A somewhat deep and esoteric subject, especially to throw you into raw, but I’ll do my best as this is an area many people are interested in but unclear about. When a portion of Spirit leaves the Father to journey into the three lower worlds (physical, astral, causal) of mind and matter below the Great Void it does so as a large Group Soul. This Group Soul, once it reaches the top of the causal plane divides into 13 parts, each part reflecting a different aspect of the nature of the reality and so representing a different way of experiencing that reality. These 13 parts then each divide into two, one female part and one male part (or, more accurately, one part to reflect the female principle and one part to reflect the male principle). That makes a total of 26 parts. One soul sub-group (i.e. one male-female pair) remains in the causal world, sometimes journeying as low as the astral but never into the physical25. The remaining 24 parts (which together form the 12 male-female sub-groups) then journey into physical incarnation.
Now, each Group Soul is learning one, and only one, overall lesson; usually this is something of huge scope or wide application such as “the joy of service” or “acting strongly, independently and originally”. And every single individual soul – which originally came from that
Group Soul and so will eventually rejoin it – is also learning that one single Great Lesson. It is that lesson which will determine the overall direction of all his incarnations, the direction in which all his lifetimes are taking him, the deepest lesson behind all his experience in all his
lifetimes. However each male-female sub-group will learn that lesson in a different way, from a different angle. And the male part of the sub-
24 In this section, in deference to common usage, I use the popular terminology rather than the
technically accurate terminology used everywhere else in this book. If you want to be technical about it then in this section read “Spirit” for “Soul” e.g. Group Spirit instead of Group Soul, spiritmate instead of soulmate, etc.
25 This is because the 13th aspect of the nature of the reality does not exist within the physical world. It
represents the union into one of the other 12 aspects. Also, this 13th part often does not separate into
group will do so in a yang, male way whilst the female part of the sub- group will do so in a yin, female way. Thus, when all the individual souls come together and reform the Group Soul, that Group Soul will have understood its great lesson from each and every perspective possible within the created reality.
Now, if you are male the female principle of your individual subgroup will be your twin flame (if you are female, it will be the male principle of your subgroup). The person who embodies this individual soul will be the person with whom it is possible for you to feel closest. And you will both understand each other totally and agree with each other on practically everything. This is because you’re both learning the same lesson (Group Soul) in the same way (sub-group) just from a different perspective (male or female). Your twin flame is the incarnated entity whose nature is closest to your own, whose vibration is most like yours and so with whom it is possible to merge most totally. This is because, in all honesty, that which stops you merging totally with other people is that there will be aspects of their being, of who and what they are, that you, on a deep level, do not agree with. That you don’t like, don’t respect and can’t see the point of. This is because you are two different people with different values, different hopes and different approaches. Hence what she is does not fit in perfectly with what you are. And ultimately this is because you are both learning a different Great Lesson in a different way. With your twin flame the situation is different. She is like a reflection of what you are and you are like a reflection of what she is. Everything which you value, everything which you respect, all the ways of doing things which you have decided are best, all of these will be embodied in your twin flame. It is almost as if you are the same person, just in different bodies and so more male or more female.
A soulmate is a person whose soul comes from the same soul
group as your own. You will both be learning the same Great Lesson, but in a different way. Nevertheless, there will be a great feeling of closeness and mutual respect between soulmates, as well as almost instantaneous affinity. Soulmates, unlike twin flames, can be of either sex. To be exact, usually of the 24 individual souls within the physical incarnation, 12 of them will be of the opposite sex to you and 11 will be the same sex as you. Whilst sex or a relationship with a soulmate will not be as total or as harmonious as sex (or a relationship) with your twin flame, it will still be very, very total and harmonious. You will both understand and respect each other and appreciate each other’s reasons for doing whatever you each decide to do. And the relationship will be deeper than any other that you have had because it will have the potential to be deeper as there will be a much greater similarity between what both of you are than will have been the case with your other involvements.
It is rare however for all the individual souls from one soul group to be in physical incarnation at the same time and it is rarer still for the ones within physical incarnation to be embodied on the same planet. That having been said, it’s not unusual for 4 or 5 soulmates all to be incarnated on one planet at the same time. Just don’t expect to meet all 24! Further it is possible, but rare, for one individual soul to leave one soul group and remain separate or join another soul group. So you see, you really are free to choose your own path! Changing soul groups usually happens only when there is a strong connection between the lesson of your original soul group and the lesson of the soul group to which you change. One of the ways in which the actual change from one soul group to another can occur is through a deep love between two partners combined with profound sex. However, such a relationship is unlikely to be the most harmonious at least initially (and for initially here read “many years at least”) because you will both feel a very deep
closeness to the other and will greatly respect a lot of what the other is but at the same time you will both be very aware of some very great differences between the two of you and what you each value, respect, strive for, etc. and also you’ll be aware (though more subconsciously than consciously) that if you proceed with the relationship, taking it deeper, then the “threat” you feel towards your presence in your particular soul group could well become a reality. However, in such instances, once the decision has been made and you are both part of the same soul group then such inharmonies will simply disappear.
Now that the necessary background knowledge has been covered we can turn the question of real interest (for most people) in this area: how do you go about meeting your soulmate? The first thing to realize is that nothing in this life happens by chance or coincidence, (though it may well seem that way to the non-mystic) and that everything in life has a reason and a cause behind it. The second thing to realize is that, if you know how, you can control and determine those reasons and causes, thereby determining the effects – that which happens in your life. And the third thing to realize is that opposites do not attract. Like draws unto like and each person draws unto himself others whose natures correspond to his own. Often more accurately this translates into: the part of your nature which is dominant at a particular time draws unto you another, the predominant part of whose nature at that time corresponds to yours. Hence two people may meet for no reason other than that they are both feeling horny that night. Such liaisons are usually short-lived unless the ego personality and emotional attachment gets in the way. And yet even in such instances you will know at a deep level of certainty the truth about the relationship and the limits as to what you can feel for each other
and offer each other. The difficult thing is being honest enough to admit it to yourself.
So, the basic insight is that you draw your partner unto you by the nature of who you are, where “who you are” means the aspect of yourself that you focus most strongly upon and so give the most energy and force to. Now, the more developed that you become the less divisions you will have within yourself and the more like unto your core, your deep soul, will you become. Rather than being a person with many different aspects pulling in many different directions you will become a unified whole in which all the aspects unite and flow in the same direction. Usually, most souls within one soul group will develop in this way in time with one another (give or take a few hundred years).
As this process of development continues there will come a time when the force of your soul is greater within your being than the force of your ego personality. At this point, your partner will be drawn unto you by your soul, rather than by your ego personality. This will result in your drawing a part of your soul (your Group Soul) unto you. In other words one (or more) of your soulmates (except your twin flame) will enter your life. You will be able to identify your soulmates by the feeling of deep and permanent closeness which will exist between the two of you and the automatic understanding that you will both have of each other and each other’s natures. So, to repeat, in order for your soulmates to enter your life you need to transcend the ego personality and be true to your soul’s purpose, become it. Or in other words, live your destiny.
The situation regarding your twin flame is more demanding. Essentially the criteria are the same: become your soul more than your ego personality, and embody that which you are here to learn on the deepest level. However once you meet your twin flame, that’s it you won’t run around within the reality trying to understand things, get places, do things or grow. You’ll feel complete and at peace and so won’t have any reason to do any of these things. Therefore it is
somewhat undesirable from your Group Soul’s point of view if you meet your twin flame without first having learnt all that you have to learn about your aspect of the lesson. And so the criteria to meet your twin flame is: get to the stage where you have learnt all that you have to learn about your aspect of the Great Lesson. In practice what this amounts to is being complete within yourself and completely self-sufficient, neither needing nor desiring of anything external. You see, your deepest driving force, in this lifetime and every other, has been to fully and completely learn your aspect of the Great Lesson. Once you’ve done that you’ll be completely complete within yourself and so will have no external desire
or need, not even that of meeting your twin flame26. And yet it is precisely at this point that your twin flame will enter your life. It is all somewhat paradoxical, not to mention frustrating and annoying to many. Nevertheless, there are solid reasons as to why it all works in this way.
You see, when you do meet your twin flame you will both be so aligned to each other that you whole relationship will be completely harmonious and absolutely total. There will be no “holding back”
anywhere because you will totally love, respect and agree with everything that she is, and she will totally, love, respect and agree with everything that you are. Incidentally, this will also make the sex fantastic as you’ll be able to go deeper than you’ve ever been and merge more totally than you ever have before with anyone else. The thing to understand though is that you are both so aligned to each other not so much because you both came from the same sub-group of the same Group Soul but rather because you have both done a lot of work on yourselves to align yourselves to the same thing, viz.: the same sub-group of the same Group Soul. (Though you may not have looked at your path from this perspective before).
In relation to this there is one common error, prevalent in some circles, which must be corrected here. Aligning yourself to your sub- group of the Group Soul does not mean that you become androgynous in any way, shape or form whatsoever. All it means is that you understand the “opposite” aspect of your sub-group lesson. i.e. the yin to your yang. This is necessary because to fully understand the yang of anything you also have to understand the yin of that thing. For example, you cannot understand “no-mind” fully unless you also understand “mind”. But what we’re dealing with here is states of consciousness and yang leads to yin just as yin leads to yang. Yang is also contained within yin, just as yin is contained within yang.
Dg. IV-03: Tai Chi – The grand ultimate
So you can understand the yin to your yang simply by going deep within your own yang itself. The point is that you are yang, not yin nor the union of yin and yang. For there to be any point to your meeting your twin flame there would have to be something for each of you to offer the other. And that something is the opposite polarity of each other. If you are androgynous, neutral, there would be no polarities to attract each other, no dance to be danced. What is required of you is to become complete in what you are, not to become complete in what you are not. And as you can see from the yin-yang symbol, the yang does, in a certain
26 Of course, you can get there the quick way by focussing on attaining a state of complete detachment
in your meditation. This insight should help you to understand the nature of karma in a deeper, more esoteric way.
sense, have some yin within it – and needs this yin to be complete within itself – but it is most definitely firmly yang in nature. In fact, the
classical yin / yang symbol is represented as it normally is in order to make a metaphorical / philosophical point (roughly that which has just been explained above). In actual reality there is no white dot in the black tadpole or black dot in the white tadpole. For you see, only by being definitely yang in this way is it able to complement the yin and dance with it (or vice versa). And how could it possibly be imagined that sex would ever be any fun with an androgene anyway?!
Hence, to be blunt, if you are looking for your twin flame to make you happy, to make you feel good about yourself, to make you complete or to give you a sense of comfort and security then you won’t find him (or her). And if you are in a relationship and demanding things from the relationship or from your partner then neither is your partner your twin flame nor will your twin flame come into your life until you’ve developed more. You demand from others only that which you yourself lack or are unsure of and from such a position of lack your twin flame will never enter your life. Nothing ever accrues to deficiency. It is from a position of abundance and completeness that you will attract your twin flame – and that your twin flame will attract you – and so you will both seek to give as you both overflow rather than both demanding and seeing what you can take from the other because you both lack and are deficient within yourselves. Or to put it perhaps more accurately, giving and taking will be the same thing for you will both in a very real way be the same thing and so you will feel no distinction as to who is giving and who is receiving or indeed between giving and receiving themselves. It will all simply be.
Finally, it is worth nothing that because of how it all works you won’t meet your twin flame until you’re pretty much ready and able to leave the physical reality (or to remain within it only because you choose to do so). This is because, essentially what is necessary to meet your twin flame is to learn everything about your great lesson that you can within the physical dimension of reality. Hence the completeness and unity of being that is necessary to meet your twin flame. So, if you want to meet your twin flame the thing to do is to focus on mastering yourself and so also (thereby) mastering the physical reality. Running around looking for your twin flame won’t get you anywhere and you’ll just waste time
running in circles. And so, as usual, the fastest and surest way to external happiness, success and good things is internal progress. So meditate, meditate, meditate and live life as a meditation.