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In the previous chapter, I talked about the emotional and psychological layers of foreplay. If you want to master foreplay, you need to master how to get your female partner excited on an emotional and psychological level before

physical sex.

With that said, this chapter is devoted to physical foreplay.

Setting the mood and environment.

As I've mentioned in an earlier chapter, women look at sex primarily focused on comfort, security, and trust. You are communicating to your partner that you get this when you set the right mood and environment. Setting the right mood as far as physical foreplay is concerned is all about setting the right environment.

Make sure that the lighting is right, the temperature is just right, and that physically, the environment is there to calm her down and set her at ease.

Does this mean you can't have hot, sweaty, and monkey sex in a very hot area or out in the rain? Absolutely not. It happens all the time. All I'm saying is that if you want to be the master of foreplay, you may want to play it conventionally and this is the way to do it by taking care of setting the right mood and

environment first. Make her comfortable, and make sure your bedroom and bathroom has all the requisite amenities.

Hygiene.

I don't know why I’m even saying this, but you'd be surprised as to how

uncommon common sense is in this modern day and age. You have to take care of hygiene.

Unless your woman is into five-o-clock shadows and beards, you might want to shave. You might want to take a shower first and smell pleasant. You might want to be clean and not have any dirt marks over you. You might want to cut your nails.

Hygiene is one of the signals you're sending out to your partner. The whole

point of hygiene is to make sure that you're not doing anything or not appearing like something that would get in the way of your partner getting in the right mood. This sets the groundwork for real foreplay.

Play with her breasts.

The breast has actually many different zones. Most guys would just go straight to the nipple and start sucking on it. This is perfectly understandable, but the breast actually has many different zones, and you need to play the zones.

You need to go through the steps to play the zones in sequence.

Start with the sides of the breast and then work your way to the front massage the sides of the nipples. At this point, you can do many different things. You can lick the nipple and around the areola. This has nerve endings that are quite sensitive. However, those nerve endings really build-up in sensitivity when you massage the sides of the breast first. Remember, when it comes to tit play, sequence is everything.

Also, you might want to play it like a Jedi master and breathe on them a little bit, blow on them, tickle them with the tip of your tongue. Also, make eye contact when you are doing breast play. It shows her that you treasure her, that you prize her, and this is all about you and her.

Kissing.

When you kiss a woman, you have to build it up properly. You have to first start with the edges of the lips, and you might want to suck the edges of her lips into yours. This expresses your excitement in wanting her, but you don't want to overdo it and vacuum her lips into your mouth.

Depending on how heated she is, maybe this is what exactly needs to happen, but you have to play it by ear. If you're just starting it out, you need to build it up softly, but once you are already fucking her, it's perfectly okay to just suck her face in because the intensity is already there. If you're just beginning, you might want to dial it down.

With kissing, start at the edges of the lips. You might want to softly bite down and then work your tongue into her mouth. First, touch the tip of her tongue and then as things heat it up, explore the rest of her tongue and a little bit of inside of her mouth.

The whole point of French kissing is to show passion and intensity. You're basically penetrating her mouth with your tongue.

You cannot just jam your tongue into her. Again, this would be perfectly

acceptable if you're already penetrating her down below. That's always a good move when you have her in doggie style. She might feel isolated if you're just minding your own business behind her. I hope you see the point.

Biting and nibbling.

The back of the ear is very sensitive. Also, when you have a tongue in your ear, it's very sensitive so use this to your advantage. Breath into her ear and lick at the same time. Nibble at her earlobes. Nibble at the backside of her neck near her ear and then gently bite.

We're not talking about vampire bites. You gently bite meaning cushion your bite with your tongue or your lips enough to make her feel the pressure but not enough to leave her a mark.

A little spanking.

Spanking is great when the woman assumes a position on top of you during foreplay. You might want to spank her a little bit on her butt. Some guys screw up and slap the back of her thigh. That's painful especially is she has her pants off. So the whole point of spanking is again to send a physical message that you desire and want her and physically signal that you're going to be penetrating soon.

Hair pulling.

Some women like to have their head yanked back and like sex to be very physical and forceful. They like to be taken. However, you cannot assume that all women are like this so you need to gently pull her hair back. If you detect any sort of resistance, you need to let go. You don't want to kill the mood with a bad move or misjudgment on your part.

So if you're going to do a little bit of hair pulling, make sure it's gentle and you escalate it slowly because you might be with a girl who is very big on hair pulling, likes a tongue jammed down her throat, a little bit of rough spanking, and just basically feeling like she's being taken.

However, in all likelihood, you are probably with a woman who wants

something much less than that so let her lead the way. You can suggest through gently hair pulling and slight escalation. If she resists, then that's your cue to let go.

Pro tip: grab the hair at the base of the skull, which puts less pressure on each individual hair strand and makes it much more pleasurable for her in general.

Fingering.

Guys really drop the ball when it comes to inserting their fingers up a woman's vagina. Fingering is an art form. You can't just jam your finger up there. You're not doing a gynecological exam and you’re not her OB-Gyn.

You have to first massage the area. We're talking of course about clitoral stimulation. At the top of the vaginal opening is this little hooded part called the clitoris. It's kind of like there's a hood of flesh and when you pull it back, there's a little button. You might want to gently rub it with your thumb. The keyword here is gently.

When you notice some changes in her behavior like she puts her hand on top of your hand and pushes your hand to move it faster, that's your cue. Rub her clitoris faster and harder but don't over do it. You don't want to rub it raw.

Again, she's not a guy. Guys stimulate themselves by just simply moving faster and increasing intensity. Women don't work that way.

The next step is then to rub your thumb and index finger around the sides of her vaginal lips and then slowly work your way one finger at a time into her

vagina.

CAUTION: Make sure that her pussy is wet, and literally glistening with moisture. If it’s not, then your fingers will actually hurt her. Imagine sandpaper on your penis. That’s the feeling. So you have to make sure that she is turned on enough and wet enough for this step.

Guys think that as long they just have two fingers inside a woman's pussy, they're doing a good job. I'm sorry to say, but you're not doing the job right if you think you're doing okay just by having your fingers up her. It doesn't that work way. You have to explore the space.

When you have your index finger in her, point up and then try to point back towards your body, you would see that there's an area that appears to have ridges and feels like the outside of a walnut.

This is the G-spot. The G-spot is never the same with the same woman and definitely among different women. It's your job to look for it, and you will notice that you've found it based on how much she moans, how much she moves around, and how she bucks against your hand.

If you continue that motion of making a “come here” sign with your finger(s) against the G-spot, you can induce a G-spot orgasm, which is a form of a

vaginal orgasm. It requires a good amount of speed and intensity for most women.