You should be compiling a huge array of photographs over a long period of time. You should have literally hundreds of pictures of you to choose from when you’re
selecting appropriate photographs for your online dating profile. By examining yourself in various situations you will be able to accurately assess which poses you look good in, which angles you photograph well in, and what clothes simply do not work for you. When you’re in these situations try and vary your poses. Keep the above to sections in mind on body language and smiling, though! Try to get your photographer to take pictures of you with as many different people as possible, too. At the end of the night you will be bound to like a few pictures that you have taken.
Quick Tip
Warning: remember that everyone is way too critical of their own photographs. This is completely natural to not like your own photographs – what you see in the mirror is not what the camera shows. You have adjusted your whole life to basically conform to what you seen in the mirror but do not despair! Your assessment of yourself is generally wrong. Feel comfortable with the pictures you have taken. Be picky, but don’t be too quick to
dismiss all the pictures you’ve taken.
Again, if you are having troubles with
have chicks complimenting you on your photographs in no time.
Fan
Question
Dear Mr. Lamont,
I definitely understand the significance of having photograph in your profile. However, I do
physical appearance. I seriously am considering just going into the dating pictureless because I do fear that I am deterring people more than attracting. It seems like I am nine times more likely to not receive a random tell
women! Please help!
Stanley *********
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dismiss all the pictures you’ve taken.
Again, if you are having troubles with this, get a friend to help you! Keep this up and you’ll have chicks complimenting you on your photographs in no time.
I definitely understand the significance of having photograph in your profile. However, I do seriously have issues with my physical appearance. I seriously am considering just going into the dating pictureless because I do fear that I am deterring people more than attracting. It seems like I am nine times more likely to not receive a random tell
women! Please help!
Keep this up and you’ll
I definitely understand the significance of having photograph seriously have issues with my physical appearance. I seriously am considering just going into the dating pictureless because I do fear that I am deterring people more than attracting. It seems like I am
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Toronto, CA
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Dear Stanley,
Try to put much more effort into your style. If you are unfit, do something about it! Read Sean’s fitness guide that is included in the bonus section of the package. There is no excuse to not put a picture of yourself on your profile. Often more times than not if you build up a positive image to someone and finally exchange photographs, they will be disappointed. I’m not trying to be mean, but you do not want this effect. If you are smiling, if your body language is sound, if you are portraying that you have a lot going for you, if you convey you are a socialite, and if you have a decent sense of style, you will attract much more attention and increase the possibilities of having someone reply to you. Most people are much too hard on themselves when it comes to assessing their physical appearance. In truth, you cannot have this mindset – the battle to obtain love is an internal, psychological struggle of confidence. If you are wired to think that you are ugly and unattractive, this feeling will transcend on every single level of your interactions. Like I have said many, many times, you need to feel comfortable with who you are. It doesn’t matter if you are physically attractive or not – if you people aren’t willing to put in the effort to get to know you, they are missing out! There are an abundance of men that I have taught who I know for a fact are “ugly ducklings” but that didn’t hold themselves
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back! They are dating many, many attractive women online.
However, if you have tried everything you could and you are still incredibly unhappy with the way you look after you have tried everything in the style guide, then there are
alternatives! Like I said, never should you go without a picture, but you could get somebody on the street to do a sketch of you and post it as your picture! This will generate a lot of interest in your profile and you can real people in with your personality then show those pictures of yourself. I strongly think that anyone should be able to at least be presentable when it comes to pictures but this is an alternative that some people find useful. Also, you can add a picture of you doing something spectacular – perhaps you have pictures from bungee-jumping or sky-diving. Put some pictures of you doing that! This is a chance to show that you are adventurous as well! However, I am going to be quite honest when I say that these photos are not nearly as effective as using a real picture of yourself.
Derek Lamont
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