent is present. Furthermore, both the psychic and the child may feel greater inhibitions in the presence of a parent in terms of their communication.

Due to the prevalence of lawsuits and accusations of child abuse and molestation, some readers, particularly men (although women need to be concerned with this as well), will insist that another adult be present for the reading or at least within eyesight of the reading. From a legal standpoint, this is a prudent practice to adopt. It is also for this reason that I recommend avoiding physical contact with a child, with the exception of shaking their hand. When an adult shakes a child's hand, they are saying to that child, "I respect you as an equal," and this may have more of an impact than even a hug.

If a child hugs you, accept the hug for just a moment and then offer them your hand.

Reading Younger Children

A few months into my clairvoyant training, while performing readings at a psychic fair, one of my teachers approached me and asked me to read a little girl who was about five years old. He was reading her mother and the girl kept interrupting them, so the mother offered to purchase a reading in order to keep her daughter occupied. Before I could protest, the little girl was seated across from me, impatiently banging her feet on the metal chair. Having no children of my own at the time nor any

recent experience with them, I had no idea how to talk to a child, much less read one. I decided that I would read her like any adult. I closed my eyes, said a prayer, directed her to say her name, and asked her if she had any questions. Her response seemed very far away and I opened my eyes to discover that she had already vacated her chair and was now exploring the neighboring tarot card booth.

"What's that?" she asked, picking up a deck of Rider-Waite tarot cards. She pulled out the Tower card.

"This card looks scary. What's that?" she asked, pointing to the tower.

At this point I decided to abandon any idea of giving her a reading. Her mother was really just looking for a babysitter anyway. I recalled that babysitters read stories, so I decided to tell her a story about the cards.

"See this tall building?" I asked, pointing to the tower. "That is a house. And the people sticking out of the windows are kids. They are upset because one of the boys set fire to the house and it is burning down." What a charming story to tell a five-year-old! I thought to myself. But I was shocked by her response.

"Yeah, that happened to our house. My brother was playing with matches and set the grass in our backyard on fire. My mom was really mad. He always does bad things." I realized I was on to something.

"See this person on the card?" I asked her. "That is you. She looks to me like she is angry at the other people in the house."

"Yeah," the girl responded. "My mom is always too busy watching my brother to play with me. He doesn't want her to play with me. He makes me so mad."

"Well, let's see if things are going to change soon. Show me another card in the deck." She handed me the Sun card. "This looks like a happy card to me," I told her. "See the child's face? She's smiling.

The sun is shining on her and she is having fun. She looks like she is on vacation."

The girl's face lit up. "Yeah, we are going to Disneyland for my birthday, on an airplane!"

The girl's mother later confirmed that her son had set their backyard on fire the week before and that they were going to Disneyland the following week.

Tarot Card Readin3 Technique ages 3 to 7)

My experience with that little girl taught me not only how to read a young child, but also how to utilize tarot cards to read people of any age. First, ask the child to pick a card and then start talking about the card without censoring yourself. Don't think of the experience as a reading, just tell the child and yourself that you are merely making up a story with the help of the cards. This will eliminate any feelings of pressure or responsibility. Use the images in the card as springboards for the plot and events of the story. Ask yourself what these images remind you of. As you talk, pay attention to new images or thoughts that pop into your mind and then describe and incorporate these into the story.

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