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know she would be comfortable in going. She trusts you so much that you can lead her into those territories and she will open into those territories.

Basically as you open a territory for her, her orgasm is going to just continue to expand and that’s why I continually talk about be creative. Be creative and work on the ‘how’ and combining the techniques of making love to her, giving her cunnilingus and oral pleasure, stroking her G spot, pleasuring her clit, all in the creativity that you bring in terms of drawing out her pleasure.

Grant: Love that. Part of bringing out the goddess – you and I are both very

familiar with the works of David Deida, and he talks about feminine energy and goddess energy as something that’s just the fullness of all sensual reality, the fullness of experience.

As men we tend to gravitate toward emptiness. That makes us happier, to be mono-focused on something, to have a job to do, to have an empty room without clutter.

Women love the fullness of experience, which is why they love incense and candles and beautiful curtains and the whole romantic set-up. It’s really a deep feminine need.

So I’d like to take that notion of a full overload of sensual awareness and now talk about sexuality and giving a woman a sensual overload. Now we’re going to talk about techniques for a little bit, just to give people a structure.

We’re going to talk a little bit about sensual technique and how to overload a woman with pleasure. Then we’re going to talk about the secret of making love for hours. Then we’re going to talk about deep communion, where technique falls away.

So let’s first talk about those last three things and then we’ll have some questions and answers.

So sensual overload. It’s something that the deep feminine really craves and the goddess energy really craves. So what do you have to say about merely pleasuring a woman versus overloading her senses so that she’ll have these mind-blowing body-shivering orgasms.

Neo: In order to overload her senses, first you have

to know what senses to overload. Basically that brings us to the foreplay stage, where if you haven’t taken the time to explore every part of her body, take the time to explore every part of her body.

Women love kissing because it makes them feel connected to the man, once again. It’s one of their core needs and fantasies.

So as you kiss her, see what kind of touch you can incorporate. You can be touching her cheeks. Women love to have their face held as you’re kissing her. You can be stroking just lightly her scalp while you’re kissing her. You can be playing with her ears while kissing her. You can be circling her lower back while kissing her.

Now all of these are aspects of sensory overload where she is experiencing the kiss and all these other sensations are coming in. You could be lightly brushing over the inside of her thigh while you’re kissing her, and then move down to kiss her neck while you stroke just the outer ridges of her butt. Then moving

organically from one area to another.

A woman’s whole body is an erogenous zone. Yes, there are definitely more nerve endings at the clitoris and at the vagina for sure, and at the nipples and the breasts. But if you can create a symphony of sensory pleasure for her, she is going to be in heaven because a woman really wants to be touched.

Once again, to move and transition smoothly from just touching her into foreplay is actually really easy. If she’s comfortable with you touching her stomach, you could be kissing her and just lightly brush upwards to the bottom of her breasts and just lightly brush against her nipples and take it away.

There’s almost like nothing to object. You’re just progressively leading her into a more deeper level of her pleasure.

Grant: You talked about using music as a metaphor when you’re developing

technique.

Neo: Yes. When you’re practicing, when you’re being with a woman, notice the

rhythm that you’re touching her, the pace, the location, the pressure. Just as many variations as you can think of, women will feel the difference and will appreciate your sensitivity to how you’re touching her.

This is one of the great keys, once you move into sensual and sexual techniques. For example, you could be circling her nipples with your tongue while one finger’s on her clit with another finger inside her.

Or you could be sucking on her neck while this is happening. Or any

combination that you could possibly think of. You could be coaxing her G spot while looking deeply in her eyes and stroking her hair.

So basically all of the foreplay techniques get incorporated into how you are making love with her. The sexual techniques, once again it’s like yes, each one is an isolated technique, and yet the key to mastery is how do you combine

these techniques while paying attention to her responses that brings out her deepest pleasure.

As we move into the techniques, it’s like if you take your time you will find her pleasure code. If you take your time and have patience, you will find it. There are definite ways where you can – well, actually most guys just don’t necessarily – I was telling you about this, Grant, where if you’re making love with a woman, most guys do not still use their fingers to pleasure her clit.

So if you just do that half the time, in almost any position, in the missionary position, when you’re inside her from behind, when she’s on top of you, you can still be pleasuring her clit, which is the female main sexual organ.

So taking the technique of overloading her senses, especially pay attention that wherever you are you can be pleasuring her clit. Studies have shown that only 30% of women will have an orgasm during intercourse, and that’s because her clit is not getting stimulated. So stimulate her clitoris from any and all the positions that you possibly can.

And then practice sexual fractionation. This is a concept in hypnosis, where if you go deep, if you take someone deep into trance and then take them back out, then the next time you take them in they’re going to go in deeper than they were before.

The same thing with women. You’re going to take her into deep intense

pleasure, and then you’re going to back off. You can just take a break and just look into her eyes, kiss her, tell her something about her that you really

appreciate and adore, and then go back in and pleasure her again.

It’s really about like a symphony that you’re creating with her that’s going to lead her to greater and greater levels of orgasms.

Grant: Since we’re using the musical metaphors, we talked about being in

rhythm in terms of music, and we can talk about the instrument that you’re using. If your body is the instrument, you had a really fascinating way of saying that you can turn your whole body into your penis basically.

One of the concerns the guys had getting into this, we asked “What are you guys interested in learning?” and one of the biggest concerns was “How do I keep going for an hour? She wants to go for an hour and I want to pleasure her for an hour. How do I keep myself going?”

You have an interesting exercise that not only keeps better control, but turns your body into a more sensitive sexual organ.

Neo: The exercise is a very foundational practice in tantra and it’s the Kegel, so

midstream. So if you guys are going to practice, then for the next week anytime you pee, stop your pee in midstream seven times.

Basically you can be working this muscle anywhere. You could be watching TV, you could be driving, and this is the same muscle that will stop your orgasm. Now it also comes to awareness, where I would practice – if you’re masturbating or whether you’re making love with a woman, going from say a scale of 0 to 100, going from 60 down to 50, then up to 70 and back down to 60, up to 80, up to 90, up to 95, up to 99, then come back.

Just note on a scale where your arousal, or how close you are to having an orgasm and practice that, along with the Kegels, and you’ll have a lot more control.

Always remember, when you’re getting close to the 95 level, you can always pull out and give her oral pleasure. Or you can pull out and use your finger. She doesn’t mind, as long as you’re continuing to give her pleasure.

She will feel the variation of it. One of the simplest ways, even when you don’t have these exercises, is to use that variation. You don’t have to be pounding away at her the whole time. She’ll like it.

Pound her, give her that primal aggressive energy, and then love her. You could actually be inside her and just totally stop and just stroke her hair and she will melt. She will be like, “Oh my god.” It’s the contrast that will elicit her most exquisite self.

Grant: There’s another upside of this, not that that isn’t enough, but when you

have that kind of control, when you do that stopping your pee seven times every time for two weeks, even when you’re driving or watching TV, just practice that – there’s an energy…and again this isn’t something that everyone’s familiar with, but there’s an energy that lifts into your body from your groin up into your stomach and into your chest.

When you can stop that and pull it upwards – and we’ll be talking about this in the next few weeks – your whole body becomes sensitive.

Neo: Yes, and this is part of the process of communion. So as you open up

more and more hidden aspects of your woman, where she trusts you more and more, surrenders to you more and more, opens to you more and more, and you doing this exercise can actually spread the pleasure and the intense energy from your penis into your whole body, so that your whole body becomes sensitive. The more and more you become sensitive, as you make love to her, the more and more you will begin to feel her pleasure. That means that a slight difference in how you’re inside her and how you’re touching her and how you’re pleasuring

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her, you will feel in your body, because you’re becoming more and more merged with this.

On some level you’ll get so sensitive that you will know exactly where to go to give her the maximum pleasure, because you’ll be feeling what she’s feeling. This is getting closer and closer to the level where you guys are at one with each other.

I know all you guys have experienced moments where, during orgasm or not, where you’re almost like temporarily without your mind. There’s so much energy, so much pleasure, that you don’t know where you are.

That’s the energy of communion. So the key is how do you stretch that energy out? How do you stretch that energy out from two seconds to five seconds to ten seconds to 30 seconds to a minute, to where you’re using that as a reference to be an amount of energy that you can be running in your daily life towards your self-actualization, toward creating the highest vision that you have for yourself?

Grant: This is a huge point, and we’ll end on this before we get to questions.

Again it’s a big leap, but what you’re saying is that when your body does become this portal of gifting pleasure, you can recall that any time during the day.

It becomes a practice, like anything else. This isn’t something like a magic pill. It’s something that you practice daily.

We had a discussion and you and I were talking about it’s like a high almost. You could be in a restaurant and sort of remember or re-access that feeling. The waiter could be an asshole to you, but you won’t care because your body has actually changed, the physiology of your body.

Neo: Yeah, the metaphor that I gave to you is like if you guys don’t know ‘how

to do it,’ imagine if you and your girlfriend, lover, or wife are fucking like crazy in the back of a car. She’s screaming, you’re going nuts, and both of you have incredible simultaneous orgasms, and then you go into a restaurant right away. So you’re still high, you’re still high, you just had incredible sex. How and who do you be right then? Everybody will feel it in the restaurant. There will be a level of softness, relaxation, consciousness, of presence, of love, of pleasure that’s coursing through your body that is palpable.

So the key is how do you take that remembrance of that energy more and more into your daily life? If you have a dream, if you have a vision for yourself and you’re getting a little bit discouraged about whether it’s possible, this is when you remember or take this energy.

It’s like when a woman is devouring your cock and is sucking on you, you feel like on top of the world. So basically what you want to do is take this feeling when you’re feeling down and remember that this is the feeling that you’re capable of in your body.

Use that energy. Use the vigor, the vitality, the pleasure of this energy to share your gift with the world, to create incredible visions and fun play things and share that with the world.

Grant: That’s how you connect the sexual of getting a really fantastic blow job

with serving the world. And I do get the connection. It’s a great way to sort of end this sort of process, because it doesn’t end with orgasm. Orgasm really becomes a portal to a deeper pleasure and wanting to share that deeper pleasure and almost naturally sharing that with people in your life.

So what I’d like to do now is I’d like to open up the lines for questions. We have a great system here where if you press 5* a little hand will appear on my screen. We can call on you and you’ll hear that your line is unmuted.

Say your name and where you’re calling from, your first name and where you’re calling from. So let’s see who has a hand raised.

Caller: Hello everybody, this is Jimmy calling from south Florida. There’s something that came to mind while you were talking. One thing is that I want to share with everybody – the stuff that you guys are saying, a lot of what we’re learning here, believe it or not you could actually say it to the woman. I mean you could even like write it down and say it to them. They love that.

I heard I guess it was Tom Ranati in an interview and he was talking about how you can make a woman come three times before you ever enter her. For some reason, I’ve tried saying that and she loved it.

I mean everything you’ve taught tonight I could say to a woman and she would love it. It’s not like I have to be hiding it in my head or anything.

Neo: Oh yeah, totally. Let her know.

Caller: The other thing I wanted to say was you were talking about prolonging your need to come or whatever. I’ve learned that you can actually ejaculate without coming or without having an orgasm, and then keep going. It just depends.

Neo: I’ve only done that a couple times. Still practicing on that one. Caller: But anyway, I recently read, and this doesn’t have to do with exactly what you’re talking about but I’m sure you’ll know – it has to do with something…you know how women can squirt…I recently read something about

men being able to do something similar to that. It sounded like pre- -- anyway, have you heard about anything such as that?

Neo: I don’t know where men would squirt out of other than…

Caller: It’s like after you have your orgasm, that a woman could take you to a place where you would like literally just tons and tons of fluid would come out of you and it wouldn’t be pee, like what happens to her.

Neo: Nice. I have not heard of that.

Caller: You haven’t heard about it, ok. I don’t totally trust it. It’s kind of like….

Grant: It’s a south Florida thing.

Neo: If you guys want to play with the practice of having your woman have

ejaculatory orgasms, make sure that she has had two or three orgasms, because the G spot or the Skene’s gland is where the fluid builds.

You’ll actually feel it start to bulge out and it actually takes a lot of pressure to coax an ejaculatory orgasm out of a woman. But she has to be properly aroused in order for you to do that. You can’t do it in the beginning, because the Skene’s gland’s not full enough.

But if you want to play with it, the G spot’s about 2” in, a little rough patch of skin. When she comes a couple of times, you’ll feel it start to bulge. You can actually feel it. The speed at which you do it is actually very quick.

When she’s squirting, it’s amazing. Before I heard about it, but in actually doing it women will curl up like a baby, like she has just so surrendered and so like exploded into her fullness, it’s just like it becomes like a pure innocent instinct. I just like to just hold her in that incredible energy. So yeah play with that but