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Maybe you think all this is just too tame, and what you’d really like is some red-blooded, hot naughty talk when you’re getting it on. After all, politely asking someone to touch your tire-lire won’t exactly win you a vixen-of-the-year award. If you have always wanted to introduce rougher language but somehow haven’t gotten up the nerve, here are some tips from Violet Blue, the editor and author of a number of sex guides and erotic writings:

Start by making a list of words you think are sexy but don’t feel comfortable saying out loud yet—and you think they’d be a spicy addition to your sexual vocabulary. (If pussy and cunt don’t roll trippingly off your tongue, that’s a place to start.)

Say them out loud in front of a mirror. You’ll probably giggle or cover your face with your

hands at first, but that’s okay. Keep saying them until you can look yourself in the eyes and not be overcome with schoolgirl snicker syndrome.

Use your sexiest voice. Try these exercises to make your voice more resonant and rich-sounding: Stretch your facial muscles, paying particular attention to tongue, lips, and jaw. Begin talking from the center of your chest, but use your belly rather than your chest for deep breathing. Experiment by speaking softly, low; whisper;

deepen your voice—then more loudly, but even more deeply pitched. Now hum;

now speak in your low whisper but with the resonance of the hum. Which of these is your sexiest voice?

Start talking dirty to yourself when you masturbate. Practice on yourself, and the words will become linked with your arousal. Then it will feel more natural to be nasty when you’re doing the nasty. y

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Both of you might want to prepare the meal in the kitchen, or you may decide that one person should serve; either way, the food is to be devoured from your lover’s body. Drink champagne and orange juice from your belly buttons, serve (warm, not hot) pancakes on your abdomen and drizzle syrup over your nipples, line up berries on your legs, set up a dessert of whipped cream on your genitals.

Use your imagination, your lips, your tongues . . . Oysters. Hollandaise-dipped asparagus. Garlic. Okay, maybe that’s not breakfast fare, but certain foods and their aromas are said to have aphrodisiac properties, meaning they’re supposed to awaken your desire and keep it com-ing. A few more from the naughty-fun-food-file: scallops, mussels, king prawns, snails, fennel, pine nuts, ginger, saf-fron, radishes, vanilla, quince, chocolate, walnuts . . . all kinds of finger food, too, just because any time you’re suck-ing on fsuck-ingers, you’re probably gettsuck-ing in a certain frame of mind.

What are the most stimulating foods? Here are the top four, according to a Revlon survey of carnal cuisine:

Champagne or wine(34 percent) Strawberries(29 percent) Chocolate(23 percent) Whipped Cream(19 percent)

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No real news there, right? So let’s look a little deeper. In the mid- to late nineties, Alan Hirsch, M.D., conducted a series of experiments to see just which smells really get us hot. (The man also evaluated which smells cause us to lose weight, but that’s anoth-er story. You can learn more about both studies in his books, Scentsational Sex and Dr.

Hirsch’s Guide to Scentsational Weightloss.) He measured the increase in blood flow to the genitals of both men and women by hooking up the subjects to calibration equip-ment. For men, that meant a small blood pressure cuff on the penis, and for women a sterile photophlethysmograph (say that three times fast) inserted vaginally to measure pulse pressure and thus blood flow. Here’s what they found.

Scents causing a significant increase in the flow of blood to the vaginal area:

Aroma Average Increase

Good & Plenty^™candy (or Liquorice Allsorts) and cucumber . . . .13%

Pumpkin pie and lavender . . . .11%

Baby powder and chocolate . . . .4%

Scents causing a significant increase in the flow of blood to the penis:

Aroma Average Increase

Pumpkin pie and lavender . . . .40%

Cinnamon buns . . . .38%

Licorice and donuts . . . .31.5%

Pumpkin pie and donuts . . . .20%

Among the lower-scoring odors tested with both sexes: charcoal and mesquite barbecue smoke, cherry, lemon, banana-nut bread, sweet pea, parsley, coconut, green apple, peach, Oriental spice fragrance, vanilla (which got a good response among the older fellas), cranberry, peach, grape, root beer, cappuccino, gardenia, and some popular commercial perfumes and colognes.

You might be interested to know that no odor decreased blood flow for men. Even cranberry, dubbed by the doctor as “the biggest loser” in the study, caused a 2 percent increase. Perhaps more significant, several odors were found to impair arousal among women:

Scents causing a decrease in the flow of blood to the vaginal area:

Aroma Average Decrease

Cherry . . . .18%

Charcoal barbecue smoke . . . .14%

Male colognes . . . .1%

Women’s perfumes caused only a 1 percent increase in blood flow to the vagina. And, as you might expect, women’s responses were more complex than the men’s. It seems that the guys responded all pretty much the same, with some slight variations between age groups and sexual activeness categories. Women, on the other hand, had widely variant responses dependent on whether they become “extremely aroused” with manual stimulation or mastur-bation and whether they are multiorgasmic* in at least a third of their sexual encounters.

What all this means in terms of your own sex life depends on you—your preferences, your sexual activities and behaviors. It doesn’t mean

you need to run out and buy a photophle-thingamajig, just that scent-testing could be a really fun experiment to do in your own home without the high-tech tools. You could have a great time playing with foods and aromas that are supposed to tantalize.

Melts in Your Mouth, Not in Your . . .

Although it may be tempting, you shouldn’t put most foods inside your vagina. (Lacing the outside with treats is fine.) It’s a delicate ecosystem in there, and introducing foreign bacteria can lead to a serious infection.

Absolute no-no: meat, which is easily contaminated. Supposedly okay: yogurt, which is full of the bacteria that fights yeast. Anything in between? Just be very careful, and if you’re not sure, ask your doctor. y

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*Multiorgasmic: Having more than one orgasm in a lovemaking session, either just moments or minutes apart, or spaced at longer intervals.

Feed each other licorice candy and cucumber slices, and see if it heats things up any. If you’re someone who gets really turned on by masturbation, substitute licorice and banana-nut bread.

Try putting a pumpkin pie in the oven, spritzing your pillows with lavender water, then hitting the sheets to see if it does anything for either one or both of you.

Lightly dust your shoulders with baby powder and share some chocolate kisses—literally, by sharing a piece of chocolate—and see where that leads. Skip the powder if you’re multiorgasmic more than a third of the time (according to the study, it would be a buzzkill), and just go for the chocolate.

Try flavored lubricants.They come in all kinds of yummy varieties, from chocolate and strawberry to tangerine and cinnamon. (What, no Good & Plenty flavor? We haven’t found it yet, but wouldn’t that be a great name for a sex aid? Are you listening, Hershey’s Foods?) Even if you don’t need lube for lovemaking, a bit of extra glide can increase sensation. Yum.

Still another idea is to set out a smorgasbord of flavors and aromas. Use the ones already listed in this chapter, and add others, too, to see what you and your lover like the most. Keep a shot glass with a few coffee beans nearby to neutralize your nose, and some oyster crackers to clear your palate from time to time. Then one of you should close your eyes (use a blindfold if that works for you), and the other can offer things to smell and taste, alternating with a whiff of the coffee beans or a bite of cracker between. Have fun feeding each other and enjoying the pleasure of treating one another to a variety of scent-sations.