Modelo de desarrollo

Lessons in Action: Identity Storytelling

“You’re so passionate!” She stood between my legs as I sat in one of the few open bar stools. She subtly rubbed her dancer’s body against my inner thighs as she continued, “I’ve lived out here for two months, and you’re the first person I’ve met who actually cares about other people, who actually wants to have a conversation about something other than sports…”

I focused on her dark brown eyes as she spoke. Her face framed by her ringlets of dark curls. The words continued flowing from her red lips, but my focus wavered slightly as I realized what I had accomplished:

I had attracted the woman, who – from my perspective – was the most beautiful woman in the bar.

“You just seem like a really cool person,” she said.

“You’re different,” she said.

What made me so different?

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I showed up to the venue with a few friends. The bar was packed full of attractive women, and men (who I could only assume) weren’t very skilled at seduction. I had the upper hand.

I took my time with approaches and focused on keeping my friends entertained. I bought the birthday boy a drink and shared stories while I took note of the interesting people in the bar.

That’s when I saw her.

She was surrounded by five guys. The guys all seemed to be drunk. I walked over and opened one of the drunk guys by asking if he’d seen the game earlier. He started telling me a story about how he and his four buddies had not only seen the game – they’d been at the game.

“Oh that’s awesome! I wish I could have been there! I’m jealous,” I said. “So how do you all know each other?”

I find out that the lady I’m interested in is on a date with Alex, one of the buddies. Their body language tells me that it’s a first date, or at least, that they aren’t very comfortable with each other yet physically.

Conversation with her friends continues, and naturally, she joins. She tells me that she recently moved to the Bay Area from New York.

I start telling an identity story about the Bay Area to the group. Surprisingly, I’m able to hold all of their attention – large groups can be tough. We all talk and joke around for a while and I can sense that the woman I’m interested in is getting drawn into me. There are signs that she wants to talk to me, but she’s shy.

“You guys should come meet some of my friends.” I motion towards my crew. “We’re out celebrating my roommate’s birthday.”

“Maybe we’ll catch up with you later,” said Alex. I believe Alex had begun to feel threatened by me. However, when I left the group, two of the other guys came with me.

I introduced her group of friends to mine. She came along, and joined the group. At this point I was sure she wanted me to say something to her. So, I did.

“I love this gold lace in your dress pattern.” I touched her dress material and nodded approvingly. “It works well with the gold jewelry.”

“Thank you!” she said. “I’m trying to step up my wardrobe.” She reaches over to a pin on my lapel. “Is that a lion?”

“Of course,” I said, then I went into an Identity Story about leadership and how I think it’s important to convey a sense of self with your style, which she said she found fascinating. It opened up endless conversational threads.

As we spoke I noticed an open bar stool, so I continued talking to her while leading her to the stool. I sat down with open body language. As I talked, she pressed herself between my legs.

At this point, I started seeding like crazy. I told Identity Stories and seeded until she couldn’t take it anymore. She could not withstand the "Stringer Seeding Frenzy." She pulled out her phone and number closed me.

Note: More on seeding in the chapter – Seeding: The most efficient way to get a date

Alex, the guy she was on a date with, entered our intimate set and tried to pull her away. He was drunk and sadly attempted the old Hail Mary play to pull her home. He said: “I’m going to get out of here. Did you still want to come back and hang out for a while?”

To which she replied, “No thanks. I think I’m going to stay out a little bit longer. Have a great night and get home safe.”

Alex exited, dejected and wondering what the hell happened. She was going to go home with him until I arrived.

I continued to talk to her about her passions and goals for a long time. It started getting pretty late, and my friends told me that they were going to leave.

After she closed out, I lead her out of the venue by the hand. While walking, I caressed her hand with my thumb and she reciprocated. When we got to her car, we made out for a while. I cut it off and told her that she’d better go. We agreed to see each other on Tuesday. She drove off.

When I woke up the next morning, I had already received a text from her saying that she can’t wait to hang out soon.

Be the exception.

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Chapter 12:

Key 3: The Power of Active Disinterest,