1.) This profile is well-written. There are no spelling or grammar errors present. The profile has been through a word processor and checked over by a friend to ensure it is correct and concise.
2.) The profile doesn’t overly use caps lock, but when it does, it does it scarcely to only highlight things for emotional effect.
3.) Exclamation marks are properly used. Another reason why this profile is so interesting to read is due to the use of exclamation marks. Spice up your profile a little bit!
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4.) This profile doesn’t describe past, horrible relationships. This person doesn’t whine about past relationships – in fact, this man has said that he’s been with many amazing women. This shows an incredible amount of high confidence and survival and replication value.
5.) The profile doesn’t give away too much information. Although he says he loves to travel, which is a wonderful hobby to have, he does not say specifically where he has been in his life. However, he does describe them to be gorgeous places. This person is keeping the mystery and intrigue alive! If there is one thing mistake that people often dismiss, is that they give away too much useful, juicy
information. Keep it to yourself. Give them a glimpse of some juiciness then hold back! Let them want to know things about you.
6.) This person knows how to have a good time! Or so it seems. In short, this person is staying positive. Not once in this write-up did he say anything negative about his life. In fact, he it seems like he’s having a blast! He also takes pride in the details. Notice his descriptions are memorable. In fact, you can even add more
descriptions if you’d like.
7.) This profile uses both types of disqualifiers. “…Please, if you resemble a
Chihuahua or something, it might not work for us…” This is one of the things that stick out the most in this profile. This is a disqualifier that is used to weed out the losers and create attraction for quality men and woman. No one with high survival
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and replication value will think they are boring and they will prove it to you. Now they are chasing you!
“I adore chatting with girls about love and life and I have a soft spot for girls that are not only gorgeous but have the intelligence to at least carry a fun
conversation.” is an example of a positive disqualifier. You should be using both regular disqualifiers and positive disqualifiers in your profile regularly.
8.) This profile regularly uses some humor to spice up the read. “Travelling is a huge part of my job. I absolutely LOVE to travel (I’m not sure if I stressed that part enough)!” and “Please, if you resemble a Chihuahua or something, it might not work out for us” are both examples of humor. Remember, this person hasn’t directly said “I have a sense of humour.” Instead, this person is showing it through some examples. Remember to add some of this wittiness in your own profile, too!
9.) This profile is neither too long nor too short! Don’t bore your audience with a lifelong story about how you grew up and all the different names of your thirteen brothers and sisters. First of all, you are giving away too much information. Second of all, nobody on this earth cares. They might later on, but does that seem like something someone would want to you message you for? Keep your profile concise. Add bits that will surely spice it up but then stop.
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10.)This person is portraying confidence and the ability to lead. Here’s the key – read the end: “I do understand that I am picky, but I figure – why not? I think I totally deserve someone great, don’t you? =) E-mail me. Let’s talk.”
This person is clearly taking command here! Again, women are attracted to men who aren’t wussies and take the lead.
Quick Tip
So, what does “taking the lead” mean?
As you have read at the end of the last key example, the user takes the lead by not asking for a message, but almost demands it – not rudely, but confidently. In this respect, the user is conveying leadership given this particular situation. It shows he knows exactly what to do and how to do – it shows ambition and a strong grip on life!
Where else can you convey this? Always take the lead in every situation.
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Let’s look at another example.
Girl: So, what do you want to do on our first date?
Guy: Um, I’m not sure. What do you want to do?
Sound familiar? I bet it does. This is one of the worst mistakes you could possibly make as a man. A woman will automatically detect insecurity and a lack of confidence. Never try and seem like you are trying to please her. Always plan ahead. This is how our little make-believe conversation should be done.
Girl: So, what do you want to do on our first date?
Guy: We’re going to go to this great coffee shop near my place that serves the greatest coffee. It’s going to be fun!
See the difference here? Let’s at some more common examples!
Girl: Hey, what are you going to order?
Loser Guy: Um, I don’t know…
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No onions.
Are you going to sound like the Loser Guy or the Successful Guy? It’s up to you.
Girl: Oh, no! I totally ruined my mom’s birthday cake. What should I do?!
Loser Guy: Oh, God…Let me think…I’m not sure…
Successful Guy: Let’s go to the store and just buy one.
I think you get the picture by now. This type of personality sometimes does not come naturally. However, the practice you get at this, the more confident you will be and trust me when I say it makes a huge difference when it comes to attracting beautiful women.
Fan
Question
Dear Derek,
I just bought your book
wait to get started soon! I know you encourage individuality in our profiles, but could you generally give me the formula of exactly what to write in your “about me”/profile content page? And this online dating site tha
has a section on what I would do on our first date. What do you think would be the most appropriate thing to put here?
Mark ******* Vancouver, BC
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Dear Mark!
I’m glad you have been enjoying the read. The profile content page is a way to express
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I just bought your book and read it through once. I can’t wait to get started soon! I know you encourage individuality in our profiles, but could you generally give me the formula of exactly what to write in your “about me”/profile content page? And this online dating site that I have signed up for has a section on what I would do on our first date. What do you think would be the most appropriate thing to put here?
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I’m glad you have been enjoying the read. The profile content page is a way to express and read it through once. I can’t wait to get started soon! I know you encourage individuality in our profiles, but could you generally give me the formula of exactly what to write in your “about me”/profile content
t I have signed up for has a section on what I would do on our first date. What do you think would be the most appropriate thing to put here?
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who you are – briefly. That means, mention the interesting thing in your life! Talk about your passions and what you love doing – describe it in exquisite and poetic detail (but do not make it cheesy). Briefly tell them what you do for a living but try not to say too much on the topic – people don’t want to hear about work or anything that reminds them of it.
If you have great pictures, there is absolutely no need to describe yourself here. It’s a waste of space. Do not talk about your family or where you grew up. Just look at some profiles you see on the internet – what bores you to death? What makes you want to leave it? It’s virtually the same as everybody! This is a pointer that you definitely need to take to heart. I myself and frustrated with lengthy write-ups that just bore me to death. I immediately click “back” on my browser and move on as fast as I can to the next possible single that I find interesting in my search results.
Talk about music! Talk about your love for painting, even. There are so many interesting things to show the world.
The keys here are portraying humor and confidence through writing. You should always add the disqualifiers in your profile and keep a fair bit of mystery.
So, if I had to sum it up in an imaginary timeline, it would look something like this!
1.) Opening humorous line that portrays confidence. Please refer back to the key
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2.) Interests (hobbies) described with passion. Add some humor in this as well.
Throw in a brief mention of your career.
3.) Disqualifiers. This is where the attraction begins.
4.) Positive Disqualifiers. More attraction is being built…
5.) Close With Confidence. Add some more humor to it as well!
If I could summarize the profile “about me”/interests section that would have been it.
Now, for the websites that ask what you would do on your first date (which many of them do), just keep it real! Don’t go off describing a dream date – that’s just psychotic. Keep it simple and down to earth. Coffee at a nice coffee shop, perhaps? A walk through a popular shopping mall? No matter what it is, put a positive spin on it…
“…it will be fun!” “…can’t wait!”
“…this date would totally be a great way to get to know each other!” “…this is far from my dream date, but for a first date – it’s perfect.”
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the winning formula. Don’t deviate too far as this is proven to work! Good luck with your online dating adventures!
Derek Lamont
Author of The Online Game
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