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Boys and girls tend to be socialized separately from birth. Boys are taught to conquer and are often encouraged to experience as much variety as possible before choosing a life mate. Girls, conversely, are taught to preen, prepare, and wait—wait for the right man who will come along and then their lives can officially begin. A famous line from an old Bette Davis movie, Mr. Skeffington, says, “A woman is beautiful only when she is loved.” With lines like this, it’s no wonder each gender has such difficulty understanding the other.

Exactly whom are these boys supposed to be conquering while the girls are waiting to be loved? Who’s showing them the way? From childhood on, girls lean toward other girls and boys convene with other boys, each gender debating about the other with friends who, for the most part, are equally naïve. And while it’s a great idea to bond with the same sex, there’s definitely something to be said for hanging with the boys (and vice versa). Plenty of us girls are, and have been, slipping through the cracks and mingling with the opposite sex as platonic friends, allowing us to gain valuable experience and readiness for a relationship. We actively interact with a sufficient number of boys so that we, too, can make educated determinations about life mates.

Vixen Tip

Yes, it is very romantic to sit in a fine dining establishment with their best bottle of Chianti and make puppy-dog eyes at one another over flickering candlelight, but once in a while, do it his way. Suggest that

the two of you go to Hooters on game night. Order a pitcher of beer, a platter of wings, and get into the game. Need a little more excitement?

Visit your local strip club, preferably one that serves dinner, and enjoy a little exotic entertainment with your meal before going home and ravishing your man. Fishing, four-wheeling, or just lying in bed watching reruns—it doesn’t matter. Just be with him, listen, and learn.

Women who socialize with men, preferably those with whom they do not share an intimate relationship, have a tremendous advantage over women who don’t. Because of the way our society has historically defined male and female roles, however, a young woman who befriends mostly men is usually labeled a “tomboy” or “fast” (and occasionally worse). This assumption often comes from other women who envy or resent the camaraderie between that woman and the men who gather around her. Since women are taught to believe that men and women, outside of the professional world, can communicate only on an intimate level, the assumption is that a woman spending time with several men is surely doing so for sexual purposes. This kind of social stereotyping often keeps women away from men in casual, friendly environments, as the women do not want to appear easy or available, both to onlookers or the men in question.

This archaic thinking serves only to keep us divided and continually mystified by each other. As progressive as society seems to have become, some women are still reluctant to see men as viable friends and confidants. This is arguably one of the main reasons for our startling national divorce rate. Perhaps if more women and men were friends first before dating and marrying, a stronger level of

understanding and willingness to fight for, instead of opting out of, marriages and relationships would be achieved.

Ever since I could remember, I have always been more comfortable around males. As a preteen, I would borrow clothes from the boys I climbed trees with and dress like them at school. We hung out on backstreets and in the alley behind our neighborhood KMart, experimenting with cigarettes and graffiti. It was one of my male

friends who taught me how to ride a bike by pushing me down a hill on his ten-speed. My first fight, in the fifth grade, was with a boy. Yep, sure was. After he cut in front of me in the lunch line, I coldcocked his ass.

He, his black eye, and I promptly ended up in the principal’s office.

After he told the principal it was an accident, we were best friends!

None of the girls in school understood my relationships with the neighborhood boys, why I was the only girl hanging out with them, or why they all paid attention to me and not the more feminine girls. As a result of them being unable to understand why I preferred being around boys instead of girls, from a very young age, probably around ten years old, I became accustomed to being called a slut and having vicious rumors spread about me. Now, some twenty years later, it’s pretty much the same. Some little girls never really grow up, choosing instead to maintain the same fixed opinions formed in childhood, instead of engaging someone like me in dialogue, exploring my motivations and what I could possibly glean from being in the company of the opposite sex. It’s easy to judge from the safety of one’s corner, but in doing so you limit yourself. So many women still fail to understand the dynamics of the male species. Many also fail to understand a woman who relates well to men and can earnestly share in their lives during work or play.

A woman who spends more time around men has a better chance of learning not just about the opposite sex but also about the

characteristics that drive men. Many of these traits are missing from our general makeup, as many women have been raised to be worker bees instead of the queen bee. Don’t misunderstand what this means, ladies. There is nothing wrong with being a worker. Indeed, there are those of us who make diligent and excellent supports, playing a necessary and vital part in keeping things together. But there are some women who, because of their drive and hunger for leadership, are clearly cut out to be bosses. But all too often, as we are growing from girls to women, we are not provided with the strong, leading female role models we crave. This is where the appropriate male role models can come into play.

Vixen Tip

Where personal relationships are concerned, it is vital that you find a way to make your man’s hobbies and interests your own, even if just for a moment. Interact with your male friends and family members more often and indulge in things you wouldn’t usually. Sports are a surefire way for women to participate, even if you don’t fully understand what’s happening. Just be there and get involved. Talk to the men in your life about the women in theirs. Find out their likes and dislikes about their women, ask about the experiences that made them laugh and those that made them angry—and listen, really listen. Don’t interject with opinions or suggestions, just empathize and understand.

Interjecting can be cute once in a while, but when trying to relate in a man’s world, it’s often better to watch and learn before speaking.

You’d hate to come across as annoying when trying to bond with your man. No matter what the men in your life are interested in, give it a try.

You have no reason to be intimidated by any of it.

Vixen Say What?

It’s better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.

Though it is true that men and women are wired differently, it is also true that with sufficient time and consideration, each sex can begin to understand the other. Every woman has a masculine side and every man, a feminine. Each should learn to tap in to the side less utilized and take note as to how much more smoothly their relationships and life will run. Make yourself available to the men in your life, whether family, platonic, or intimate. Learn as much about the opposite sex as you can.

You will find yourself becoming more open and understanding of your mate, and he will enjoy your company so much more. When you learn

as much as you can about what it means to be a man, he will open up more of his life to you and respond accordingly, allowing you to feel all that it means to truly be a woman.

Recap

From childhood on, girls lean toward other girls and boys convene with other boys.

There’s definitely something to be said for hanging with the boys.

A young woman who befriends mostly men is usually labeled a

“tomboy” or “fast.”

A woman who spends more time around men has a better chance of learning not just about the opposite sex, but about the characteristics that drive men.

Every woman has a masculine side and every man, a feminine.

When you learn as much as you can about what it means to be a man, he will open up more of his life to you.