Thuja often feels very tired of being on the earth plane because every-thing is such an effort here and also because he doesn’t cope well with anyevery-thing.
He doesn’t really understand how anything works in this dimension and didn’t really want to be here in the first place. He often has a stronger connection to other realities and longs to go back to dimensions where he can feel more at home and at ease.
THUJA OCCIDENTALIS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Thujas are often troubled beings who don’t have an easy time in relation-ships with other people. Because Thuja feels fragile, oversensitive and is easily offended, he prefers to either be alone, or around mild mannered people who are careful about what they say or do to him.
Thuja likes to be in control, even though he often has a very hard time making decisions. He doesn’t always cope well with tasks that need to be com-pleted in a timely manner, especially if he is interrupted, and he may need help coping, prioritizing and managing his time. However, the help has to be offered in a very gentle way, not to aggravate his obstinate and somewhat quarrelsome nature. Thuja can be extremely hard to please, because everything has to be exactly so, and he can be quite a challenge to live with.
Change, transitions and surprises are often hard for Thuja to deal with.
He always feels better if he knows ahead of time what is going to happen. He enjoys stability, predictability and familiar routines and surroundings, since familiarity makes him feel safe.
I had one case with a Thuja child who was experiencing difficulties after his parents went through divorce. He had a very hard time with the transition and started digging his heels in. He became obsessive about little things, ex-tremely stubborn and controlling. Things had to be done in just the right way, or he would have a full blown temper tantrum, screaming with frustration.
Little things would aggravate him. He could take a bite of his sandwich, but if the tomato fell out, the sandwich would be ruined, and he would throw it across the table and have a fit. He also had a very hard time making decisions. He was picky about food, and he knew what he didn’t want to eat, but he wasn’t able to decide what he did want to eat. He just didn’t seem to be able to think clearly.
His memory for words also started deteriorating. He would either ramble away a mile a minute, or he would talk so slowly that you had to keep waiting for the next word. He had a hard time expressing his thoughts and became hypersensitive to any kind of criticism. He couldn’t concentrate on even simple tasks, and needed 20 minutes just to get his shoes on in the morning. At school he often didn’t get recess. By the time he was ready to go out, the others were coming back in again. He also became extremely anxious about trying anything new, and at the same time he was so bored he couldn’t stand being alive. He was very difficult to live with, feeling offended about everything and having a very low tolerance for the normal frustrations of life.
His parents realized that a Thuja child has to be treated in a different way than other children. They learned that life became easier for everyone if he was allowed to be in control of anything that didn’t affect others, like what he would like to wear or eat, or when he would like to eat, or when he wanted to do his homework, or how he wanted his hair, or even when he wanted to go to bed.
His mom made a deal with him, that he could be up as long as he wanted, as long as he was in his room, not disturbing anyone, and as long as he was able to get up and go to school the next day. Because he couldn’t handle change or surprises well, his parents learned to give him several warnings ahead of time before something was going to happen, and they also learned to give him enough time to get ready so he wouldn’t feel rushed when he needed to go somewhere. Lots of gentle hugs and positive attention made him happier and easier to be around since he didn’t respond well to any kind of punishment. In addition to these adjustments in his environment, an occasional dose of Thuja 10M made a huge difference in his ability to cope with life in general.
Another Thuja client was a traveler who happened to find me between her journeys. One of the first things she told me was that she felt like her body was made from broken glass because her hips, sacrum and joints kept popping, snapping and cracking. The feeling of being made out of glass is one of the symptoms associated with Thuja, but it is rare to actually hear anyone describe themselves that way. She explained that she never felt like she was totally in her body, and sometimes her body felt hollow inside. She often felt uncomfort-able about being a woman, too, because she didn’t like the attention you get from having hips and breasts. Because she never felt really at ease being in this dimension, she became very shy around people and didn’t want anyone to look at her. She had no real sense of self and often felt better being on her own.
When I asked her what she was doing in her life, she told me she had no goals. She never even made any plans; she just traveled around and trusted that she would somehow be in the right place at the right time. She lived her life as if it were a great spiritual journey, full of surprises and challenges that she could learn from.
An interesting thing about this case was her feeling of inner ugliness, and the way she dealt with this issue. A feeling of inner ugliness is common in most women, but the normal way women deal with this issue is to hide their per-ceived ugliness by dying their hair, shaving their legs and dieting, and by enhancing whatever they perceive as beautiful with make up and fancy cloth-ing. However, my Thuja client had a totally different approach. She was hiding her beauty to the best of her ability while exposing her perceived ugliness (she had very hairy legs); so that people would start realizing that there was beauty, even in ugliness. She called herself a contrary and said that her core issue in life was a sense of being an outsider, of not belonging anywhere and of not feeling comfortable in her body, or in this dimension. I gave her Thuja 200c, and she experienced intense depression for a few days. Then her mood lifted, and she started feeling better than she had ever felt before…
The female Thuja client had no interest in any long term relationships.
She was simply too fragile and too confused to want to be closely involved with anyone. Some Thujas, however, do end up in relationships at times, even though they don’t usually have an easy time relating to others. In the movie “A beauti-ful mind,” the main character, who is most likely a Thuja, told his friend that he had found a girl who “contrary to all probability finds me attractive.” He felt so alienated from people in general that it came as a great surprise to him that a beautiful girl actually wanted to be with him, and it was her unselfish love, persistence and patience that made the relationship possible.
Thujas are often loving and sweet as long as their needs are met by someone who is patient, gentle, and considerate, who, preferably, doesn’t expect too much from them in return. They need someone who doesn’t rush them, who can help them cope when they are having difficulties, and at the same time allow them to have it their way as much as possible. A Thuja needs someone in his life who will help make his time in this dimension a little easier for him, someone who can make him feel like he is no longer a stranger here and who can give him a sense that he actually does belong.