Capítulo II. Marco teórico
2.1 Marco referencial
and helpful to have a friend around. Here’s how you can make the most of practicing with a friend:
Pick your practice - Decide what you’re going out to practice. It should be something specific, like an opener or a routine. Before you
go out, make sure you both know what you’re going to be working on and make a plan.
Know your material - Before you go out, make sure you understand what kinds of routines, openers, and stories you each like to tell. Let your partner know where you’re at in your practice. Are you working on opening? Are you working on Seeding Dates? Are you working on building value? You and your friend should be clear on what you know and what you’re practicing.
Reward Motivation - This is a technique to help motivate you when you’re out with a friend. Give your friend $100 and for each approach you make, he gives you back $20. Let’s say you have three hours to approach five groups of people or individual women or he keeps the remaining money.
Approach Alone - When making approaches, one guy should walk up and then the wing should follow once the first person has started conversation. Two guys walking up to a group together makes it more obvious that you’re there to hit on them, and our goal is to be subtle. So, walk up alone, then have your friend approach once you’ve progressed from the opener to conversation.
Secret Codes - Sometimes you’re going to want to communicate with your wingman without saying something out-loud. By the way, many women are masters of communicating in code with their friends on a girl's night out.
I suggest creating a code that you can use to communicate simple messages. Here’s an example of a code I used to use when my friend approached:
If I point with one finger when my friend approaches, it means that’s the woman I’m interested in. This lets him know to steer clear of her, while helping to build comfort with her friends.
If I point with two fingers, it means that I can’t remember the person’s name. It’s his cue to introduce himself to that person, and ask their name.
If I point with three fingers it means, I’d like him to help me politely eject from this group. There are some conversations you don’t want to be in, and sometimes it can be tough to leave. Having a friend come over and say, “Hey, you need to close out your tab,” or something similar can allow you to leave without being rude.
Debrief Afterwards - This is probably the most important part of working with a friend. Either when you get home, or the next day, sit down with your friend and go over what you did wrong and what you did right. Start to plan out your next practice session based on your debrief sessions.
Respect Your Wingman Friend - Some guys like to tease each other relentlessly. This is great for when you’re hanging out together, but not for attraction and seduction. When you and your friend are in a group together, you should always be propping each other up, never tearing each other down. In addition, don’t let other people tear your partner down. Stand up for him and make sure he stands up for you. You’re in it together.
One of the most powerful symbols that you're an interesting person is that you have interesting people around you. People who are not only fun to be around, but people who are just as interesting as you are.
Picture this: You're out at a bar or club and you approach a woman. You're the wing tonight, so you introduce your buddy and let everyone in the group know that he's an amazing guy. You just made him interesting, but you didn't do anything for yourself, right?
Wrong.
In fact, you've just totally set yourself up to be a super cool guy, because you convey respect for someone you care about. While you're giving social value to the guy you're winging for, you're also creating high social value for yourself in this situation. After all, if you're with this totally awesome dude, how awesome does that make you?
Pretty awesome.
This applies basically everywhere in life. Whether you're out at a bar or club, or just meeting people at a business conference or even trying to make new friends when you move to a new city. If you're around people who are interesting, people are going to assume that you're interesting yourself. If you introduce others as being fascinating, interesting people, others are going to want to know what you're hiding under your hat.
So, as a conclusion for this chapter, I want you to go find a wingman, share and discuss what you want to learn first and then go out.
See you in the field!
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