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1 The man is called a 'hare', 'bull', or 'stallion', according to the size of his sexual organ; a woman, however, is called a 'doe', 'mare', or 'elephant cow'. 2 And so there are three equal couplings, between sexual partners of similar size, 3 and six unequal ones, between sexual
1 The sexual organ is called the 'sign' (lingam), because it is the sign of femaleness and so forth. From texts and from experience it is known that the male organ is convex and the female organ concave. If the man's penis is small, like a hare's, he is called a 'hare'; if medium, a 'bull'; if large, a 'stallion'. The word 'however' indicates that women are distinct; they have a different nomenclature because they have a differ
ent sexual organ. Knowing this, scholars called them 'doe' and so forth instead of' female hare' and so forth. And they spoke of the distinguishing marks in this way:
The size of the penis is divided
into the three categories of 'hare' and so forth, according to the length, in graduated order:
six, nine, and twelve [fingers].*
Its circumference should measure equal to its length.
But some say, 'There is no fixed rule about the circumference.'
Women are divided in the same way in common parlance:
'does' and so forth, just like 'hares' and so forth, with regard to both length and circumference.
2 The three equal couplings, characterized by the equal size of the open
ing and the inserted organ, are between a 'hare' and 'doe', 'bull' and 'mare', and 'stallion' and 'elephant cow'.
3 These are the six unequal couplings: The harder way (when the penis, because of its greater size, can enter the opening only with difficulty) is
partners of dissimilar size. Among the unequal ones, when the man is larger there are two couplings with the two sexual partners immediately smaller than him and one, when he is largest, with the smallest woman. But in the opposite case, in a coupling when the man is smaller, there are two sorts of couplings with the two women immediately larger than him and one, when he is smallest, with the largest woman. Among these, the equal couplings are best, the largest and the smallest are worst, and the rest are intermediate.* 4 Even in the medium ones, it is better for the man to be larger than the woman.* Thus there are nine sorts of couplings according to size.
5 A man has dull sexual energy if, at the time of making love, his enthusiasm is indifferent, his virility small, and he cannot bear to be wounded, 6 and a man has average or fierce sexual energy in the
with the two women immediately beneath the man ( 1 . 'bull' with 'doe';
2. 'stallion' with 'mare'), and with the woman farthest beneath him (3.
'stallion' with 'doe'). The easier way (when the penis, because of its smaller size, works inside the opening, but cannot fill it fully) is with the two women immediately above him (4. 'hare' with 'mare'; 5 'bull' with 'elephant cow') and with the woman farthest above him (6. 'hare' with 'elephant cow').
4 In the largest coupling, a woman's itch is most satisfactorily relieved;
she accommodates the large penis inside her by assuming a position such as the 'wide open' [2.6.7 If.], stretching her vagina. But in the smallest coupling, even when she contracts her vagina by assuming a position such as the 'cup' [2.6. 13 If.], there is no relief for her. V will speak later about ways of changing the size of the sexual organ, in which the woman stretches hers by the use of her arms and shoulders [2.6.7], and the man uses devices to increase his [7. 1-2]. But it is said:
But if a lover has a small penis, no matter how long the man works,
women, they say, do not grow very fond of him, because he does not relieve their itch.
And the saying is right.
5 He might be wounded when she bites or scratches or slaps him.
6 The two opposite circumstances are, first, when he has average sexual energy (his enthusiasm is average, his virility average, and he can bear to be somewhat wounded) and, secondly, when he has fierce sexual energy (his enthusiasm is very great and he can bear, to the extreme, serious wounds).
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opposite circumstances. The same goes for the woman. 7 And so, just as with size, so with temperament, too, there are nine sorts of couplings.
8 And similarly, with respect to endurance, men are quick, average, and long-lasting. 9But there is an argument about women in this matter.
10 Auddalaki says:* 'A woman does not reach a climax as a man does.
1 1 But she has an itch, which the man, during sex, scratches continu
ally. 12 And when this scratching is combined, in addition, with the sensual pleasure of erotic arousal, it produces a different feeling,*
and this is what she thinks of as sensual pleasure. 13 Someone might
10 A man experiences sensual pleasure when he ejaculates, but a woman does not have that kind of sensual pleasure, because she does not have semen. Why, then, does she make love with the man? To answer this, he says the next passage.
1 1 There is a verse about this:
Tiny worms, born of menstrual blood,
some with mild powers, some average, some terrible, cause an itch in the abodes of erotic love,
according to their strength.
The itch is scratched continually when the penis goes on moving without interruption.*
12 Scratching the itch is just like scratching an ear with a twig. The differ
ent feeling is a different sensual pleasure, caused by the scratching of the itch combined with kissing and so forth. She thinks, 'What sensual pleasure I feel!' But the scratching of the itch is not a true perception of sensual pleasure, and the difference is that this experience bears no fruit, because she has no seed. And so the two sexes are not alike in the matter of their form or their timing, and therefore there are not nine couplings with respect to endurance and climax.
13 Since the workings of someone's mind are not accessible to someone else's sense perceptions and cannot be recognized by an eyewitness, what man can know a woman's different feeling? The word 'and' indi
cates, 'a woman's ecstasy, too'. When a woman acts the part of a man and produces her own ecstasy by her own movements, how can he know what her ecstasy is in its very essence, since he cannot perceive this sensually? And no one can ask, 'Does your sensual pleasure come from an ejaculation, like ours, or from something else?' Since the woman cannot sensually perceive the sensual pleasure of ejaculation, and the
ask, "But since no one can know a man's ecstasy, and since n o one can be asked, 'What sort of sensual pleasure do you feel?' 14 how can this be known?" The answer would be: Because when a man reaches a climax, he stops of his own accord and pays no attention to the woman; a woman, however, is not like that.'
Is This objection might be raised about that argument: Women love the man whose sexual energy lasts for a long time, but they resent a man whose sexual energy ends quickly, because he stops before they
man cannot sensually perceive a different form of sensual pleasure, it is not possible for one to ask the other about this. Even if someone could speak of it, the other would have no experience through which to understand the perception. To answer this doubt, Auddalaki describes, in the next passage, a means by which one person can know another's sensual pleasure.
" When a man has ejaculated he has accomplished what he set out to do and stops moving, even if she is still working quite hard at it. And if a woman experienced the sensual pleasure of ejaculation like a man, she would then loosen his penis from her and stop. But this does not hap
pen. When the man stops, she wants another man. For sometimes when a woman has made love with one man she may make love with other men who happen to be there. And so it is said:
A fire is never sated by logs,
nor the ocean by the rivers that flow into it;
death cannot be sated by all the creatures in the world, nor a fair-eyed woman by men.
Therefore, since a woman does not stop of her own accord, she does not reach a sensual pleasure of ejaculation like a man's sensual pleasure just before ejaculation.
1s The man whose sexual energy lasts for a long time thrusts inside the woman for a long time before he reaches the sensual pleasure of ejacula
tion and stops. With him, women become affectionate, just as they become wet.* So the love of the women shows that they have achieved their sensual pleasure, and their hatred shows that they are unhappy because they have not achieved their sensual pleasure. For even men whose sexual energy lasts for a long time achieve sensual pleasure and expe_rience love if the woman plays the man's part and works for a long time before she stops. But if she stops suddenly, the men lose their pas
sion for her, since they are unhappy because they have not achieved their sexual pleasure. The fact that women experience love for long-lasting men shows that, like men, they know the sensual pleasure of ejaculation.
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2 . 1 . 1 6--18 reach a climax at the conclusion. And all of that is a sign that they either do reach a climax, with the long-lasting man, or do not, with the quick man.16 'Not so. For the scratching of an itch also feels good for a long time.
That is evident. And because of this ambiguity, the preference that women have for long-lasting men is no sign of a climax.
17 A man scratches a woman's itch when they make love;
and when that is enhanced by erotic arousal it is called sensual pleasure.'
18The followers ofBabhravya say: 'A young woman reaches a climax
16 Because of this ambiguity-'Has she just had her itch scratched or achieved her climax?' -the resentment that women have for quick men is no sign that women do or do not achieve the sensual pleasure of ejaculation.
17 He expresses this opinion by quoting a verse from the 'Song of Auddalaki'.
18 Both he and she experience the sensual pleasure of ejaculation, but hers takes place from the very beginning, from the moment when he pene
trates her with his penis, and goes on continually, without any interrup
tion. For as the man moves inside her, she gradually gets wet; water flows from her as it flows from a broken pot. This is evident from eyewitnesses. And so she ejaculates from the very start, like a man. But he has his climax only at the end, when he emits his semen. And so, since the timing of the two of them is different, there are not nine couplings with regard to endurance, but there are nine according to climax, because of the similarity in the sensual pleasure of ejaculation.
For the physician Charaka says that 'satisfaction and keeping the semen in her womb are among the signs that a woman has just become pregnant', and by satisfaction he means climax. That is, conception is not possible without the ejaculation of semen. Now, some people say, 'She emits a menstrual discharge, not semen. For it is said:
When a man and women mingle their bodies together mutually and their hearts are heated by the flame of desire,
the embryo is churned out of the mixture of semen and menstrual blood,
like fire by the twirling of the two fire sticks.'
But if the woman had no semen, how could she conceive? For a woman can be impregnated by making love with another woman just as she can by making love with a man. As Sushruta says: