Conclusiones

There are simple hand jobs and complex hand jobs. Hands-on sex can involve penetration or not; it’s all up to you. There is no right or wrong way to enjoy touching and being touched. We are all

different, and the best way to learn about pleasing a lover with your hands is by asking questions, listening, and paying close attention to her responses.

Try exploring your lover’s body with your hands as a prelude to other forms of sex. Touching her everywhere gives you a chance to find her most sensitive areas. Go on an exploratory mission. Find her hot spots, cataloging them as you go along so you can recall the information later.

Your fingertips are extremely sensitive instruments that transmit an incredible amount of information to your brain about your lover’s body. The minute you start touching her you’ll know how turned on she is, how wet she is, how warm and soft she is. Don’t go rushing for her pussy. Take time to stroke her everywhere. Use your hands to tease her and turn her on. Stroke her thighs, ass, belly, breasts,

arms, back, and shoulders.

Feel the dip of her waist. If your partner is more masculine in her gender presentation, try running your hands across her chest. Use a flat palm to explore the broad muscular areas of her body. Feel her arms. Touch the back of her neck. Graze her pussy lightly as you kiss her, just to make her want it more. Don’t be afraid to torture her a little. The more turned on she is, the better everything you do will feel.

Pay close attention to her body language. If she responds with groans and sighs, or leans into your touch, you’ve found a sensitive spot. If there are places she especially likes or dislikes being touched you’ll know by her response.

Does your partner prefer light, soft touching, or does she find it too ticklish? What about firm, deliberate grasps and stroking? Most people have a preference when it comes to intimate erotic touching. Find yours! Touch is crucial for creating the right tone for your sexual encounter. Use your hands as instruments to help her body dance and sing.

TOUCHING BREASTS AND CHESTS

Everyone loves breasts. We either want ours touched or we want to touch someone else’s—and often we want both. Touching her breasts and nipples releases a feel-good hormone called oxytocin that gets her excited and ready for sex. If your lover is more masculine, she might find that having her breasts cupped feels too girly. Instead, concentrate on playing with her nipples. Pull and pinch the nipples, roll them between your fingers, grip her tits firmly, or stroke her chest as if it were flat.

THE CLIT IS IT

You know from chapter 4 that the clit is oh so much more than the tiny nub you can feel at the top of her vulva. That nub, however, is pretty freaking important to her pleasure. It’s actually the key to her orgasm. You know this. She knows this. When it’s time, direct your magic toward the clit.

tease her lips. Caress her, paying attention to her response. This teasing will help you discover what types of touch feel best to her.

The clit is a lot more responsive when a woman is very aroused. Going right for the clit before you’ve warmed her up can feel more uncomfortable than exciting, so begin by touching it indirectly. Rub the side of her clit with the tips of your fingers. You can also try rubbing across the top of her hood

without pulling it back. Get some lube ready, because you’re going to want it. No matter how wet she is, everything feels better with lube. And if you doubt me here, or if lube is new to you, trust me. Lube not only makes penetration more comfortable, but it is also an unparalleled sexual prop. If you teach yourself how and when to use lube—and you make it a common part of your sex routine—you will come across as a sexual virtuoso who knows what women want!

First, cover your hand with lube. Use more than you think you need. Drizzle some lube on her vulva and make your hand into a loose, flexible fist. Rub her pussy in an up and down motion using the back of your knuckles. Using your hand this way can really help you touch many sensitive parts of her pussy at the same time. Apply more lube as you need it. You can keep doing this as long as you’d like; in fact, this is a great way to bring her to orgasm. Just be sure to keep to a rhythm and maintain

contact with her vulva.

Check in with her often, and ask her how it feels. Does she need more direct contact with her clit? Ask!

EIGHTY PERCENT OF WOMEN WILL COME AFTER FIFTEEN MINUTES OF DIRECT