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[22] Lovers ' Quarrels

27 Now, a woman who has grown fond of a man cannot bear it if he utters the name of a co-wife or casually refers to her or accidentally calls the woman by the other woman's name,* or if the man plays her false. 28 Then there is a great quarrel, with weeping, anguish, tossing hair, slaps, falling from the bed or chair onto the ground, tearing off garlands and jewellery, and sleeping on the floor. 29When she does this, he remains calm in his own mind and heart and wins her over with appropriate words of conciliation or by falling at her feet, and he lifts her back onto the bed. 30 She answers his words by getting even angrier, grabbing his hair and pulling his face up, kicking him once, twice, three times, on his arms, head, chest, or back. Then she goes to the door and sits down there and bursts into tears. 31 Dattaka says, 'But even if she is very angry indeed, she does not actually go beyond the door, because then she would be at fault.' For when she has been properly won over, still at that spot, she wishes for recon­

ciliation; and even when she has been reconciled, she pummels him, as it were, with harsh words, but she wants to make love with her reconciled lover, and the man embraces her. 32 When, however, a woman who lives in her own house has quarrelled for some reason, she approaches the man with the same sorts of actions. 33 Then the man engages libertines, panders, and clowns to assuage her anger, and they are the ones who win her over, and the ones with whom she goes to his house, and there she stays. Those are the lovers' quarrels.

34 And there are verses about this:

The lover who employs in this way

the sixty-four arts of love that Babhravya taught is successful with the best women.

35 Even if he can talk about other sciences,

27 He plays her false by going to the house of a co-wife, or sending betel and so forth to that woman, or making love with her; the woman who is fond of him cannot bear it if the man is unfaithful.

28 Sleeping on the floor means that she is not sleeping with him.

29 He does not reveal any emotional disturbance.

35 Their learning and conversations are about the three aims of human life.

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he is not very well respected in conversations in the assembly of learned men.

2.10.36-39

36 But if he is adorned with the sixty-four arts of love, even if he lacks other sorts of knowledge,

he penetrates to the very top place

in conversations in the society of men and women.

37 Wise men delight in it,

even the dregs of society delight in it highly, and the troupes of courtesans de luxe delight in it;

who does not delight in this Source of Delight?

38 Scholars, in their texts, say that this Source of Delight is loved by women and brings fortune, success, and luck in love.

39 Virgins, other men's wives, and courtesans de luxe

look with warm feelings and respect

on the man who is skilled in the sixty-four arts of love.

36 These conversations are about the Kamasutra.

37 Wise men, who know the three aims of human life, rejoice in this triad because it is a means of protecting women. The dregs of society delight in it because it explains the way things actually are for them; the cour­

tesans de luxe, because that is how they make their living. People call the Kamasutra by this name because it gives them delight.*

38 Women love it because it brings joy to them, especially. It brings for­

tune, because all householders use it; success, because, like magic, it gives power over people; and luck in love, because it makes both a woman and a man lucky in love.

39 Second-hand women are subsumed under other men's wives.* He might have said 'courtesan' instead of 'courtesan de luxe', but he wanted to indicate that she is a woman skilled in the sixty-four arts of love.

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[23] Courting the Girl

1 In a woman who is of the same class, who has not been with another man before, and who has been taken in accordance with the texts, a man finds religion, power, sons, connections, the growth of his faction, and straightforward sexual pleasure.* 2 Therefore he should cultivate a virgin of noble stock whose mother and father are living and who is at least three years younger than he. She should come of a family that is respectable, wealthy, well connected, and rich in rela­

tives who get along well with one another. Her mother and father should come from powerful factions. She should have beauty, good character, and lucky marks on her body, and her teeth, nails, ears, hair, eyes, and breasts should be neither insufficient nor excessive, and undamaged. She should not be sickly by nature. He himself should have precisely these qualities, and Vedic learning, too. 3 Ghotaka­

mukha says, 'A man should regard himself as fulfilled when he has taken such a woman, and his peers cannot fault him for courting her.' 4 His father and mother and relatives help him court her, as do friends who are connected with both sides* and who confirm his words. 5 They allude to her other suitors' faults, both those apparent now and those to come, and reveal the man's good qualities, both of his family and of his personal manliness, qualities that will increase the parents' inclination to give him the girl, and especially those qualities, both present and future, that the girl's mother likes. 6 0ne of these friends dresses up as a fortune-teller and describes the man's future good luck and prosperity by interpreting the flights of birds, omens, the influence of the planets according to their positions in the zodiac, and the lucky marks on his body.* ' Others drive the girl's

4 The two sides are those of the mother and the father.

7 The other friends, also dressed as fortune-tellers, say, 'They want to give him the rich, beautiful, and highly esteemed daughter of this

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