Plan/acciones de movilidad específicas para el título de Máster:

No matter where you start, or where you are, always move towards topics and subjects that are

Fun, Positive, and Interesting!/

Figure 4.3.3-2: General Conversational Management Model

The most important direction to go, especially early in a conversation, is towards Fun, Positive, and Interesting topics and subjects. Even if you temporarily move away from that direction or end up in an area that is not very positive or interesting, keep steering in the right direction and in many cases you WILL get towards the right area soon enough (and if not, maybe that person is not someone that you want to talk to anyway).

4.3.4 Exercises and Assignments D8-T25

Exercises for General Conversational Management

1) Think of some conversations that you have been in recently, and write down the topic for each. At some particular moment early in the conversation, what was the main topic?

Topics

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2) Based on each of those topics, consider it a topic that leads to a TTP (copy each item above into the "Topic"

area below). For each of those Topics, list 6-8 different ways you could go, things you could comment on, ask about, directions you could "take" the conversation (these are the TTP Options, or Candidate Topics). Write each of those down.

Topic TTP Options (Candidate Topics')

3) Of the 6-8 different TTP Options you have written above for each Topic, which are the best? Which of these would move the conversation in a way that is best for you (think of "Fun, Positive, and Interesting")? Select two "candidates" and circle or highlight those two.

4) For each Topic, what would it have been like to have moved the conversation in the direction of the first item you circled? Practice that out loud for each Topic above, maybe by making a comment, asking a question, making a statement, etc., whatever it might take to move things in that direction.

5) Practice again on each by moving things in the direction of the second item that was circled.

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Assignments for General Conversational Management

1) For the next week or so, really be aware of the TTP opportunities in your day-to-day life.

When talking to anyone, even at the start of a conversation, look for moments where things can be "steered"

in a certain way. Make it so that it becomes easy for you to come up with a list of "options" very quickly. At any moment you should be able to think "Where can I go with this?".

At first, you may have to think of 6-8 options, but the REAL key is to at least get to the point where you can very quickly think of at least 1 or 2 ways to go that are Fun, Positive, Interesting.

If this is a challenge for you, don't worry, It WILL get easier. Maybe start out by looking at conversation after the fact, thinking "what COULD I have done, where COULD I have taken things". Do this for a while until the process of finding 1 or 2 good "Ways to go" in a conversation (good TTP options) can happen very rapidly for you.

2) Now that you are able to quickly find 1 or 2 good TTP options, start to take the conversation there! Ask a question, make a comment, inquire about something, maybe offer an opinion; whatever it takes. Just do what you can so that the TTP shifts in a direction that is fun, positive, interesting."

4.3.5 Summary D8-T32 Remember what was said earlier:

• The overall direction of a conversation comes about due to a successive selection of TTPs (which normally occur at random, or without an overall strategy in mind).

• By manipulating TTPs from moment to moment, you can direct where the overall conversation goes.

By moving things in this way, the conversation becomes more enjoyable for everyone.

You may start to find however, that no matter WHAT you do with some people, they will not go down a path of having a fun, interesting, and positive conversation. You then have to wonder - Is that the sort of person you want to talk to and spend time with? Maybe not.

In general, we are turning you into someone that people LIKE to talk to! You know the type of person that people enjoy talking to, having conversations with, and spending time with? The type of guy that people seek out to spend time with? The more you do these types of exercises, the more YOU can and will become that guy!

4.4 ADVANCED CONVERSATIONAL MANAGEMENT D8-T33 4.4.1 Getting The Conversation To Go Where You Really Want. D8-T33 We want the conversation to be more than just positive; we want it to be really interesting, engaging, fascinating,

etc. After a while, we want to work with topics that get the emotions involved, the imagination moving, and people REALLY interested. We want to focus the aim of our conversational management skills even more.

Building on what we learned in the last section, we can start to direct the conversation into an even BETTER area.

Instead of the more general area of fun, positive and interesting topics, we want things to get even more

interesting. We move forward and want to get a more emotional tone, more excitement, and more involvement of the imagination. (See Figure 4.4.1-1.)

General Conversational From there, So we narrow our