I need to create order. I expect women to fear my authority.
I need love. I expect to develop a romantic relationship with the woman I’m talking to.
I need sex. I expect sex from a woman under my care.
I need to socialize. I expect other men to listen to me.
I need a romantic relationship. I expect a woman to meet my domestic needs (childcare, cooking, cleaning).
I need an orderly relationship. I expect to state my interest in a woman.
I need affection. I expect my attention and affection to be fully reciprocated.
I need female support. I expect the woman I’m dating to emotionally invest in me as much as I invest in her.
I need male support. I expect men to reciprocate my friendship.
I need to maintain an orderly romantic relationship.
I expect a woman to submit to my direction and support my decisions.
I need to take care of those under my authority.
I expect those under my care (wife, children, girlfriend, employees, etc.) to obey me.
I need to submit to those taking care of me.
I expect to obey those
responsible for my care (boss, government, father, mother, teachers, etc.)
Deprivation vS. SatiSfaction
Most people today can get many of their basic needs met. They have access to food, water, air, shelter, etc. Yet the dissatisfying state of their lives shows that their needs are not being fully met. Because of feminism’s damaging influence, both gender’s social needs are neglected.
Because your needs still remain unfulfilled, you will start seeking out dysfunctional ways to meet them. For example, if you have access to food, you can meet your physical need. Now you can concentrate on other things because the thought of hunger doesn’t consume you.
But if there’s a food shortage, you will experience nagging hunger pangs. You won’t be able to think of anything but food. You will do anything to meet your need.
If you can’t get food in a functional way (by growing or buying it), eventually, you will employ dysfunctional solutions to meet your need; you might start stealing food from others. You might rob a bank.
Or you might even decide to eat other people.
In a state of deprivation, your behavior becomes dysfunctional.
Deprivation results in disorder. For example, if your sexual needs aren’t being met in a romantic relationship, the relationship will break down. It’s no coincidence that today, pornography is one of the largest industries capitalizing on sexual deprivation in males.
But males aren’t the only ones being deprived of their necessities. Because of feminism’s dysfunctional social climate, women also have needs that aren’t being met in their relationships.
When men lose their authority, they are unable to fulfill women’s emotional needs. Thus, the prescription drug industry now exploits the emotional
deprivation in females.
Even cell phones and computers—initially created as social tools—now contribute to epidemic levels of social deprivation.
Because technology can never replace male authority, everyone’s need for order remains unfulfilled. Adding more conveniences to your life will never be an adequate substitute for male authority.
Just as your body is not designed to eat artificial food coloring or other chemical additives, your need for social interaction will not be placated by virtual reality substitutions. Video depictions of sex can’t replace intimacy. Online “social” networks can’t
replace in-person friendships. Artificial sex robots1 can’t replace love. To answer the problem of social deprivation, you must learn how to create and maintain order.
The solution is not to condemn your desires. Your need for love, sex and companionship will never go away. In fact, these functional desires are necessary to push you toward order.
The solution is also not to adapt to the problem as the Seduction Community has done.2 Quick-fix bandaid solutions only allow the problem to persist. They will never solve it. In fact, the problem is further reinforced by short-sighted solutions that normalize your deprived condition.
And the solution is not to sweep the problem under the rug as feminists have done by completely ignoring your male needs3. Failing to address deprivation will not magically make it disappear.
The epidemic social problems men and women face today are a testament to that fact.
Your present lack of direction is
causing everyone in your relationships to suffer. Only by developing expectations to match your needs can your social problems finally
1 http://www.cnn.com/2010/TECH/02/01/sex.robot/index.html?hpt=T2 2 http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=359
3 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2009_Collier_Township_shooting
be addressed. Once these expectations are made clear, you will then have the direction necessary to start governing the behavior of others to meet those needs. This allows you to move everyone in the relationship from a state of deprivation to a state of satisfaction.
A harmonious, satisfying relationship should be the ultimate litmus test for your expectations. If your expectations fail to move your relationships toward an orderly, harmonious condition, they should be discarded.
DySfunctional expectationS
Just because others accept your expectations doesn’t mean they will automatically result in satisfying relationships. Your expectations must meet everyone’s needs—both yours and theirs—to establish order. All dysfunctional desires should be subordinate to this goal.
It’s difficult to sacrifice your dysfunctional expectations because they lead to short-term pleasurable gains. For example, you may expect to have a good time with your girlfriend even if she’s refusing to listen to you. It’s tempting to preserve a happy atmosphere by ignoring her dysfunctional behavior.
But over time, you will find it increasingly difficult to get your needs met in the relationship. The longer you cling to your dysfunctional expectation, the more it will undermine your authority over her.
Eventually, she will no longer fear your authority. And quite naturally, her love for you will also fade away.
These dysfunctional expectations will result in varying degrees of disorder:
• I want women to be in charge. [Dysfunctional. Can’t get needs met, no attraction.]
• I want to eat Chinese food instead of Mexican food. [Dysfunctional.
Caring for personal preferences will inhibit orderly social interactions.]
• I go with the flow. [Dysfunctional. Relying on entropy won’t create order.]
Some expectations, like your acquired personal preferences, don’t seem dysfunctional (e.g., preferring blonds to brunettes). But no matter how seemingly benign an expectation is, if it’s not moving everyone toward an orderly state, it’s dysfunctional.
Any expectation that doesn’t fully meet everyone’s needs in the relationship is dysfunctional by definition. Any expectation that accommodates dysfunctional behavior will lead to misery in the end.
By maintaining dysfunctional expectations, you guarantee yourself a life of disorder and dissatisfaction.
functional expectationS
Functional expectations, on the other hand, always move all parties toward an orderly, satisfying conclusion.
Here are some examples of functional expectations:
• I expect a woman to follow my directions, so I can protect her.
• I expect a woman to fear my authority, so I can create order in her life.
• I expect a woman to show affection, so my need for companionship is met.
The less dysfunctional an expectation, the more it meets everyone’s needs. Once an expectation fully meets everyone’s needs, it becomes functional.
Functional means orderly. With order, there is only one direction.
Every other direction is dysfunctional and will result in disorder.
Functional expectations have nothing to do with optional ‘lifestyle’
choices. You don’t choose functional expectations, just as you don’t choose your needs. You realize them.
Because of entropy, all things are drawn toward a natural state of disorder (memory loss, worn down buildings, sagging skin, unkempt lawns, eroding mountains).
Your
expectations are no
exception. They require regular maintenance to remain functional.
This is not to say that failure to remove personal preferences will cause your life to immediately self-destruct. But you should be clear about the nature of your expectations, even if they seem harmless.
There is no point in deluding yourself. The type of expectations you cultivate will affect your life and everyone in it. There is no such thing as an insignificant expectation.