You would be capable doing things that you did not do as a younger woman, because we are al- ways concerned with our future and your future is going to be happier than your past.
I realize the biological clock is ticking and that you may have somewhat reconciled yourself that you may not remarry. You would probably outlive your first husband. You don't want to take a per- son into your life that is going to order you about because you have created a great deal of indepen- dence.
You've been your own person, you've set your own hours, you do pretty much what you want to do and you certainly don't want to be dependent on your children. You don't want to be dependent or co-dependent on other people around you. You go through life and the fact of the matter is that most of the men that you meet at church or at social gatherings probably do not impress you. They are either too short or too tall or too fat or too thin, too rough or too smooth and you are comparing these men that you meet currently with a man that you have already known or perhaps have been in a relationship or been married to. There is some unfinished business within your life as far as relationships. You don't have time to go to the clubs and the bars and the lounges to meet people simply because everybody seems to be younger than you.
And simply because you always feel like perhaps I'm the oldest person in the room and I may not be the young busty blond with blue eyes any long- er so I'm more moderate in my life style.
Your energy level really tells me that you will not go through life alone. That you have proved what- ever points you were trying to prove.
You've accomplished whatever you have tried to accomplish. You've not fallen down, not gone to the bottom of the barrel, not settled for second best or compromised and obviously you would rather be with a good book than some fool.
You're going to meet a potential mate in the day- time rather than in the evening and seventy per- cent of the time it's going to be somebody you work for or work with.
You would need a companion and you don't nec- essarily need a person to tell you what to do or or- der you about, but you need a lifemate, a compan- ion, someone that is gainfully employed, has good self-esteem and self-confidence and someone who is not abusive mentally, physically or substance abusive. Somebody who would give as they get. I can see you with this type of individual.
Your previous husband probably didn't under- stand completely where you were coining from, what you're all about, or where you are going. I think that you have become more moderate in this sense that you may use less makeup now.
You have clothing and outfits and I believe in looking at you that you still have outfits in your closet that perhaps you have not worn in three or four years although they are still very capable of wearing if you can lose those few pounds that you have been trying to lose.
You have the outfits waiting for you, it's just a
question of taking off the weight that you have been trying to take off and unfortunately as we get older we have a tendency of putting on weight. You're dealing with cellulite and fats and all that stuff and it makes it very difficult to lose the weight as it was as a younger woman.
You don't seem to require as much rest or sleep now as you did as a younger woman so it gives you more time to be productive within your life. I know you are faced with the question is this all there is? Is this all there is in my life to look for- ward to? Too collect unemployment? Too collect social security? And sit back and knit sweaters and afghans?
I don't think so. You are capable. Age is in the mind. A romantic relationship is 90% in the mind and whereas you do not look your age you will have the potential of attracting younger men to you.
Even in relationships as a woman of your twen- ties, before you have become physically active with a man, there would have to be a ring on your finger or you would have to have an engagement or have some formal agreement that you are going to be together for the rest of your life.
Now that you are in your sixties perhaps this real- ism has set in or logical common sense has set in whereas, many men that are in there sixties are impotent, many men in their sixties are dysfunc- tional, so that it's really necessary to know about the person and they say you don't know about a person until you live with the person or until at least until you have been intimate with the person. The ground rules have changed nowadays. Today, if a sixty year old woman is going to date or be brought together by a match maker or by a blind date, you're not going to date this person for five years and decide on perhaps being intimate after five years because the rules and regulations as a young woman don't apply today.
So you're forced with making decisions you would rather not make and it's got nothing to do with your integrity, and it's probably been a while since you've been in a physical relationship and perhaps at least by the sound of your voice, your energy level perhaps you don't feel that you need that much of a physical relationship and you would probably sacrifice the physical relationship for companionship.
You seem to be reasonably healthy, you don't like to take pills and medicines. You still are able to look good at your age. Most people wouldn't guess how old you are. You still dress nice and you still look great in the color purple. You are still able to socialize and go to weddings. I think you probably still like to dance.
The future being a reflection of your past, indi- cates if you do nothing, if you open no doors in your life everything would be the same and you and I could sit and chat in a year or two years from now and your life will not have changed at all.
Everything will remain the same, so it's time to resolve issues. If there are any unresolved issues and of course by being single you don't like to go everywhere alone. It gets tiresome to go out with girlfriends to the movies or shopping. I think that what you are looking for in your life is some form of excitement that you have not had for a period of time.
You may find yourself becoming more sentimen- tal or looking back in the past with relationships or that boy that liked you in your senior year in high school or that college fling.
You may be looking back in time and wondering how things could have changed within your life. And it seems you like to talk, you're educated, I feel that you are articulate and that you keep your- self very busy. You handle money well, you get a dollars value out of a dollar spent.
In many ways you have a lot more going for you than you think. You are not handicapped, you don't have two heads. You are pleasant to be with. You are an excellent hostess, you keep a very clean place. In many ways you have a great deal to offer and you will find in potential relationships that you probably have more to offer than a man would have to offer. You are still quite photogenic and everybody seems to like your sense of humor. It gets tiresome going to family gatherings alone. In my mind I see a man proposing marriage to you but you would' refuse, simply because it would be a good relationship, a loving relation- ship, it would be a relationship were you would have feelings for the person. You wouldn't be in love with the person, so not wanting to mislead him or compromise him, you would rather wait until the ideal person comes along. But what I sense further is that you're comparing a current male with a past male.
I feel that in relationships if you have three dates with the same gentleman, I suspect that's serious because if your not really impressed on the first or second date it is highly unlikely that there would be a third date.
You are capable of achieving anything you want to achieve. You have a secret admirer, somebody you see in the daytime either a work related situa- tion or in a public place but I would feel that you do have a secret admirer.
I would sense that a person who is widowed or di-
vorced, perhaps a little bit older than you is going to bring you together so that you don't really have to go on any hunting spree, you don't have to be- come the seductress to find a person, because the fact of the matter is I don't think that you could be the happy hooker or you could be the one night stand if you tried to be.
Simply because that is not in your upbringing. Your upbringing is one-man, one-woman, total commitment, total monogamy, and then marriage. That's basically how you have been and unfortu- nately most of the men that you meet are sort of not necessarily players, but they don't take life as seriously as you take life.
It's a constant frustration and there may well be a professional man in your future like a doctor or lawyer, because I would see you talking to a pro- fessional man and I'm not entirely sure what the dialog is about, but there is a certain gleam in his eye, a certain little boy innocence within his eye and it appears that he is attracted to you.
If this has not already occurred, it probably is about to occur. September and October are very strong months during the time of Libra or Scorpio very strong months for you too have good luck relative to relationships. Once the relationship has gone thirty months, that's two and a half years, once it has gone that far without commitment it is time to change horses midstream, it's time to change relationships, it's time to change things. I say this because I think the thirtieth month, once you have reached the two and a half year period of time in any relationship it's time then to be to- gether. You may have had feelings where as a young girl, I'll never live with somebody, but as an adult woman you may at least consider that, because a lot of times it's less problematic and it's less confusing than marrying somebody.
I would guarantee you this that you will not go through life alone, absolutely, it's not going to be. It's just a question of looking ahead to the fall, to the autumn months and when the autumn leaves are falling, I think this is going to be your period of time. Simply believe in yourself and have hope, because without hope there is nothing.
You'll find if you truly concentrate on the future, the universe shall provide, God shall provide as far as what is going to happen within your life. So again I wish you good luck, and God bless.